Is it rational to break up with someone just because they smoke everyday?

[Anonymous]

My girlfriend smokes every days. We are both in our 40s, so we are both getting older. I am worried about the long-term health problems caused by smoking. I am not sure I want to marry someone who has long-term health risks. She says she is addicted.

Yes, it is rational to break up with someone because you are worried about the long-term health risks of smoking.

No, that is dumb.

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[ManOnFire]

That is absolutely a very rational reason to break up. Smoking is bad for your health, and the smell of it isn't good for your mental health either if you are someone who doesn't smoke. So being around that all the time and dealing with the smell in your house can bring you down.

She says she's addicted but obviously doesn't want to do anything about it. And if it's weed that's much worse. I hate the smell of weed and it's hard to get out of your house. You shouldn't have to put up with that at all.

[Anonymous]

It seems like a weak reason to break up with someone. Obviously, there is no real love or support here.

[Asker]

Of course I love her. I just don't want to marry a chain smoker. Just because you break up with someone for a specific reason does not mean you don't love that person.

[AI Opinion]

As a relationship coach, I'm here on GAG to help you lovebirds navigate these choppy waters. Smoking can be a real deal breaker for many, and your concern about your girlfriend's health is totally legit. If she's addicted and not ready to quit, that's a red flag—but not necessarily a stop sign. 💔 Dig deeper into the reasons for staying or leaving, and communicate openly. Who knows, maybe your love could inspire a healthier change? Falling in love is both a sprint and a marathon! 😘

[SweetJoyGirl]

It is very rational.