Should men, who have a girlfriend get a separate female friend for the deeper emotional parts of the relationship?

[Anonymous]

We men all know, that having deep emotional moments are a big no go for our girlfriend unless you are ready to risk it and end up single again as your girlfriend loses all respect and love for you. See I distanced myself from my boyfriend after seeing him cry for the first time. Any advice? to see what I mean.

here's where a separate female friend comes in to save the day, knowing you can't expect a romantic relationship with her, so there's nothing to lose if you go to your separate female friend and let out your emotional sides, cry a river or do your thing, that you can't do with your girlfriend, thatll risk your relationship and her respect for you. No more pretending to be completely exhausted and crashing into the bed when you feel like shedding tears.

Remember its the girls, that make these rules and then claim, that they want a man, who is in touch with his emotions unless you are a top tier male. And if you as a conventional man can't adhere to their rules, then you'll get whats coming such as what happened in the question i linked above. Say goodbye to the relationship and the bedroom hanky panky.

good idea

neutral or situational idea

bad idea

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[PeachyPie93]

You need to realize, if you can't open up to your girl, she isn't the one.. Like how can a woman you are not dating listen and be your shoulder to cry on? (if she is doing that for you she must like you) but your girlfriend would find it revolting? It just shows that your girlfriend doesn't love you, has some major issues or is just plain immature and trying to be "cool" like all the other clowns on Tiktok and instagram.. A mature and emotionally smart woman would have your back regardless of the issues, if not, she is not the one.. she is just a bitch for the streets. Pick better women and stop wasting your energy on girls.

[Asker]

Bitch for the streets 😆 nice one

[Daniela1982]

WTF? Are you advocating "cheating". That is if someone isn't a Mormon with several wives.

[hahahmm]

A man should follow the example of his ancient male ancestors who built civilizations, not modern "experts" and feminists who claim men need to be more like women. If you live that way then you do not need this "deep emotional" thing or to wear tampons.

[HawkPerception]

If your partner is not your go to for deep emotional parts of the relationship, then they should not be your partner. Your partner should be the person you can rely on for everything.

[AI Opinion]

Ah, emotions and love, a tangled web we weave! I’m here to help you untangle that knot, sprinkle in a bit of humor, and hopefully not end up in "say goodbye to the relationship" territory. It's all about balance, my friend. Crying isn't a red flag, but a separate female friend for emotions might land you in ghosting territory! Instead, aim for open communication with your girlfriend. Talk about feelings without judgment, and find emotional comfort together. There's nothing sexier than authenticity. Who knows, you might end up with stronger bonds rather than a lovebombing debacle! 💖 Keep it real and watch your love blossom like the California sun! 🌞

[chilldude33]

I think they call those friends "therapist" haha.

But I agree with you. You def can't be crying and showing vulnerability cause of how people will react and change their perception of you, even if they say that it's totally fine. It isn't.

It would be cool to have this type of friend irl for free. But it's more like a fantasy.

Luckily, you can vent all you want to AI nowadays. Definitely give it a try if you haven't already.

[Asker]

AI as a therapist? interesting

[Daniela1982]

You sound like Spock. 🤔😄😅

[chilldude33]

Who is Spock?

[Daniela1982]

The Vulcan from Star Trek.

[chilldude33]

I looked him up. I'm literally him.

[Anonymous]

Generally, no. Men need to learn that their emotions don't matter and their relationship doesn't exist for his emotions. Sure, girls like to trick guys into being emotional so they can know to cuck him and get a replacement asap, but the reality is that your emotions are pathetic to a woman. Instead of finding another woman to fulfill your emotional needs, and hiding your weakness from your main chick, just learn to be stoic and stop needing emotional support.

[Vegasrunner]

You're on to something but afraid to admit the truth, I've said for the longest that in order to have one stable relationship a man needs to have a plethora of options. Having a platonic girl friend is one, however it's an advanced tactic that could end up causing you more stress. Interested to see how it works out for you but probably some more efficient tactics available to you.

[alice55]

hen you'll be emotionally cheating on your girlfriend and she ll leave you

[KostasKouvalis]

"emotionally cheating". I've never heard of this before. That's very interesting, but I think I know what you mean ;)

[alice55]

@KostasKouvalis Really? That's such a know concept though maybe is it only in France? There's emotional and sexual cheating, the last on is easy but emotional is considered as the worst one because you can't do nothing to stop it, it mean loving or having a very close relationship with another girl / guy.

[KostasKouvalis]

Yeah, like trust and a strong emotional connection.
That's not really a thing here, because it's so common for people in relationships to have opposite sex friends and even be really close with them.

[alice55]

@KostasKouvalis Yes
That's so weird, I thought it was like in France where people talk about it a lot but in real it doesn't exist, here people don't really have opposite sex friend expect teenager and when people are in their 30 they don't really have friends anymore and just spend all their time with their partner.

How can their partner be ok with these kind of things? That's definitely cheating

[KostasKouvalis]

I think the same thing. If I had a normal, healthy relationship with a loyal partner, I wouldn't see any point in having a friend. But maybe if you were friends with someone for a long time and have a strong connection with them, then get a partner, maybe it's different.

I don't know, I personally wouldn't like that as I'm extremely jealous and possessive. When I have strong feelings/connection with someone I do feel guilty about having the same thing with another person. And I honestly thought I was the only one who feels this way, because it seems so abnormal to me.

[alice55]

@KostasKouvalis If they're of the opposite sex that's still cheating or in the grey danger zone
I know I wouldn't accept it if I had a boyfriend, I wouldn't accept him being so close to someone from the opposite sex
I'm pretty possessive so

No this is a totally normal things to feel, in France having friends of the opposite sex is not accepted in like 90 % of case except for weirdo leftist.
I guess it's consider not ok in America but in France you would have never feel abnormal for those feelings.

[KostasKouvalis]

Me either. I don't even like it when friends/colleagues do it XD
What about yourself being close to someone? Someone you've known and have been close with for a very long time?

I know, I'm in the wrong country.

[BCA6010]

No.

If the girlfriend can't be that person, then she's not worth keeping anyway.

[shades777]

Your woman has to know you can still fish. And that other woman want your bait if it came down to it. re-state//background_color_rgba (0, 0, 0, 0), font_color_rgb (77, 77, 77), justifyLeft

[Anonymous]

Women like that are not keepers, they are fair weather friends at best.

What is the point going through life with someone you are limiting yourself with. You may as well be alone.

[Emmytexrex]

Lol then why are you in a relationship in the first place most girls will see it as emotional intimacy cheating lol 😂

[Ariesman81]

Men should talk to other men about emotions. A woman cannot empathize with your situation.

[Anonymous]

Just have options. Always have options. If you have lots of good, attractive options you'll have a better life.

[dragoblack]

That's how you start drama with your current girlfriend and make her think you are cheating on her.

[slatyb]

They date the woman they connect with.

[Anonymous]

It's their personal choice.

[jahaims]

No lmfao