Boyfriend used to spoil his ex rotten? not so much the case with me...

[Anonymous]

i don't expect him to buy me everything and give me money. I'm not a mooch or anything but I can't help but feel bad knowing he spoiled his ex rotten. bought her everything she wanted, and bought her things he knew she wanted but didn't even ask him for, took her on vacations, gave her lots of money. he also did this (but not as extreme) with another girl he KIND of dated, but it was only an online/texting/phone relationship. he never met her in person, she was friends through his cousin and lived out of state. but, he would buy her expensive presents and send them to her surprising her. I am kind of jealous, I am insecure so this kinda makes me feel like I'm not loved as much as them or I'm not as pretty as them. I saw their photos and they aren't that attractive at all, so in my messed up brain I started thinking "maybe I'm uglier than them" even though I am very much above average looking, but still it made me think that maybe I am delusional and I'm really ugly. I told a few of my close friends this and they said I'm crazy. I don't know what I am doing wrong, I'm not the kind of girl to demand things because in my eyes I'm worth nothing, yeah I'm a good person, very loving, sweet, pretty, but I still feel worthless. I've hard bad relationships in the past where guys treated me like total poop so it made me get VERY down on myself, sorry if I sound like a whiny cat lol. but guys, what do you think about this? what could be the reason he does this (or doesn't lol) girls? =)

[Apodyopsis]

There's a reason why these girls are called his exes.

Maybe they took advantage of that and stayed in the relationship solely to be bought things, not because of love and upon realising that he stopped doing it.

I don't know but what I know for sure is that you should stop torturing yourself and just talk to him about it.

Don't be all bitchy, use your words in a fashion that conveys the meaning in a subtle way.

I bet he has a good reason though

[minx101d]

I understand where you are coming from, however I think he just learned from his mistake and realized that these other girls were probably using him. He probably just wants to know you are with him because you like him and not for the gifts and money.

[DebiPie]

Maybe he learned his leason from those women and he's not going to be so extravagant now. And it has nothing to do with you.

Do you buy him a lot of gifts? Take him on vacas? Give him $$$? No? Then don't complain.

It's all good.

[Asker]

i do buy him things, I just don't have a good job since I am on disability and don't have that great of an income so I can't buy him really expensive gifts or take him to super nice places

[DebiPie]

Does he buy you anything? Give you anything? Take you to dinner ever?

[Shy_Steve]

I don't think he wants to do that with you because he doesn't want it to end the same way.

[FrancoBattiato]

Haven't I already answered this question?

Maybe he's strapped for cash

[Asker]

no sir. not strapped for cash. actually got a raise and promoted.

[FrancoBattiato]

Yeah I have already answered this last month I believe

[Anonymous]

She got him by the balls and used him for her benefit. Now he probably learned his lesson..

[Lilmissvirgin]

I get how you feel to the core