My boyfriend liked a bikini try-on haul video on YouTube. Is it disrespectful?

[babet]

My boyfriend and I have a great relationship. We’ve been together for two years, recently moved in, and he’s hinted at getting engaged. He rarely uses social media and doesn’t follow Instagram models or celebrities, so I've always felt respected by him. Today, while home alone, I noticed a bikini try-on ASMR video in his "liked" list on YouTube. We share passwords, so I wasn’t snooping, but it surprised me. He’s not one to like these kinds of videos, and I’m unsure if I should bring it up or let it go. It's bothering me, and I don’t know how to feel.

[Lliam]

Maybe he gets off on ASMR. I'm susceptible to ASMR, myself. I always have been. Some people aren't.
You might want to experiment with trying ASMR on your boyfriend. Try wearing a bikini or sexy lingerie at the same time.

Note: There's nothing wrong with admiring cute girls in bikinis. It's not like porn.
He still likes you more.

My wife knows that I admire the female form. It's like art appreciation. I'm glad that I have eyes with which to see beautiful landscapes, sunsets, colorful flowers, works of art, and lovely ladies.

My wife and I have gone walking at the beach. When a beautiful girl in a sexy bikini comes roller skating/blading on the sidewalk, we both notice. We watch as she passes and sashays away, then look at each other and think "That was cute."

One time we were on a ferry in San Francisco Bay when a sail boat passed very near. Two girls on the sail boat stood up and raised their bikini tops to flash the passengers on our ferry. My wife caught my arm and pointed so that I wouldn't miss it. She's fun that way.

Another time, we stopped at a frozen yogurt shop near a lake. There were four young people ahead of us. They were in their late teens or early 20s.
The girl right in front of us was wearing a beach top that only came down to the top of her ass. She must have been wearing a thong because it looked like her particularly plump, round ass was completely bare.
My wife and I looked at each other. Then I reached out and gestured like I was grabbing a handful of that soft, squeezable goodness.
No one else saw me. My wife and I laughed silently to each other.

She knows that there are certain actresses that I find attractive. I will even see some actress playing a role and say "She's cute", meaning, "She's sexy." My wife knows what I mean.
There are certain actors that my wife thinks are hot, too.

We aren't jealous. We are completely loyal and adore each other. So other women (or men) are no competition. We love each other and love sex with each other.

[Finchie40]

It’s definitely disrespectful if he is liking it , it’s one thing if he just looked at it but by liking it , he is indicating he is interested in it. So you have every right to be upset and concerned , even if it’s not that big of a deal , it might be a big deal to you , so have a talk with him and tell him you find it disrespectful that he is liking shit like this and tell him how would he feel if you were doing the same? Some guys’ just don’t have common sense when it comes to things like this , they act before they think. So if he says he is sorry and he won’t do it again. , give him a warning , if he doesn’t again , kick him To the curb

[Josey29]

Block him. 😂 Sorry, I block anyone that disrespects me.

This is a sneaky way of getting his rocks off.

[AI Opinion]

Ah, the complexities of the digital age and love life mix! 😉 It’s okay to feel a little thrown off, darling. Remember, one liked video doesn’t define the whole relationship, especially since he's not one to indulge in such content regularly. Since you share passwords, it could be curiosity or an accidental like. Know that open communication is the magic here. Approach it without accusations and let him know how it made you feel. A heart-to-heart might clear the air and strengthen that beautiful bond you two share. ❤️ Keep it cool, love!

[BetaBucks]

It's disrespectful if it's publicly visible or visible to you. Knowing you share accounts, means he not supposed to do things with the account that would make you feel bad about yourself. It's not a major violation, but it's definitely something many people would feel bad about. And might be worth a casual mention to him. Like "hey, I can see your likes on YT and it kinda makes me feel bad to see you liking thirst trap content. I still love you though." Or just never bring it up, and just separate accounts so you don't have to see it.

[JimmyBgoode12]

Understandably, this situation makes you uncomfortable, especially since it’s out of character. While this may seem like a small thing, your feelings are valid, and it’s important to address any concerns in the relationship.

Bringing it up slowly and honestly can help clarify any concerns. You can approach the conversation by expressing your feelings without blaming him for anything. For example, you might say something like, “I saw a video in your likes list that shocked me. It’s not something you use often, and I feel a little uncomfortable with it. Can we talk about it?” This opens the door for healthy non-defensive conversations.

With such a strong and trusting relationship, this could be a misunderstanding or just a moment of curiosity. What matters is how you both handle it together and communicate openly.

[RavVid]

This issue is a perennial. Your man likes your female body. Great! But the corollary is he will like images of other female bodies. Not so great and maybe hurtful; I can see that.

I think the point is that if you want to hang out with a man than you just have to expect it. If you don't see it, than it is being politely hidden is all. It is strongly instinctual - especially with passing females on the street.

"You can look but can't touch" is good attitude to take and laugh about his male reactions if you can.

You aren't being compared and being evaluated against these girls. I guess it feels like that but it isn't how it works. You are obviously a lot more than a bikini to him.

Bring it up when you can laugh at it and joke about it.

[soe11]

• Be a positive person.
• It is a cool thing.
• Most men like it, in order to buy for his wife or girlfriend.
• You should ask him "should I wear bikini on beach?"
• If he say yes then go for it.
• My girlfriend and her mum selected bikinis then ask me " what do you think "

[DrPepper12]

I think it's absolutely harmless. I would suggest that you think about it differently. He may enjoy looking at them but he chooses and loves being with and feeling you! It's actually a compliment since he chooses you over "better" fake, plastic, well lit, airbrushed, AI filtered phoniness!

[Anonymous]

Sounds like you're learning there's more to him than you had him down for. Most mens fascination with the female form end when they're dead. He's not comparing her to you. It comes from a different place. Beyond that, it don't mean nothin'
Oh, and wtf is a try on haul video? Long haul.. but it does have trucks in it right?

[boggboss]

Its bothering u that your boyfriend watched a video that had good looking women in it does he not watch porn?

[abc3643]

How is it disrespectful?

That's important.

[DryGermanGuy]

You're 39 years old and that's riling you up? Oy vey.

[In_Trance]

Stop with this nonsense. And gtfo his social media before you fuck everything up

[Anonymous]

I hate when women do this lmao

Worst case scenario is he was watching some incredibly tame softcore porn basically. Not a big deal.

[Danny_dan92]

Why is he looking at that shit?

[Twalli]

He's a guy he's a visual person.

[RedInnocent69]

No. Maybe he was shopping for you 😂