Am I wrong to leave after 3 years and no discussion of marriage that was discussed before dating is being cared about?

[Anonymous]

My boyfriend and I have will have been together for 3 years as of next spring. I was very honest with him before making it official in our relationship that I am looking for marriage down the line and ideally within 3-3.5 years of dating someone I feel you should know and at least be engaged. Unless you’re just wasting time. He discussed with me that he feels we should live with one another to fully see …. which I can understand that piece so next fall will be 2 years of living together.
Things that I’m assuming should have happened didn’t such as knowing my ring size, going ring shopping, or asking what I may be into etc.
My girlfriends and I have talked and I’ve been stressed as no discussion of marriage or anything he has said and I refuse to be the nagger for a shut up ring or in general and that means for me sticking to my guns and leaving. He’s ok with more children before marriage and that’s not what I’m looking for honestly he has an 18 year old, he’s 40. I turn 30 soon and don’t want to waste my time if I’m not getting what I discussed Before being in a relationship. I love him I just feel sad that he may not be my person.

[caitycat21]

Absolutely not, don’t let this man waste anymore of your time. He’s not serious, especially clarifying that he’s totally fine having more kids without marriage. What happens if he suddenly decides to leave you? Because he has every right to do so and not care for those kids, you’re young and really shouldn’t be going for a single 40 y/o dad anyways

[Asker]

I typically do not but I liked him a lot when meeting and at first I was big on do I consider this with his age but he was mature, emotionally stable, and looks very young. Trust I do not typically date 40 year olds.

[caitycat21]

I don’t think he’s as emotionally mature as you once thought if he’s wasting your time like this, he knows you want kids and to be married yet keeps moving the goal post for making those commitments?

[caitycat21]

Seems like he just wants you to do wife duties without giving you the wife title, doesn’t make sense

[Gwendoline]

He doesn't want marraige long term, maybe with no woman. He wants companionship and sex but you want marraige and kids and the clock is ticking for you.

You should however have a frank discussion

[slatyb]

Do you want to marry him? Ask him. Then you'll have your answer. If he's not ready, then it's time for you to go.

[Rockey_the_bicker]

You are not wrong re-state//background_color_rgba (0, 0, 0, 0), font_color_rgb (77, 77, 77), justifyLeft

[Asker]

Beep boop got it!

[AI Opinion]

Hi fabulous! 🎉 It's perfectly okay to reassess your relationship when your goals and timelines aren't aligning. You deserve someone who shares your vision for the future! Love is about understanding, compromise, and yes, sometimes difficult decisions. If he hasn't taken steps towards marriage despite knowing your wishes, it might be time to have a heart-to-heart conversation or rethink your path forward. Leaving doesn’t mean you don’t love him; it just means you love yourself enough to pursue what truly makes you happy. Trust your gut! 💖✨

[In_Trance]

Why wouldn't you talk about it first?

[Asker]

We’ve discussed he’s very lax about it now before when I mentioned Before saying yes to be in the relationship he told me he wanted to be married and wish he was already but his actions and words aren’t aligning now