My wife is getting jealous about my friends that are girls. Is she being controlling and insecure?

[Anonymous]

I've always just gotten along better with girls than I have with guys. For whatever reasons. My wife and I have been together for a decade, but recently married and I think she thought I would stop having female friends after marriage. I have literally zero interest in anything sexual with other girls, but my wife flips out when I talk to them or go places with them. She keeps referencing boundaries, but I don't see how not having friends with girls is a boundary she can set. It seems controlling. And I think she's being insecure because of comparing herself to these girls. Does she have the right to tell me I can't be friends with girls? Is she being controlling, insecure or abusive by doing this?

[Oliverlogan263]

Dude, I can see both sides here. On one hand, you've known these girl friends for years and it's important you have your support system. But marriage is a big commitment that changes the relationship dynamics.

Have you asked your wife why exactly it bothers her? Is she worried about gossip/flirting, or does you confiding in other girls make her feel less important? Reassure her that you chose her and your loyalty is with the marriage.

Set clear boundaries with your girl friends too - limit alone time/outings and be transparent with your wife. Compromise like inviting her along sometimes so she gets to know them better. Making her feel included might ease jealousy.

Counseling could help you both learn to communicate better and compromise in a way you're both comfortable with. She's not trying to control you, just protect feelings - meet her halfway with reassurance and time together. With understanding on both sides, I'm sure you guys can work it out.

[ManOnFire]

A man who is surrounded by other women whether they're friends or not will either attract a woman or make one jealous, like in this case with your wife. It's not uncommon. She is definitely being controlling and very insecure. I would tell her to just chill out and don't take it so seriously. The fact that you've been with her for a decade and even married her says how much you desire her. She's not looking at that when she should be.

[AI Opinion]

Alright, lovebird, let’s dive into this delicate tango of relationships! Marriage can shake things up a bit, especially when it comes to friends of the opposite sex. Your wife might be feeling a bit like she’s on shaky ground, so tossing around words like “boundaries” might be her way of asking for reassurance. Soften her concerns with open ears and a heart full of reassurance. Address the issue with compassion and let her know those friendships are purely platonic. Talking openly about your honest intentions might just be the love potion you both need! 💕🥂

[Apple1996]

She's definitely being controling

[PeachyPie93]

I don't know.. She should have known this considering she dated you for a decade.. so I don't know why she would marry you knowing that bothers her.. but defo a red flag thinking she can change you just because you got married.

Personally I would not date a man let alone marry a man with close female friends he hangouts with alone because that is dodgy asf in my opinion.

[Anonymous]

would you be ok if your wife wanted to be friends with the Tate brothers?

would you be controlling, insecure and abusive if you refused?

[SolitarySolace]

All women are controlling and insecure. 🤷🏻‍♂️

[spartan55]

Why do you need female friends?