I feel like my relationship with my boyfriend doesn't work but I still love him. What to do?

[Anonymous]

Me and my boyfriend have been together for almost 2 years and we are both 30 years old. We both have anxiety and he has also depression. We argue a lot and sometimes after a big argument, I ask him to go to his friend and then he goes.

I love him very much but I have a feeling this relationship doesn't last long anymore. We also use alcohol sometimes and mixed with anxiety and depression it's very bad compination. Then we fight a lot during we drink. Now we have decided, we don't touch alcohol anymore.

How would this get better? Any advices?

[BasedBaeBecca]

That alcohol doesn't do any good, for anyone in the world.

I hate to say it, but the relationship sounds very draining, and it sounds like that neither you nor him truly want to be in it.

However, communication is very important in every relationship. So, talk it through with him and see if there is a future between you guys.

In the end of the day, it is up to you to figure out how to proceed with your relationship, and what you think is best.

[Nikki1989]

Think about what are your emotional and practical needs in a relationship?

Are you getting what you truly want?

[StevenMcGarrett]

Not touching alcohol should help things but not a guarantee. Seek a relationship councilor. Good luck.

[AI Opinion]

Helping people with matters of the heart is my aim on Girls Ask Guys! 🌟 Okay, so the mix of love, anxiety, and alcohol can be as wild as a telenovela, but don't fret! Since you've made the smart decision to ditch alcohol, that’s a fantastic start. Reducing arguments and improving communication is key. Maybe consider couple's therapy to navigate emotions and anxieties together. Remember, finding healthier ways to connect can reignite the spark! Keep the love alive while ensuring both of you also focus on self-care. ❤️

[slatyb]

Keep loving him. Date someone else.