Are you really happy being SINGLE?

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Why are women persecuted for staying single? I'm an asexual and aromantic woman who is not interested in romantic relationships or intimacy with men. I'm very content in my life with friends and my family.

GoodManDave · Accepted Answer

No. Not happy. But, I would rather be unhappy and single than be stuck in an abusive, toxic relationship that was sapping my will.

I don’t need a girlfriend to tell myself I’m attractive to SOMEBODY. I’m aware I’m ugly. I've got few reasons to fake a relationship or get into something unhealthy; I’m not desperate to have someone by Valentine’s Day or Christmas because I think it looks better.

I am single, and I have been single longer than is healthy. I’m too ugly and dorky to be in a relationship with most of the women I encounter in my life. It can be depressing to be perpetually single…

But, I’m also not getting cheated on, or screamed at because I didn’t take out the trash by the time she demanded it be done. I’m not being given constant ultimatums or being told on her whim we are to make drastic changes to our (MY) lifestyle because she decided it (And I’m just to shut up, ‘hop to it’ and say ”yes dear.” - no discussion).

I don’t have to apologize because she did something, caused a fight (but she’s a woman so she doesn’t have to apologize), I don’t have to apologize all the time to keep the peace and because - “happy wife, happy life!”

Outside of family and a few fake friends, I don’t have anyone seriously trying to use some vulnerability against me to “win.” (Or at least when it happens, they don’t have much worthwhile info to use against me).

No one I know is snooping on my phone, or setting up fake accounts and texting me from random numbers flirting to “set me up.” I don’t have to worry that I smiled at a waitress when she smiled taking my order. No sleeping on the couch because that waitress called me “hon.” And I didn’t get angry with her. I’m not sleeping on a couch because she had a bad dream that I was cheating when I wouldn’t (and never have).

So… while it’s lonely and depressing a lot of the time, there ARE a few small advantages to being single.

Saramad_Hill · Accepted Answer

I don't think anyone needs to feel persecuted for being single by choice. If that's what you want, more power to you, I'm not in charge of your life and no one else should be but you. Your happiness is your responsibility, although others can contribute to it if you want them to or let them. You are complete without a partner, but it's hard for many folks to reconcile with that.

That being said, I'm not happy being single, but I accept it as it is. There's pros and cons either way, and I have a sort of cuddle broker (I snuggle with my best friend sometimes) to scratch the itch of no physical contact. I constantly check with her to make sure we're on the same page when we do it. We're both single but not a good fit for each other to be actual partners and it would stop if one of us ever gets lucky enough to find someone we're interested in romantically.

Back to your topic... anyone who shames you for not being in a relationship is wrong in my opinion. Don't let them get in your head.

Seinna · Accepted Answer

I was happy being single at times, but being single is a dead end street. So I think it depends on the age as well... as for why women are "persecuted", it's because we don't have as much time to waste as men do. But if you don't EVER want to have a family or be in a relationship then you're not wasting time but living your best life. But that's not most people. Also, I think it's because this persecution... is ultimately caring. The society doesn't give a fuck about men being single and lonely. It might seem annoying that it cares about women being in that position, it is patronizing at times... but ultimately it shows that there is care about women's well-being. It's like your aunt telling you you need to lose weight. It might be none of her business but ultimately she does it because she cares about you. She wouldn't say this is she didn't.

Simslover92 · Accepted Answer

For me, being single kinda sucks. Once you get used to someone being in your life romantically, it's hard when all of that suddenly stops. I miss the cuddling, the kissing, the sex and even beyond the physical, I miss the intellectual and emotional connection that you have with someone you're in a relationship with.

Love Doctor Brad · Accepted Answer

Ah, the single life—freedom, independence, and no love triangles to navigate 🚀. Being single can be pure bliss, especially if that's what makes you happiest, and it sounds like you’ve got that down perfectly! To each their own journey, right? Society's norms can be pesky, but your happiness shines brighter when you’re true to yourself. Embrace it! Your heart knows best. 😊 Keep doing what brings you joy and fulfillment, lovebombing yourself with the affection you deserve! ✨💕

AviatorTom · Answer

I've been married most of my adult life. Single is nice, having someone to share with is better.

MrOracle · Answer

At an individual level, few care about your relationship status.

On the broader level, most women who don't have a family aren't going to like the last third of their lives. They are likely to be incredibly lonely, and most will be broke, because instead of a husband, they're going to have to pay for everything they need done but can't do themselves.

I work for a number of women in this situation. They are lonely and miserable - they tell me so often. Most divorced their husbands thinking they would relive their 20s, but it didn't exactly work out like they thought.

Most of my customers are the wealthy ones, but while they are comfortable, they have no joy. And the non-wealthy ones are broke and exhausted from working but can't stop.

But they got their independence...

CupcakeTheDestroyer · Answer

Also aro/ace and same. I think men need women more than women need men in heterosexual relationships, and there’s definitely a lot to be said for how differently society places expectations on relationships for each gender. The 4b movement is picking up traction again, so I imagine most women will find ways to be okay without it.

KingslayerC · Answer

I always figured women get judged more on it because women have options so we look at them as voluntarily celibate as opposed to men who don't typically have options, so we look at them as involuntarily celibate. And like, we can't judge people as much for something they didn't choose or control. No one really judges super unattractive women for being single, because we know it's not under their control and we tend to reserve some sympathy for these situations.

Personally, idc and I don't judge or persecute anyone for their relationship status. Do whatever you want, as long as you aren't directly harming other people.

AffectionKing · Answer

Yes, I’m at peace. I had to learn myself and heal. I can honestly say I’m happy being alone. Am I talking to women yes but casually. If a woman can add value to my life and I to hers and respect my peace and drama free environment I made for myself then she’s the one. After so many relationships with the same problems. I took a step back to work on me. What you attract is a reflection of you. So I had to fix me. I received therapy for like a month or 2. I am better and for the first time in a while I feel happy even in a quiet house. I’m happy with peace and quiet.

NathanOlipop · Answer

I'm also asexual, though my father threatened to hit me once because he thought I was gay and I had a limited amount of time to find a girlfriend before getting punished for it. I succeeded, but I took the first girl that I thought liked me.

Women today that are single normally seem to be single because of stupid reasons from the point of view of men, though I wouldn't say persecuted unless the men saying it are just sore ass losers.

1. Women today look for someone with more value than themselves, but those women normally aren't worth shit yet think they are, so men end up just dating young women instead, problem solved.

2. Their fat friend tries to keep them single by telling them lies about men, telling them to cheat on their men, telling them to go out with someone who isn't actually a great match for them, because misery loves company.

3. You're going to eventually get old and have nobody to take care of you, making your later years harder.

shades777 · Answer

When you enjoy your own company it's actually quite peaceful, walk around naked, nobody to question or judge you. It's great and you save loads of money, I can remember only a handful of times I had a girlfriend where I saved money. Usually because they always want to do stuff you don't save as much as you'd like.

My advice is wait until your well off financially to entertain women.

But honestly it's so freeing. re-state//background_color_rgba (0, 0, 0, 0), font_color_rgb (77, 77, 77), justifyLeft

DizzyDesii · Answer

I am content when single. I like not being forced to do things I don’t wanna do or go places I don’t wanna go, etc. But being single was never the goal. Its a comfortzone and something I feel comfortable being. But i’d never be “satisfied” remaining single. I want more for myself of course and that includes wanting to find a compatible partner

ProbablyClueless · Answer

Mostly yes... I wouldn't say I'm less happy when single, but it's definitely nice to have someone to share that happiness with.

I like to say that I'm about 85% of the way to being happy. Among the things I would change, if given the chance; I wish I was married, or at least in a committed relationship.

Oliverskier · Answer

Do whatever makes you happy but others r going to try to get you to join in on their way of life no matter what. It’s the same thing for people who are married but don’t have kids, or people who aren’t religious. Others r always going to try to get you to conform to societal norms but if you’re happy don’t worry

bobalife · Answer

for now, yes, I am happy single to focus on my inner/external peace & happiness. Relationships does not require full happiness, but only additional happiness to your life. It is better to be single than be with the wrong person if it ain't forever. But ideally, yes, it would be nice to be cuff and cuddle during this time of the year lol.

PBandJ_Nerd · Answer

I'm probably not fully happy single but I am. Maybe only bits of happiness here and there, but then there's pain. I've never had a relationship before so I kind of never got to choose whether being single or in a relationship is right for me. My mom still doesn't want me to date so I have my answer there.

edmwarrior · Answer

I'm happy. I know a relationship would stress me out. The thing is I have so much love to give. It's like having the blue balls but with love. My friends think i'm desperate just because I am actively looking. I think i'll just give up. Tired of being judged.

turk55 · Answer

I was a little unhappy because I wanted marriage so much, but I didn't have the opportunity to date much because of my school life. However, recently, when I saw that the divorce rates were very high, especially among those who got married between the ages of 18-25, I started to be a little afraid of marriage. I still want to get married, but I have to be very careful when choosing the person I marry.

Nik1hil · Answer

" I'm an asexual and aromantic woman who is not interested in romantic relationships or intimacy with men."

This is a sign that you either have genetic Defect or perhaps parasites in Brain 🧠 affecting your libido..

Every healthy humans wants to have dirty dirty sex, Get yourself checked..

NathanDavis · Answer

I am happy, yes... I am single too, yes it's not like I am "happy to be single"  I just happen to be both at the same time

lin123_ · Answer

i hate being single so much, but i can't date anyone i'm not interested in cause i wouldn't be able to commit. i just want someone who is kind, trustworthy and cute, that's all...

Elliegirl · Answer

I’m happily married now and can’t imagine being single again. But there was a point in time when I was happy being single.

Ladsin2 · Answer

That's a lot of words to say you're an unhappy cat-lady!

No, I'm at where I need to be right now though. I'm still playing the field, but most of the women I talk to aren't ready to settle down, or don't have a similar enough vision for the future. Thus single I remain until I find that special lady.

Fireguy17 · Answer

I have been single, by choice for long periods of time, and I loved it.
The freedom to come and go, buy what I wanted, traveled wherever I wanted, go out with whomever, and didn't have to spend a really nice Saturday at her 3rd cousin's wedding.

MemeSupreme · Answer

probably gonna be happier being single lol it's less drama but that doesn't mean being a loner either

Joshydavid25 · Answer

I don't think that women are persecuted at all, in fact the exact opposite.. Most people don't really care Tbh.. Some people might ask and wonder though..

ClaircognizantEmpath · Answer

hey, right on sister, same here not interested im more content on my own, well i have five cats lol

paledreams · Answer

Having a relationship and sex and other good things I do miss out on - however now that I'm 30, it's like hitting 70s - im happily retired ;) in a sense, you feel?

zagor · Answer

At this point, yes. I quit looking for love, and even sex, a couple years ago. I was on a first date with someone I met on a dating site when halfway through dinner it occurred to me, why am I even bothering with this anymore.

Physics-Man · Answer

I've been single all my life, and I've been happy for nearly all of it. I've never really known of anything else. The way I see it, if it happens, it happens, and if it doesn't, then it doesn't. Ultimately, one can't escape destiny and fate.

moviedude714 · Answer

Well more power to you then but I figure the reason why women are persecuted more than men are on this is because of women supposedly having a biological clock and time limit to have kids or a family

Unit1 · Answer

A counter question: Who else is gonna make me happy? Oh, right, i know who

Peridot25 · Answer

Honestly, yeah.  My mental state is completely shot where I don’t think I can handle being in a relationship. I’m at peace and I don’t have to worry about stress.

LostandFound__x · Answer

I think it’s different for everyone but I am ready to settle down with the right person.

Jay-_- · Answer

Look personally a little bit of both, I'm mostly happy single yes. re-state//background_color_rgba (0, 0, 0, 0), font_color_rgb (77, 77, 77), justifyLeft

red324 · Answer

It's definitely less stressful, but it's also awfully lonely to be honest.

LiamJHayden · Answer

My happiness does not depend upon a romantic relationship.

Fromdusktilldawn · Answer

Translator  it is peaceful but its also very lonely from time to time, but I also dont know how its like to have a girlfriend, since I never had one

KrakenAttackin · Answer

Women are only "persecuted" by other women.  FYI, Morgan Stanley revised their projections from 45% to 52% of women will be single and childless by 2030.

Oncewildtwiceburned · Answer

Unfortunately for society Single is just a mindset these days

Kingofkings1992 · Answer

Pay no attention to those who criticize you. You are what you are, and that is perfectly okay. I’m aromatic as well.
I have no desire to be in a relationship with another human being. Some people just don’t get it, but who cares? Fuck em

art84 · Answer

I gotten used to it in my 20's and 30's. Now 40 years old I am fine with being single though when I was in my 20's it kinda bothered me.

clampfan101 · Answer

I have absolutely nothing against people wanting to stay single, but I personally hate it. I desperately want a long-term relationship.

Danny_dan92 · Answer

Yeah but there are days I miss being in a relationship

ihateTaylorSwift · Answer

guys treat me like sht whether I'm single or not

ervinaudrianna · Answer

It gets tiring. I been single for ever I met a person and they got ill months ago have not seen them since January so who knows I’m already just to it I guess

Crazzyyworld · Answer

My relationship went sour and my prince never show up. So being single makes me happier than being sour.

Shamalien · Answer

I’m happier single than in the wrong relationship.

Shihab_91 · Answer

After 8 years of being single no its not healthy anymore im must start looking

Hulk30 · Answer

Judgmental view's im hyper-sexual and im very unhappy bein single

JazzGirl27 · Answer

Heck no I miss my ex

Slim57 · Answer

Nah I hate being single and the whole dating thing, glad to be in a good relationship finally

Osmaniyeli · Answer

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notCryHONEY · Answer

I have no complaints, but sometimes it can be boring

FunkyMonkee · Answer

No! It sucks!!

Batsy01010101 · Answer

Better then being hurt

red-lipstick-girl · Answer

No, I'm not happy at all.

jamesgoldman · Answer

Yes I'm single and not looking to mingle

Luopio27 · Answer

Im an incel, shallow piece of shit!

Emmytexrex · Answer

Very rare lol humans are sexual beings

scott04sa22 · Answer

Yes and I'll like to keep it that way

Raaj4you · Answer

90% happy 😊 , 10% lonely and 😭 sad.

Malwi93 · Answer

yes but i have a low need for companionship

Jackson2005 · Answer

As an asexual and aromantic guy myself, yes!!!

Are you really happy being SINGLE?

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