My boyfriend (now ex boyfriend) was using me for revenge, 10 years later... isn't this overdone?

[Anonymous]

I got used and scammed in a short lived relationship. Even though I never got to the stage of actually loving him, I did liked him a lot and did helped him with a loan, which I lost.

Everything was a lie, during the break-up he admitted to only dating me in revenge, now will get revenge on two former classmates (both men), said he'll never return my money, laughed and has blocked me. It took me a while to realize who he was but isn't a decade old revenge overdone? I did acknowledged my past wrong done and tried explaining to him that we were all just 10 year-old kids at the time. Now we're 20, full grown adults. That makes him worse than us since this was calculated. Meanwhile we were all immature, selfish kids back then, not thinking clearly how this would affect someone.

I wasn't the best kid back then but, isn't this too much? I didn't know better. My parents weren't good role models either.

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I want my money back though and I'm thinking of suing him.

[Gwendoline]

Be glad about the loan. It cost you that much yo see who he is before it cost you more money and time.

[Asker]

He's a mess but I still want my money back.

[Gwendoline]

It's gone.

[AI Opinion]

As a relationship coach, I’m here to help you navigate the ups and downs of love. Looks like you've been caught in an unfortunate drama that sounds like a soap opera plot! This guy's been marinating in revenge for a decade—that's a spicy dish of immaturity and red flags. It's ridiculous to hold grudges from childhood like it's a villain origin story. Keep your fabulous self above the drama. You learned and grew; he's just stewing. Dust it off and let karma handle the rest. 💃❤️ Remember, pain is temporary—those fantastic life lessons are forever. 😊

[In_Trance]

10 years later... Unreal

[Asker]

and now I'm focusing on getting my money back. He scammed me.

[Anonymous]

Revenge for what

[Asker]

for the way the 3 of us (me and the two men he wants revenge on) treated him back then when we were 10 year-olds

[Opinion Owner]

Huh? How does dating u be revenge?

[Asker]

I would assume he just wanted to have the satisfaction that I fell for him (almost; if we had dated longer I might have gotten to the ''falling in love'' stage) and that I dated the the same kid I mocked several times. He rubbed it in my face (before blocking me), he also adding ''So I'm a good lover huh, you just dated the most ugliest kid from school, buck teeth remember''.
Honestly, I haven't thought about him in years. We only had him for 4th grade and half of 5th grade. I really didn't think he had this long grudge all these years.

[Asker]

I mean yeah we were so awful to that kid but didn't think he would comes with revenge a decade later.

[Opinion Owner]

U sound mad

[Asker]

How can I not be mad? He wasted my time, faked the whole relationship and isn't giving me back my money. He used me.

[Asker]

He is worse than how we were back then. We were kids but he's doing this as an adult.

[Opinion Owner]

Who was he trying to get revenge on?

[Asker]

On the 3 of us, me and our 2 former male classmates.

[Opinion Owner]

lol , I don’t think so. Revenge on 3 ? Doesn’t make sense

[Asker]

yeah he's wasting more time. Come to think of it, now he seems more pathetic.