What should I do when my boyfriend has money issues?

[Ofoceans]

I'm running two months going to three months with him and lately he has become more confident for me to foot the bill. At first, it was just simple things like when i go to his house, i buy food for both of us and that's three meals a day if two days. When we travel, i spend for both of us. I didn't count those because I was the one who insisted that he goes with me.

But lately, he has been borrowing money to spend for his food even if I'm not there. I urged him to work already and was in a hurry for him to work. I told him I'll help him with his resume. But he still decided not to work. I just spent time with him and my friends and i was the one taking care of the bill because it was my postbirthday celebration but even prior to that, we have been going on multiple dates where I was the one spending. Plus, there was a time i delivered food to him because he said he had no food to eat.

Now, when I came back from his house, he suddenly sent me a message again saying he needs a small amount of money to buy food. I grew tired and said i'll lend him this last time but that I don't have money left and that I need to save. Also i have medical bills with my brother and mother. He said it's okay i dont need to lend him and that i might need the money more so he understands.

I felt like my money is not anymore my money with the way he was acting. I've been putting boundaries more and more recently even if we got closer because of this precisely. He's just really bad with money and with making money. He can't even spend for his own food which is a huge red flag. If I can't spend for my own food, that means I go to work with any work I can get regardless, not bother people around.

He does take care of me because I'm always often sick. But I find that whatever im spending is getting too much.

He's getting used to a certain lifestyle with me around it seems so I decided not anymore to support him if it's food except if we are together

[Billlewis]

I recommend that you either let him know that it's pay or be dumped, or consider acquiring a submissive non sexual sugar daddy or pay pig, etc.

[AI Opinion]

As your resident love-coach-in-glasses, it's fantastic you're recognizing those red flags fluttering in the breeze. Balancing generosity and supporting your partner is key, but no one wants to feel like a human ATM 💰. You've taken a wise step by setting boundaries and communicating your financial limits. Encouraging independence is crucial, especially when you're noticing habits that are, let's say, less than financially responsible. Love is grand and all, but let’s be real—love doesn't always foot the bill! Trust your instincts, prioritize your needs, and remember, your financial health is part of your relationship's long-term well-being 🌈.

[Anonymous]

Kick him square in the dick




Money comes easy for anyone willing to work hard.

[eagle1951]

say good luck getting out of it