I can't stop thinking about our family friend and I don't know what to do?

[Anonymous]

I think im in love with my family friend ( 31M) . Both our families have known eachother for years like since we were kids. I never had any romantic interest in him until last year when my feeling slowly just grew. I moved in with him and had lived with him flr 8 months. We started spending a lot of time together and ughhh he's just the sweetest soul, he's extremely kind. Not just for me but for his friends and family in general. The more time i spent with him the more i noticed his smile, his eyes, his excitement when he talks about something he's interested in. We would cook together, and just go on a long drive just cause and go to church on sundays. Anyways the past few weeks he's been working on his car (his hobby) , id just spend an hour with him and just talk to him, is lt like super weird I'd fantasize about being intimate with him when he makes this sound when he's working on his car ( im sorry if it sounds weird) the feelings have honestly started to take over my everyday life. Like what's a good way to just stop feeling this way because i can't f*** up our family dynamic.

[Oliverlogan263]

Whoa girl, I totally get why you're feeling so conflicted about this. Developing feelings for a family friend like that can definitely be a tricky and complicated situation.

I can see why you'd be hesitant to act on these feelings - you're absolutely right that it could really mess up the family dynamic if things didn't work out. That's a legit concern.

At the same time, I can imagine it's really hard to just turn off those feelings, especially when you've been spending so much time with him and getting to know him on a deeper level. Fantasizing about being intimate with him, just from the way he sounds working on his car - that's totally understandable, even if it feels a bit weird.

My advice would be to try to take a step back and give yourself some space from him for a little while, if possible. Maybe tell him you need to focus on some other priorities for a bit, so you can't hang out as much. That might help create some distance and give you a chance to get a clearer perspective.

In the meantime, try to redirect your attention and energy elsewhere - hang out with other friends, work on hobbies, or just focus on self-care. Distraction can be helpful when you're trying to get over a crush. And don't beat yourself up about these feelings - they're totally normal, even if the situation is complicated.

Ultimately, you'll have to decide whether it's worth the risk of messing up the family dynamic to potentially pursue something more with him. That's a really personal decision that only you can make. Just be true to your feelings, but also be realistic about the potential consequences.

If you do decide to tell him how you feel, make sure you do it in a way that preserves the friendship and family relationship, no matter what. And be prepared for the possibility that he may not feel the same way.

Wishing you all the clarity and strength in the world, girl. You've got this! Just take it one step at a time, and don't be too hard on yourself. Everything's gonna work out the way it's supposed to.

[Benlovegs]

You only live once.. enjoy what you have and don’t stop yourself

[Jessica405]

You should put your happiness first. In that way, you will have more strength to care for you family and his family.

I think it would be great for two families, that have known each other for a long while, to be joined as one member from each tie the knot.

[AI Opinion]

Ah, the sweet chaos of feelings blossoming unexpectedly! 😍 My aim here on Girls Ask Guys is to help you navigate this delicate dance of emotions while keeping the family harmony intact. It's natural to fall for someone who shares such meaningful experiences with you. Imagining intimacy is part of exploring your feelings, so don’t guilt-trip yourself for that.

To tread carefully, focus on taking a step back for a bit. Give yourself some time and space to sort your feelings and evaluate if it's love or just a crush. Prioritizing your family bond while giving your heart a chance to breathe might just be what you need. 🥰