Have you ever been part of the open relationship?

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I will appreciate you if you please write pros and cons. Thanks

TheSpaceGnome · Accepted Answer

No, because the cons of polyamory are bad enough that the pros aren't worth it.

Pros:
1. If one parter leaves or dies, I'd have others and wouldn't be alone.
2. I could suck on boobs while getting blown.
3. More income in the household.

Cons:
1. No time to do hobbies because tending to 2 or more women.
2. Dealing with jealousy / envy.
3. Not being comfortable with it sexuallu unless a double standard exists (ie multiple women are ok, but I can be the only guy because I'm not putting my dick in a woman who had some other guy's dick in her).
4. Lack of emotional intimacy / A weaker mental connection.
5. The feeling of being replaceable / worthless / unloved
6. Impractical odds at finding more than 1 mentally compatible partner hobby wise (I'm struggling to find even 1 in my age group that lives in the US and isn't taken already.
7. Even worse odds of them all being bisexual women.
8. Increased risk of breakup.
9. Increased risk of STDs
10. Increased risk of pregnancy occuring.
11. Increased risk of arguments/fighting
12. Too picky on body and face looks for increased variety to be a pro.
13. I don't really like having large social groups around and prefer just 1 other person because of nerdy / geeky / artist / gamer / introvert lifestyle
14. Shallowing of the gene pool for the general population if this became the social norm (too many people with be half siblings, first cousins, etc. to too many other people).

SteveSmith1985 · Accepted Answer

I have never (and never would) been in an open relationship.

It depends on what your personal values happen to be.

Some people claim to be perfectly happy in them. Maybe they are. Who am I to contradict them.

FOR ME... I could never be happy in an open relationship. It's a non-option for me. In fact, I would go further. I wouldn't want to try and have a (significant long-term) relationship with any woman who didn't think open relationship was a non-option for her too.

It takes very different views about what a relationship means, the nature of love and sex and... everything pertaining to any relationship.

The way I look at it:

1. people who are fine with (even open to) open relationships for themselves.

2. Me and anyone else who believes monogamy to be the bedrock essential for happy relationship.

I feel like these are two groups with fundamentally different values and beliefs.

🙂

laurieluvsit · Accepted Answer

I don't see any downsides of an Open Relationship that is agreed upon by both parties.

I have been involved with many of them.

The only downside is finding out that the guy was lying to you and it wasn't really an open relationship and suddenly you find another girl wanting to have a cat fight with you or hates your guts as if the guy had nothing to do with it.

Yes, it's good to verify but that is not practical or possible in every instance.

Hope that helps :)

Nikki1989 · Accepted Answer

That depends on what you call open. I have a husband and a girlfriend, but I would never sleep around with anyone else, especially not another man. We have been in amazing marriage for coming up to 14 years with no issues at all.

As a side note: I know several people who have been in very successful open relationships for years, in one case for decades. Those that say it will never last are talking out their ass. It works for countless couples.

Summeroflove · Answer

I haven’t no and hopefully never will be.

Zack-Bann · Answer

The closest I came to that is meeting a woman and hooking up with her only to realize that she was fighting with her boyfriend and made up with him afterwards

It made things weird because I (unfortunately for her) was the best sex she ever had
And he knew she banged someone
So it made their relationship tough but be was too in love to give up on her and I wanted no part of it

To be fair I never told her but she was great in bed as well so her problems are all him

From what I understood he’s a scrawny little loser who leads with his wallet because he has no substance to offer

Bricealan · Answer

@gintare_764 At one point, yes, with a girl I went to college with. She moved her to CA., with me several years ago. She met men on line and I did also. She arranged to meet a guy she met on line, and only gave him a hand job, and was going to fuck later on, but he backed out at the last minute.

Pros: It can spice up a relationship with one or the other or both having another sex partner at times, and it is very sexual to hear what they did.

Con's: I was always "worried' about losing her to another man, AND eventually she did move back home with another men in her home town.

All in all, it was a very erotic relationship and I learned a lot, and did not ever regret it.

Cyrus000 · Answer

No. It will never last. One person will always get the short end of the stick. I've never seen or heard of an open relationship that lasted until they died or whatever

zagor · Answer

Only because she didn't know we were in one.

lucass120 · Answer

No, but i would love to be a cuckold

Jennz6 · Answer

Yes I have been in open relationships

jahaims · Answer

No, I have self respect

Gabriella01 · Answer

No not into sharing my girlfriends in bed.

Iron_Man · Answer

no never I don’t do that

In_Trance · Answer

Never have; never will

Anonymous · Answer

I think it can work in some situations

Anonymous · Answer

No, I never had any kind of relationship.

Anonymous · Answer

Nope and never will

Anonymous · Answer

No. Ewww!

UknowJT93 · Answer

no it's big No

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