Would you break up with someone if you wouldn't date a smoker and they ONLY started smoking after you started dating?

[Anonymous]

Let's say you wouldn't date a smoker (cigarette or weed). When you met your SO, they didn't smoke at all. Now after some time in the relationship, maybe from their friends' influence or bc they just wanna try, your SO has started smoking. Very frequently. Would you break up with them then?

[SteveSmith1985]

This... made me laugh.

As someone whose been a smoker for 20 years... Yea... if he STARTED smoking after you two were together, then yes, you're totally right. He is not addicted to smoking (or if he is, he hasn't been for long... assuming you haven't put up with heavy smoking for 6 months). Therefore, what the fuck?

Weed I look at slightly differently. You need to meet him half-way. I don't think it's right for you to demand that he not smoke pot at all just because you don't like it. On the other hand, it's fair that he not be getting high when you two are hanging out. But unlike the constant, horrible-smelling cigarette smoking... weed is something he can smoke in a way that doesn't impact your time together (assuming he can do that)

[TheSpaceGnome]

Yes, I'd break up with her, cut off all communication, and give her zero chance to mend the relationship, even if she only smoked once and never did it again.

[Blackcosmo]

I'd try to convince them to stop smoking but from bad influences you don't only start smoking. I'd probably leave them If I start seeing red flags.

[Blackcosmo]

thanks for the MHO!

[LazerBean]

Yep, I don't need any gullible coughers in my life.

[Anonymous]

Yes. Unless they quit immediately.