Would you date a smoker?

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Or have you ever dated one, or are dating? Personally, I would not.

dangerDoge · Accepted Answer

Alrhough I probably give this answer for every yes/no question, I'm going to say it depends lol.

A large part of it is dependent on how bad of a smoker she is. I know some people who struggle financially but still spend large amounts of money on cigarettes-- it's an addiction. I'm hesitant to state something as a dealbreaker, but addictions to things like this are big turn offs most definitely. It doesn't even have to be smoking. It can be drinking, lotto tickets, whatever. Stuff like that can take control of a person's life, and therefore it can cause serious relationship issues.

On the flipside, if one just smokes a cigarette every once in awhile, I can deal. I have absolutely no desire to smoke (or even drink alcohol for that matter), but it's not like I'm completely against associating with people that do.

There'd be some minor turn offs along the way as well. Aka I don't like the smell of cigarettes. I don't like breathing in the smoke either-- I like to try and preserve my lungs. If we are doing something together and she goes "one moment, I need a smoke break," I'd probably be kind of annoyed if it was a regular thing.

That being said, I say it depends. I say this because I'm imagining the perfect girl in my head, and then adding in the not so perfect characteristic of smoking. I'd still date this almost perfect person despite the smoking, so I dare say smoking is not an instant dealbreaker. I'm sure there is a spectrum where I could manage the turn-offness from smoking.

TL;DR; It depends on how much she smokes and how she is besides the smoking.

YHL6965 · Accepted Answer

You mean this?

beccaboo2 · Accepted Answer

I never thought I would date a smoker since I'm personally against smoking, drinking, and using drugs (I'm alright with people who do, I just wouldn't do it myself). However, my current boyfriend is a smoker but it's not as big a deal as I thought it would be. He never smokes indoors or in the car and always excuses himself when he needs to take a hit.

ShaunaM95 · Accepted Answer

My boyfriend smokes. I don't have a problem with it because he always asks me if it's alright for him to smoke in my presence and he does make an effort not to smoke when I'm around. It's his choice to smoke at the end of the day and I'm not going to try and control him in the sense just because I personally wouldn't do it or don't like it.

Jemini_Crocket · Accepted Answer

I'm not a fan of it. My parents and sister smoke and I actually really hate it. But if I would really like the person, I think I'd be able to tolerate it if they wouldn't smoke in my face lol
Better than dating someone who's an alcoholic or drug addicted in my opinion.

cinderelli · Accepted Answer

I most probably won't because it's a huge turn off for me.. but even if I do give it a chance it might not work out because I just can't stand it unless he's serious about quitting

OlderAndWiser · Answer

My first wife was a smoker until she needed surgery, then she quit. I would never again date a smoker. Never again! Not ever!

PrincessPie · Answer

Yes but i most certainly prefer when they don't smoke.

ElissaDido · Answer

I might do it but it's gross, I will encourage them to stop.

ak666 · Answer

I would, and have, but I'm in Tokyo. It's quite different here. If you choose not to date smokers, you might exclude over half the female population, especially those in their 20s.

On the plus side, they tend to smoke these ultra light cigarettes that are heavily scented like vanilla, menthol, etc. They're drastically milder in scent than brands I've found in the U. S. I generally can't tell from a girl's breath or clothes whether she smokes or not.

In the U. S., the scent can be so strong, even with mentols, that I can smell it all over people the moment they enter a room. I don't know what's different about the tobacco there, but the smell is so incredibly strong. If I was in the U. S., I wouldn't want to date a girl who smokes. I've had colleagues who smoked and they would stink up the room just entering it after a smoke break.

cth96190 · Answer

I have not, nor could I ever date a smoker.
To me, smoking is a sign of low intelligence and poor self-esteem.
Given the enormous amount that is known about the harmful effects of smoking, a person would have to be breathtakingly stupid to smoke.
It is a self-administered slow-motion Darwin Award.
Fun fact: most smokers die of heart disease, before they live long enough to develop cancer, or emphysema.

vonasaurus · Answer

i'm (common-law) married to someone who smokes. but he's very respectful and doesn't light up around me or kiss me without drinking something/brushing his teeth.

sure, i hate the smell and it makes me sick to think of the money spent, but it's not my body and therefore not my decision to make.

if and when he decides he's ready to quit, i'll support him. but i won't bully him into it.

JustRollTheDice · Answer

I'm currently watching my grandad slowly die and fade away because of emphysema, next I'm going to have to watch my dad so no I won't date a smoker because I don't want to love them and slowly watch them die

Unit1 · Answer

Smoking is a dealbreaker for me. Smokers are like bombs. They go off and take with them anyone in their proximity.

archiz · Answer

I will... not a preference but can t have everything in life hah

dragonfly6516 · Answer

I'm completely fine with smokers, but lately it's become much more annoying to me that I always have to wait on certain people to start and finish a cig before we can leave, ESPECIALLY when they rely on me for rides.

Journalist · Answer

I have had a crush on a smoker before I found out he did that. However, he said it was his past habit so I let it go but the crush faded later on.

That was one or two years ago and I never had a crush on someone who smokes that I know of.

springocelot · Answer

i did once and i wouldn't do it again  as we got more serious i started really getting anxious over his health and i rather not go through that feeling again

Fitness-Fanatic · Answer

No I'd never date a smoker. It's a disgusting habit. I'd never let anyone smoke around me. I hate the smell of stale cigarette smoke that hangs on smokers hair , clothes and skin. 😖

Hans222 · Answer

If I really loved her probably yes though I prefer a non-smoker. I also never smoked myself. If she were a smoker I'd ask if it were possible to smoke outside :D

madhatters4 · Answer

i never have and i'm married now. but if i were single i wouldn't dismiss a smoker as a potential partner. however i would hope that they had some intention of stopping at some point

luvstoned4him · Answer

No I won't. I would be concerned for my health and even if he didn't smoke around me , I would still be concerned for his health. Plus smokers breath isn't that attractive to me. I hate it.

MarbleLines · Answer

Yeah, if someone smokes or not doesn't really bother me, I don't mind the smell or anything and I smoke sometimes too so it'd be pretty shitty of me to not date someone because they smoke

Sara413 · Answer

As an ex smoker, I could not date someone who smokes. The smell bothers me way too much now and the taste kissing them would probably make me gag.

Chief16 · Answer

Definitely no. I'm asthmatic and I workout everyday to keep fit, would never date someone who regards their health, and particularly that of the others' so little.

Crazyvicky143 · Answer

yes I would love to date because I am also a smoker  we didn't smoke because of any reasons we smoke only to enjoy

melanieeeB · Answer

No I wouldn't really, but it shouldn't also fail because of just that... know what I mean?

GoodGuyBreakingBad · Answer

I used to be a smoker so it wouldn't matter to me but i think I'm still taking in second hand smoke , so i would most likely look to date a non-smoker.

AskMeAnythlng · Answer

No, I wouldn't date one. Because I did once before, and as a non smoker it is very unpleasant to kiss them and taste the cigarette they had before. :/

bboo22 · Answer

I tried it but I really didn't like kissing him. I thought it wouldn't be bad because I really liked him as a person but it was a problem.

JudgeJulie · Answer

Depends, if he is a casual or social smoker I would date him but because I'm health conscious I prefer not to date smokers.

Matti_Jr · Answer

Only a deal breaker if she smokes excessively. If she smokes a pack a day on a typical day, that could potentially be a deal breaker.

mooky06 · Answer

I've dated two in the past. I prefer my partner not to smoke

Katherine3110hun · Answer

Never. I hate the smell too much and wouldn't kiss him ever.

lostgirl_searching · Answer

I'm dating one, and it doesn't bother me at all. I don't smoke but I'm not against it.

Tanuron · Answer

My girlfriend smoke and yeah I generally never cared. Everyone have their addictions anyway.

Jeni2fast · Answer

I kissed a smoker and as much as I liked him, I found it repulsive

matheus_mb · Answer

Not really, I can't stand the smell of cigarrettes and I wouldn't like to keep living with it.

Creative_M · Answer

I will if the girl promises to reduce it and one day get over with it

grace___ · Answer

Depends on if he's some disloyal drug-addict or if he's some sweet open-minded guy tbh...

kitty71 · Answer

I won't that stinch of a cigarrette is gross Imagine being kissed by a smoker and all that smell. Yikes!!! I won't date one

zagor · Answer

I would say no, but I actually have done so in the past, so I guess I can't give a clear answer. She didn't smoke around me and there was great sex...

Chrysis · Answer

I'm a smoker myself, sooooo... yeah. That's pretty self-explanatory.

Anonymous · Answer

I was married to one and it was so gross. It's like very kiss we ever had was disgusting. I won't do it now.

ShaeNielson · Answer

I thought I didn't care but then I did date one and it sucked.

qwert1234 · Answer

I did date a smoker. She's not a chain smoker, but yeah, she did smoke cigarettes.

Anonymous · Answer

I'm dating a smoker, I used to smoke and he's trying to quit so it doesn't bother me I just try to help him quit

Diobrando · Answer

i was a smoker so i wouldn't mind but no heavy smokers but

dolemite68 · Answer

the smell is the only thing that bugs me, if they can cover up the smell of it on their breath and clothes i dont care

awesometjgreen · Answer

as long as they're not like addicted. if they don't go overboard with it I'm good

fueledbythc · Answer

Im a smoker. Id be a hypocrite not to date a smoker.

blondfrog · Answer

Yes I would people can change too. Its not like all smokers smoke their whole life.

JCT666 · Answer

My last girlfriend was a smoker, I won't date another one.

Anonymous · Answer

I'd personally try and avoid a smoker but if she occasionally smoked it might not be a deal breaker

drago85 · Answer

I am kinda neutral because I do have asthma so it will be hard

superdouch · Answer

I don't like smoke but if I like the girl I like the girl

Anonymous · Answer

I'm not a smoker myself... but if a girl who smokes wanted to give me a french kiss... well, am I a fool to say no?

Greek_God · Answer

As a smoker, it would be hypocritical of me to say no 😂

Gray_Wolf · Answer

I don't smoke, I would date a smoker? Why not, I care about how she looks not if she smokes or not.

AceGenetFurey · Answer

No, i own too many animals and animals are MORE likely to get cancer than humans from the smoke. My babies are forever, the love who smokes, isn't.

Anonymous · Answer

no. I've dated one, it's so unpleasant when we kissed

Yanoa_Yanza · Answer

It's definitely a turn off for me, so probably not

Anonymous · Answer

I wouldn't mind dating somebody who smokes, but I'd rather they didn't.

jessemeyer · Answer

No, I hate smokers...

Anonymous · Answer

I wouldn't mind, but it depends on how much a person is smoking and where it is done.

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