Why is my best friend igoring me when I started dating?

[Anonymous]

I love her and I never ignored her nor did I change, we still organized girls nights out and so on. well now I just backed off, after continuously asking her what is going on and getting no answer. Why would she be like this? Just cuz she sees me happy with a Man that actually treats me right? I am sad because I care about her but at the same time i'm fed up I have other things to worry about.

[Account]

Are you certain that she is not into you? Because based on what you said I can't find any other explanation.

[Asker]

OH NONO, she loves MEN !!!

[Anonymous]

I would ignore someone only when they reveal their true colours

[Asker]

Well what true colours? I didn't change on her behalf

[Opinion Owner]

When they disrespect or show what a shitty person they are

[AI Opinion]

Navigating the choppy waters of friendship while in a relationship can sometimes feel like you're trying to balance on a surfboard for the first time—exciting yet tricky! It sounds like your love story is sailing smoothly but has unexpectedly hit a friendship snag. ✨ Lovebombing your partner while keeping your friendship afloat requires some finesse.

From what you describe, it seems like your friend might be feeling a cocktail of emotions—perhaps a little lonely, jealous, or even neglected, despite your efforts to maintain your bond. It's tough, but not uncommon. Friends sometimes fear losing their special place in our lives when romantic relationships take the front seat.

While you've been tossing lifelines trying to understand her silence, it's also important to remember that you can't control her feelings or actions, only how you respond. Keep the door open for her to share, and maybe sprinkle a little extra love her way when you can. Life's a balancing act, after all. And who knows? With a bit of patience and understanding, your friendship might just find its way back to smooth sailing. 💖

[Asker]

Thank you so much for your amazing answer, I didn't plan to even date, but things with this man happened naturally, and EVEN HE makes sure i spend time with my girls, I would never neglect them. I come from a very toxic relationship that i broke off 3 years ago, and my life was not easy... for the first time I am dating someone that is actually giving me joy and the purest love.. They know what I have been through and I don't understand why she is being this way. She started going out more with another friend, and makes plans without even asking me, back then she always integrated me in her plans... now I just see her little events happening on instagram stories.. well i don't know

[Walksbehindtherows]

The guy just wants some freedom, he wants to have a few beers with his friends, listen to deutchland Uber alles and have sex with a few women
Freedom is a good thing, sister, maybe the best thing

[Asker]

has nothing to do with my question but okay I guess