Was this response from a married man appropriate?

[Anonymous]

So this girl texted this married man and said that she was outside. The man wife was at the house as well when she pulled up. It was her and her 4 kids were in the car and she texted him to come outside quickly.

the married man said “my wife didn’t put me out but I allowed her to make the announcement because she is the love of my life. I told you that you were a mistake and the worst mistake ever in my life. He told her to don’t ever come back to his house and to not ever text him again”

he had to place an order of protection against her

[Avicenna]

There’s some backgrounder info missing here

[Asker]

The guy is my neighbor and it’s this girl who enjoy running back to her babydaddy. Well the guy got remarried of course. The other girl babydaddy don’t want her anymore so she been riding by here a lot.

[Asker]

The only thing I know is what he told me. I asked him what was going on because the girl been driving by here and backing up to leave. It be late at night and she does this. what I post is what he said to me

[Avicenna]

Sounds like he’s doing the right thing

[ManOnFire]

One, this isn't written particularly well, and we have no idea what "announcement" his wife made. Nor do we know if the order of protection was placed against the girl or his wife.

Two, this feels like another post from a female user trying to word it in a way to make people think one thing while leaving out other details that would incriminate her.

Having said that, it sounds like this "girl" had no business messing with a married man and he got in trouble for it with his wife, especially if he said "I told you that you were a mistake and the worst mistake ever in my life." I really can't say whether his response was exactly appropriate or not, but it seems pretty clear that he got his ass in some pretty good hot water with his wife about it, and the bottom line is that the "girl" needs to stay away before she gets herself into a bad mess as well. He's married. Leave him alone.

[Asker]

The guy is my neighbor and I didn’t think to include all those details. Well the girl has been riding by here a lot anyways. The wife car was parked outside. I asked him what was going on because she keeps riding by here and backing up to leave. I was already familiar with her because she keeps trying to take this man from his wife. This time her kids was in the car with her

[ManOnFire]

Okay, thanks for the clarification. So my original answer stands that this girl needs to leave him the hell alone. What she's doing is bordering on obsessive and even stalker-ish. Many wives have beaten or killed girls who keep trying to mess with their husbands. This girl would be wise to suck it up and move on.

[Asker]

Exactly! We too familiar with her especially her sister. I’m not sure why they doing this. I have cameras on my house so I was able to see the car

[ManOnFire]

Well, if anything happens you'll be a good witness with proof of the situation.

[Oliverlogan263]

girl, this whole situation sounds toxic AF and you should remove yourself from it ASAP! A few red flags:

- He's married but still responding to texts... major disrespect to his wife.

- Coming to the house was way overstepping boundaries and caused drama.

- Calling you a "mistake" and saying the worst things is emotional abuse.

- Taking out a protective order means things escalated dangerously and could get you in real trouble.

You clearly care about him if you showed up with your kids, but his behavior screams he will never leave his wife for you. Please don't waste any more of your time being "the other woman" - you deserve so much better!

Focus on you and your babies. Block and delete this jerk from your life before it gets even messier. The only loving relationship he seems capable of is with his wife. You'll find a man who chooses you first, I promise. Stay strong girl!