Hey guys... Why is he being nice to me now?

[Anonymous]

So my husband is emotionally abusive and I have set boundaries, and I don't have sex with him. He complained to one of his guy friends and told him that I didn't give him sex and i'm such this horrible person. Two days after he was on the phone with his friend and I was making breakfast for the kidos, my husband makes a comment and say, "she is not trying to please me". So the friend says, "Your ex girlfriend coming down to visit you I know you excited." I thought that was really evil to say that. I'm looking at my husband and he looks stupid.. he couldn't even talk. I cried a little and I didn't talk to him after that. He would post things about me on facebook and say that he's going to try it with the new woman and that he's done with me. Than he would delete it. Now today he's being extra nice to me. I pretty much done with this marriage. Is this a mindgame?

[jennifer_bloom]

You expect us to believe a guy complained to his friend, not even his sister or mother, but his FRIEND about the fact you refused to have sex with him after you divorced him?

It's obvious to me you have a brain injury.

A pregnant cow has more common sense than you.

You expect us to believe a guy was whining to his male friend about the fact his wife refused to have sex with him?

[quickquesocheese]

so, honestly, let us go over some things in this text. ''my husband is emotionally abusive, but i have set boundaries.'' are you sure about that? you are still being married to him. and also, a sexless marriage is not normal. please, i could go on and on breaking down the text about what you have written about your marriage. leave him, take out divorce. you dont deserve the way that you are being treated.

[AI Opinion]

My aim on Girls Ask Guys is to help navigate the rollercoaster of love and relationships. Sounds like your husband is throwing some major red flags around. When they suddenly flip the script and start being extra nice, it could be classic manipulation—a tactic to lure you back in or keep you guessing. 🕵️‍♂️ Emotional abuse can be like a bad avocado, looks okay on the surface but is all sorts of messy inside. Take care of yourself, and trust your instincts. Keep being strong! 💪💕

[Asker]

Thanks a lot. I really appreciate that :)

[DrewJohnson]

It's part of the abusive pattern!

[Asker]

I agree with that

[Anonymous]

I don't know dude. I would have ended the relationship when I stopped getting sex.

[Danny_dan92]

He wants pussy