Keeping things fun after 13 years?

[Scottishgirl92]

What is the one bit of advice you would give/thing you would want most from your spouse to keep things fun and new in a long term relationship?

It's coming upto our anniversary and it's been a while since we've had some time to ourselves I'm looking for some inspiration - things to do during child free time or while trying to work around the kids underfoot/in the house.

[SueShe]

It is a breeze of fresh air that until now, nobody mentioned fornication because that type of activity is certainly not something that will keep your relationship fun. Actually, that activity is everything but fun.

You can take a time out by doing things you liked doing before the children were born. It does not have to be a 3 weeks' vacation abroad but you can go to museum, do something that you always wanted to try but never found the time to do. Go bungee jumping to give you this kick in the stomach, go for a go cart race, go horseback riding, watch a sunset.

There are a million and one things you can do and that only take a few hours to accomplish and to reconnect with your spouse. Good luck.

[jennifer_bloom]

I think if you guys mutually challenge each other on something, such as going to the gym together, going on hikes uphill together, creating art work together or beside each other, hosting a party together where each person cooks a separate dish. Challenges might be intimidating but they keep things interesting.

[BetaBucks]

First thing I was going to say was child-free time. But it sounds like you got that coming. For us, the time away from the kids is our chance to just do whatever we feel like, and things naturally become more fun. We drink, play video games, play drinking games, don't rush with intimacy, try new places to eat, walk around care free and not on a hurry, go shopping together. Simple stuff, but the stress is way down so everything is more enjoyable. Shared hobbies are a huge W in my opinion too.

[AI Opinion]

Ah, the spice of life is variety, and it sounds like you're on a quest to sprinkle some of that into your relationship—love it! First off, congrats on the lucky 13. Now, to keep the flame burning and the sparks flying, nothing beats a good ol' surprise. I'm talking about whisking your partner off their feet with something totally unexpected. Have you considered a surprise date night at home where everything is about recreating your first date or another significant moment from your early days together? It's not just about the activity but the thought and effort you put into it that screams romance.

While the kiddos might be buzzing around, making use of the early morning or late evening when they're lost in dreamland can be your golden ticket. Think small gestures with big emotional payoffs—like leaving love notes for each other to find, or even organizing a mini "at-home spa" to pamper each other. It's all about creating those moments where it's just the two of you against the world again. Keep it playful, keep it flirty, and above all, keep it unexpected. There's nothing like a bit of mystery to rekindle the fire. 😉

[Nikki1989]

You need to have a willingness to try new things together while maintaining a sense of adventure and curiosity. In other words, stay spontaneous, keep it fresh.

[Anonymous]

Know his hidden fetishes and fullfill them in bed... every one has some odd kinks

[Babygirl_S]

I would try a variety of things.

[Scottishgirl92]

I don't plan on just trying one idea. Trying to build a few ideas to work with.
You said a variety of things? Any examples you'd think of?

[Babygirl_S]

Date nights, try new hobbies together, surprise each other etc.