The general consensus here is that it is way too soon - and fundamentally I don't disagree. However, don't be so hard on yourself, or each other. This is the early phase. You are new to each other. You make each other happy and every moment is special.
That's not a bad thing. That's a good thing. You have found something that few people find - even in the early stages. Now just take it a step at a time.
Enjoy finding out all about the little things that you each do that make you laugh. All the things that make you think how beautiful she is. Enjoy it and don't rush it - and also, pay attention to all the little things that you each do that maybe annoys the other. All the minor things that you brush off.
Then one day, step back and add it all up - and if it still tallies to the positive, then propose to her. In my case, my girlfriend and I have lived together for ten years and have three children. We don't want to be married. We think that what we have is natural and beautiful.
Still, you might want to live together for a bit, but if not, there is no need to examine your feelings too closely. The funny part is that everyone who is telling you to wait is right - and wrong.
Because for all the waiting and growing you need to do, once you are married you will need to grow more. You will need to learn to be patient and how to compromise and forgive - and no matter how much growing you do before you get married, you won't be able to stop once you do get married.
The truth is, sometimes you meet the right person and that's it. You know it and there you are. You owe it to each other to give it a year, to get some work and life experience under your belts. Then, after that, if your basic feelings have not changed propose to her, knowing that there will still be a lot of growing and learning to do after you say, "I do."
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Its never to late or never too soon in a Relationship... it's about ur satisfaction and ur partner satisfaction... I think u should wait until u know ur partner well.. when u able to analyze her personalities.. the good and bad... currently she is most beautiful and loving entity in ur life... u only seeing this site but what about realities of life.. do any thing conflicting in her.. is any idea or thing that can be issue in ur marriage... the best thing is when u both feel that u both compensate each other and want to live together what concequences and difficulties u may face.. that will be the time u r ready for marriage.. women on other hand start thinking about marriage when they come in relationship... your girlfriend is wise that not putting u in pressure... but she will be waiting for ur response... so keep ur relationship alive and happy and plan things in a way to build your future with her... that's what she expecting from u to gain trust for serious relationship... but a little advice not prolong this period because in life there are up and downs and people may take bad decisions and loose love ones... so analyze her as your wife and things that make ur life good with her and bad as well... I hope u might need 5 6 months more to reach a decision...
I don't think it's too soon to talk about it and just say that it's something you do want one day. She probably feels the same way to be honest but doesn't want to freak you out (like you said). I definitely wouldn't make any sort of plans or even think about proposing yet though.
I would maybe think about moving in together first and taking the other steps like introducing her to family if you haven't already. There's no point rushing these things because that is when you most likely get hurt. I can understand that sometimes you do want to just get on with things when you think you've found the right person, but she's not going anywhere :)
Its ok to maybe hint that one day it may happen, but I wouldn't propose yet its too early to tell really. My boyfriend hinted at marrying me less than two months into the relationship and before he had even kissed me. But it makes me feel special when he says things like that because it means he sees a future with me and has said i'm the one he's been looking for all of his life. I love that because it is sweet, but I've also told him I'm too young to get married now so at least we know we will wait for a bit. Its sweet,, but make sure you're realistic about it so wait until the relationship is more serious.
Biochemically, you are still caught up in the hormonal rush of neurotransmitters until 4-6 months. In that time frame, the initial infatuation wears off, allowing you to see what bad habits your partner has, and whether you can accept them. So yeah, give it at least a few more months to make sure you can both deal without getting massively annoyed. Also, highly suggest living together before marriage, at least a couple days a week if not full time. You never really know someone until you live with them.
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1st of all, your fear of getting hurt is a potential threat within itself to ruin it, so feel more confident about it. 2nd off, there is no certain number of hours, days, weeks, months, or years you should do anything in a relationship. You can't try to live your relationship by a formula. What you need to do is make your dicisions in your relationship based off of if you feel like it feels right to get married, or kiss, or say i love you, or do anything positive. Postponing marrage just because it seems like its to soon should not have to do with your decision to get married. If you feel as if you would love to be married to this wonderful woman in your life then go for it. If she thinks its to soon then try to explain what i just explained to you to her. If she doesn't feel like its right then just keep the relationship going. To me it sounds like you are both very ready and anxious to get married on the inside but are to fearful of mistakes in your mind. Do what you feel is right and you'll be fine.
Girls do not change their minds easier than guys do. Some girls do, some guys do. The fact they are male or female is irrelevant. Nobody wants to get hurt. The reason I get so many people consult me for psychic tarot readings about their relationships is to avoid being hurt. Far more sensible to find out if it will work out before you settle down then find out after. http://www.accuratepsychiceadingsonline.com
Don't listen to them. My best friends parents met and married within 6 months and have been together for over 4 decades.
Don't look at your relationship based on time, look at it based on events. How many dates? Have you spent a whole weekend together? ETC
Only propose if you are sure that she is forever, think hard about it, do you want anyone else? Are you happy? Is the love real? Where do you see your relationship in 5 years, does she see it the same way?
Proposing also doesn't mean an immediate wedding. People are often engaged for a full year. Give her a ring to prove you are fully monogamous and committed. Then figure the rest out.- u
These days, I would think that it's too soon, but it also depends on the couple. My girlfriend and I started talking about marriage in less than a month, but we'd already known each other for almost a year, had talked about many things, and already had a generally clear idea of what we wanted in life and in relationships.
My former roommate and his girlfriend (now wife) started dating last August and were engaged by October. And one of our other friends proposed after only about the same amount of time that you and your girlfriend have been together.
Now, as a disclaimer, everyone that I have mentioned, myself and my girlfriend included, are all active and faithful Catholics and marriage is a big thing in the Church, so that's something else to consider.
I would tell most other people to proceed with utmost caution, simply because they likely have not had the same formation and influence as the people I've mentioned. if you still have this: " I'm a bit afraid to get too emotional attached to her because I know girls tend to change their minds easier than guys do." then yeah you still need time to get to know her. marriage is something that you are ultimately confident in her. also in due time if you Can have a marriage and you see her and u very good chemistry, she is very close, then yeah go for it. if you have gone through the stages of talking about the various levels of your relationship, then u can talk about marriage too. even after you have proposed to her, you guys are still not married, so there is no promise and it is not wrong to break up, but we dont want that. 4 months is not enough in my opinion. you need to know her really really well. see how u guys respond to each other in all kinds of situations and how u work it out. marriage is the real and its the big thing, you wanna be serious about it. i just wish the best for you guys and may you guys be happy in life :)
I'm not bashing you or anything, but this is the problem with millennials -- we move too quickly! Slow it down a bit. There's no need to rush into marriage or start thinking about it this early into the relationship. Spend time together, get to know one another, move in together a few years down the road and if you still feel the same, get the ball rolling.
I am telling you all this, because I see a lot of people our age rush into shit. I have female friends who have babies with men they haven't even known for 4 months, and now they are all single mothers. I also have friends who got married 5 months into a relationship and ended up getting a divorce a year later.
What you are experiencing right now is the "honeymoon phase". That's when the relationship is new and everything feels so great and wonderful.I'd suggest you come down from the clouds a little. You've only been dating for 4 months. It's best for you to date a little while longer before you go down the aisle. So, yes. It's a little too soon to be talking marriage. You need to give it a little more time. Remember, marriage is a lifetime commitment. Make sure both of you understand what marriage is truly all about. Get to know each other as much as possible so that you know you're both making the right decision. What's the point of getting married if you're gonna rush it and likely end up divorced down the road anyways?
I would advise waiting. Even if you're very much in love and will end up loving each other 'til the end, only time can tell. A relationship has to go through different situations and hardships before you can really tell if it's a sustainable relationship (in my opinion). Even after years of being together, there can be lots left to learn about each other.
So I would wait and not worry about it too much, partly to avoid the pressure that inevitably comes with the promise of marriage.You and your girl are still in the beginning of the honeymoon phase of the relationship. A few more months and you'll be in the phase where everything is more real. Keep telling her you love her, if you do. Don't take the bait of marriage talk yet when she brings it up. Find something else to say, like "I'm not scared, I love you, but I am enjoying the here and now with you."
It's not too soon to be talking about it, however, statistics show that you should wait at least 4 years before getting married. Your chances of staying together go up by 20% every 4 years. So if the statistic is naturally 50/50, after 4 years, your chances of staying together becomes 70%, and so on, so forth.
But talking about it early on isn't a bad thingYes it is too soon because you don't know whether you truly love her or if it's just because of the honeymoon phase. It's never better to rush with those things, because most of the time when you take a rushed decision you later on regret it.
So take your time, get to know each other well, spend a lot of time together, give it a few more months or even a year if you want. Marriage won't run away, if you're destined to be together you will be. So no need to rushCool your jets a bit. My wife and I began talking about marriage and discussing how we would be together in the first few months as well, but that doesn't mean you're ready for marriage. You need to spend way more time together. See each other through highs and lows. If you aren't forbidden by absurd religious practices, move in together in a year or so. Living with someone is waaaay different than dating, even if you spend literally every day together. My wife basically lived in my apartment for 2 years before we moved in together, and I learned so much about her once we moved in that I would have never known before. Some good, some bad, bit all important.
Most of all just have fun, don't be in a rush. When it feels right, you'll know.I don’t think it’s too soon to ‘talk about it’. Because it’s nice to know that you are both thinking/ heading in the right direction. But you need time to get to know one another. You are young. Don’t rush this time. If she is the right girl for you, she will wait and enjoy the time getting to know you.
I met my ex-wife Jan 10, 1989. We spent every day but one together from then until I went into the military on Feb 14, 1989. I came home May 27 and proposed. We were together 25 years and have 3 boys. When you know, you know. Doesn't matter if you have been together 4 hours, 4 months or 4 years.
That being said, the best thing you can do is live together first. Spend at least a year living together, 2 is better. That is the only way to really know if you are compatible.Hey that's good you both are happy, but just ease your way first. Try living together a little while first. Somethings can change once you're with them longer. It doesn't have to change for the worse, just saying you need to see what that's like first.
‘Girls tend to change their minds easier than guys do’
in my opinion, they never makeup their mind in the first place. They let you think they did while they are still evaluating.
Till you have been together 2+ years, the odds of it not lasting are huge. I would wait till a year end to even think of proposing but still don’t marry till 2+ years in.This sounds amazing, I love seeing this kind of thing. Definitely do what you are planning to do which is wait a few months (id say wait another 6-8 rather than 4), but if you wanted to gauge her response see how she reacts if you talk about kids, moving in together, and marriage (but casually)
Yes it's too soon.
Is it JUST emotion? No one here can really know that for sure. I can say if you've only known her for less than a year that it's probably just emotions. It's fine to know what you want. So if you want to be married to someone, maybe not specifically her in x number of years. That's fine to lay out there. So anyone you spend time with knows that's in the cards for you.
But realistically talking about you two getting married? For sure need to chill lolIt’s not too soon to talk about it. It’s too soon to actually get married, but how would you know if you’re compatible if you don’t start actually talking about important shit like that?
Be careful people change situations may come up where that person is you one year relationships have been happy the whole way through till u find out that person meant everything to u and u were nothing to them over some dumb shit u do what u feel confident about chances are if u have to ask there's ur answer
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