I put effort into my appearance but I’ve never really been approached by boys my age like that? I know i definitely am pretty shy which might be holding me back but I think I’m pretty approachable? (Picture is of me for reference)
I just guess I find myself really lonely most of the time, I don’t think I really do anything normal for people my age since I have no friends and I’m currently enrolled in schooling online which makes it even harder so I wanted advice on how I can put myself out there better and gain confidence.
I’d really like to at least maybe experience young love, I’m about to be 19 and I’ve never had a real relationship. I feel behind a lot of my peers in many aspects, I really haven’t had any type of close relationship with anyone my age in years so it’s been getting to me a lot lately.
Need advice on how to gain more confidence and put myself out there more?
Aw sista, I hear you on feeling a bit shy and lacking in confidence when it comes to putting yourself out there. That can be such a tough spot to be in, especially when you see all your peers seemingly navigating relationships and social stuff so easily.
But the good news is, you've already taken the first step by recognizing this is an area you want to work on. That self-awareness is huge! And just know that you're definitely not alone in feeling this way - a lot of us go through periods of struggling with confidence and feeling "behind" our friends.
My advice would be to start small and focus on building up your self-assurance from the inside out. Maybe try setting some achievable goals for yourself, like making one new online friend or trying a new hobby that gets you out of the house a bit more. Little by-steps like that can make a big difference.
And don't be so hard on yourself! You're still super young, so there's no need to feel like you're "behind" or missing out on anything. Relationships and social connections will come in time - the key is being patient and kind to yourself in the meantime.
As for the appearance stuff, it sounds like you're already putting in the effort, which is awesome. But try not to get too caught up in whether or not boys are approaching you. Focus on dressing in a way that makes you feel confident and comfortable, not just for their attention.
When it comes to actually putting yourself out there, something as simple as making eye contact, smiling, and being open to conversation can go a long way. Don't be afraid to initiate small talk or introduce yourself to new people, either online or in-person. The more practice you get, the easier it'll become.
And remember, true confidence isn't about how many friends or romantic partners you have. It's about being secure in who you are and not needing external validation. Keep working on loving yourself, girl - the rest will follow.
You've got this! Just take it one step at a time, be patient with yourself, and don't be afraid to put yourself out there a little more. The right connections will come when the time is right. Sending you all the positive vibes!
You are attractive and probably just need to be around more people so guys will approach you. Guys your age can be shy too, so you may have to try to be brave and try talking to them first. If you need to find ways to meet guys, try joining clubs that interest you that aren't only for women. Hopefully when you are in university or college, you will be attending classes in person so you will be around a lot of guys.
Hey there! Navigating the dating scene can feel a bit like walking into a crowded party and realizing you forgot your dance shoes. 🎉 Trust me, you're not alone! Let's boost that confidence to stratospheric levels! Embrace what makes you unique and let those qualities sparkle. Work on self-love and get comfortable with small talk; believe me, practice makes perfect. Social media can be a not-so-surprising wingman for meeting people, and that online school might open up ways to network and connect with others in your interests. Remember, you don’t need to rush into love—taking your time will help you find someone who appreciates you for who you are, inside and out. Keep that head up and keep shining; love's a journey, not a race! 🚀💕
First things first you have to go into the bathroom and look yourself in the mirror and I mean really look at yourself in detail and then say I love you
You have to love yourself first you have to believe in yourself. Because then your confidence comes straight from your heart your soul your spirit your mind your energy
Believe in who you are believe in your beliefs and own it There is no reason in this world you should not have any confidence I look into your eyes in that picture and with everything that I see you are very beautiful human being from the inside out.
If you love and believe in yourself and the things that you think of and dream of and you will have no problem being happy confidence and always smiling I'm surprised you don't have a hundred guys knocking at your door each and every day and just remember you are your own boss don't let anybody ever tell you what to do especially a guy.
I just had to stop myself right there and I'm thinking what am I talking about when this girl gets it all together there's going to be no stopping her I don't think you need advice I think you need experience but you never day you will experience something different and new and beautiful and go for it go with it because that's how you learn about everything but just believe in yourself
There's no reason not to you're not on this planet to please anybody so don't be embarrassed about whatever you think or what you believe in just let it become it it will all come together
Well here is the thing stop waiting on someone else if you’re wanting someone it’s your responsibility to put yourself out there. If you like someone then approach and see where it goes. I understand that it’s hard believe me I get it.
You’re also still young so take time to find someone you’re genuinely attracted to. Don’t become too desperate to jump into a relationship with just anybody
Sounds like a tough situation, and I feel for you forsure, but don't overthink it. your friends don't need to be your age, half my friends are fair amount older than me, and the other half way younger. I know it seems like everybody is doin the same basic bullshit. That's just what you see from the outside, most people have their own individual interests and hobbies, that you may not know about. So don't stress on not being into the same things as "everyone else". I'm sure plenty of people enjoy whatever it is you like to do you just have to find out who (like the pina colada song), and even if they don't seem like social activities, doesn't mean you can't find a way to make em that way. Think about what us men are into, Cars, working out, watching sports, Videogames, and anime/comics... I feel like most of those aren't particularly social... but i'll tell you what we make em social. We find and go to Car facebook groups, and meets, Anime/comic conventions, videogames we play online (i've met quite a few friends online) watching sports (this one maybe a little less, cuz it's a good reason to go to a bar). Feeling lonely is totally normal, and it happens to everyone. don't let social media make you think everybody is on top of the world, and that you're alone, most of that crap is bullshit anyways. (check my shitt and tell me I don't look like I be doin stuff IG: CJ Zaboo (public (I think) Being social can be hard, especially If you're shy HOWEVER it's equally important to try and step outside of your comfort zone, and talk to people (which is the toughest part). It can feel weird to just start talking to somebody but most people actually don't mind... unless you say some dickhead shitt (which i do all the time, and it seems to work out ok anyways) 😂 . but friendly observations can lead to some decent conversation. example movie/show reference on clothes, shirts with jokes, or sports teams (which usually tells you where people are from) practical items, like carrying a skateboard, motorcycle helmet, or even just general observations on their style.
To gain more confidence and "put yourself out there" more, focus on identifying your strengths, stepping outside your comfort zone by taking on new challenges, practicing positive self-talk, surrounding yourself with supportive people, and actively taking care of your physical and mental well-being; consider setting small achievable goals, embracing self-care, and learning to accept compliments.
Key strategies: Identify your strengths: Make a list of your skills, talents, and positive qualities to remind yourself of what you excel at.
Challenge your comfort zone: Intentionally put yourself in situations that feel slightly uncomfortable, like joining a new club or initiating conversations with new people.
Positive self-talk: Consciously replace negative thoughts with encouraging affirmations about yourself.
Seek supportive people: Surround yourself with friends and family who uplift and believe in you.
Set achievable goals: Start with small, manageable goals that you can build on to gain confidence in your abilities.
Practice good self-care: Prioritize healthy habits like regular exercise, good nutrition, and enough sleep.
Body language: Maintain good posture, make eye contact, and smile to project confidence.
Accept compliments: When someone compliments you, acknowledge it and believe in the positive feedback.
Learn from setbacks: View challenges as opportunities to grow and learn, not as failures.
Visualize success: Imagine yourself confidently achieving your goals to boost your belief in your abilities.
Don't overthink it and just do it! Putting yourself out there with confidence is about preparation, practice, and a positive mindset. Believe in your unique value, communicate it effectively, and seize every opportunity to connect with others. Never act like you are bigger or better than everyone.
Would definitely encourage you to not even sweat the fact that you might be behind your peers in the dating pool. You seem like a beautiful woman and guys will be lucky to get to know you for who you are at heart. Don't rush things, and just take the time to get involved with local groups or free get togethers. One site you can look into is called "meetup" I believe, and there's different types of groups that cater to different types of hobbies and activities on it so you can browse through and find different ones that interest you. It's usually set up in public settings or over a zoom group meeting from the comfort of your home, so it is accommodating as well as provides you with a safe way to meet likeminded new people in a public setting. I believe even in the app or on the site when they announce their next get together it even tells you the number of people going as well as shows their profile photos so you can get a general idea of the people who will be attending. Like I said, take up a hobby that interests you with likeminded individuals and it's a good way to meet new people and get your foot in the door.
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I'm in the same boat as you and I'm nearly 30 and I lived that too. The lonelyness does get really hard I can sympathize with that, and I wish I could tell you it gets better, but it doesn't it only gets worse. That said I recommend you try to find ways to be more active in your local area and expose yourself to places where you can meet and talk to new people. You could see if there are any hobby clubs in your area or see if there are any social spots you can hang out that are communal. Also, just a small tip if you want to try and get guys to notice you but wear your hair down not up. You've got great locks but doing them up in a bun doesn't show them off enough. That head of hair of yours is an asset girl use it. You're lucky with your eyes too. They match your hair well. If you put yourself out there in places you can meet people and dress up a little bit and tweak your hair you'll probably have so many suitors you'll have to beat them off with a stick. Dating really isn't that hard for woman as long as they communicate, make it clear and look for it. Guys have a much harder time because woman are really picky.
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first. of all you are extremely beautiful. i used to be super shy and reserved but I've been working on myself a lot, and now im way more confy talking to new people and i feel like people are drawn to me!
i started working on myself, like working out and eating healthy. rhise things will make your body feel good, which scientifically boosts good hormones. also not trying to sound like a cunt, but SMILING helos so much. try smiling at yourself in the mirror, and start getting comfortable smiling at strangers and making eye contact while oit in public. i worked a lot on inviting body language, for example try to avoid crossing your arms or looking down a lot. keeo your chin up your chest out and look arounf the room. lastly, its really important to get practice. try to go out a couple tomes a week and aim to meet some new people. soon enough you'll be super comfy and attract new people! hope this helps girlie❤️
Talking to people face to face. The more you do it, the easier it gets and the more confidence you gain.
Start out just by walking up to old people at the store and just talk to them while you're waiting in line and work you way up to the younger people your own age.
Trust me, I started out just like you. Now I can walk up to anybody any age or gender without fear.
Per your photo: - you look down - your mouth is closed (do you have any visible teeth problems?) - you are not smiling - you look sad - you have zero make up on you Your photo says that you are shy, not confident in yourself, that you are afraid of something, you are sad.
Start with: - smile! - head up! not down... Later follow with... - get earrings - learn how to do make up and do it daily (but not soft and delicate one) - get fake lashes Do you still remember to smile and keep your head up? :)
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I actually do have makeup on in the photo, I just usually go for a more natural look. I don’t really have teeth problems, I do have a bit of a gap in the middle of my teeth though I’ve been teased for it in the past I just instinctively don’t tend to smile in photos or smile without teeth showing. I would like to get my ears pierced and I don’t necessarily see the point in getting fake eyelashes, my natural eyelashes are already pretty long. I am looking to get my ears pierced soon though since I’ve wanted to do that for a while now !
Confidence is overrated. Whether people take an interest in you or not is based on their opinion of you, not your opinion of you. And their opinion is going to be based mostly on what they see the first time. You can fake confidence and it works just as well as real confidence. And the first step to faking confidence is learning to confront your fears. Life can be scary, but you have to step out and do scary things sometimes even if you don't want to, as if you don't you'll just end up rotting in your room until it is too late. You might not want to make choices, but sometimes you just have to flip a coin and do anything so you don't end up doing nothing. You can handle the consequences because you have to.
What makes you feel insecure? Fix that and you will love yourself more. Like me, i was so insecure with my teeth, because the gap. And i fixed it with braces. Now i feel confident more.
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I wish it was that easy, I also have a gap tho it’s not that big and It would be too expensive to pay for braces for such a small issue. My confidence issues are also not so easy to fix though I’m trying my best to 😅
The best way to work on your confidence is to socialize with people, force yourself to socialize and the more you get used to it, it will get easier, as time goes by you'll find confidence, to find confidence within yourself, you'll have to shake off peoples opinions about you and know your worth and what you have to offer to someone else, dont let them devalue that worth.
It is just experience. Half of being grown up is pretending you aren't afraid of failure, truth is everyone is, but some people are willing to try in hopes they don't fail the next time. Just remember to be yourself. And be true to yourself. Another trick is to ask questions, people usually like to talk about their lives and opinions.
Girllll have you seen you? You are gorgeous. You are still young so don't rush into things quickly. I suggest you go to small gatherings like volunteer events and just be yourself and make some friends. Later on this will help you be more confident and you can step into the dating scene because you will be more comfortable expressing yourself. I'm 22 and a girl myself. For me I think it's really important to be just friends with a guy for at least 3 weeks to get to know him a bit and if he is showing you that he genuinely likes you let him ask you out but keep your boundaries dont wait in the friend zone for a long time. Also pls dont settle yourself for a situationship , shit like that messes your life and really makes you question your self worth.
Public speaking is a thing that can get easier with practice. Thankfully, there are options available to you. First, speak with an AI program. This way, you will be able to comfortably speak while gaining confidence. Then, try to have a conversation with a person and then a group of people. If the last two options are too difficult, then I suggest that you try speaking with a therapist to help you overcome your shyness. A college speech course along with some English courses may also be helpful if you can afford it. Perfection requires practice so keep trying and you will get better.
Finding social situations where you can meet and be around others your age and older so you can get a grasp on how to become a more confident person in public. This should give you the confidence to go and approach others with a view to perhaps getting to know them better and finding things about them that interest you and even share similarly.
Confidence is obtained through knowledge. When you KNOW you KNOW!! Whatever area you are seeking growth 1st learn about the topic then you will be armed with knowledge to approach the arena!!
I know a girl that been in the same place as you. She finally started being out going and always wanted someone to talk to as a companion. So everyone was telling her when the times right she will be with that special person. But if I had to give you advice just continue being yourself and don’t ever think less of your self. Your pretty and if most people don’t see that it’s their lost. Just keep your head up
You look so beautiful, don’t underestimate yourself, many other people see you differently in their eyes. You probably don’t see yourself attractive but others do.
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