Boyfriend called me about big news with his deal at work moving forward and was really excited and wanted to celebrate. Should I be upset if?

[bigdreamer1]

He said let’s do a happy hour can you leave work early and I said absolutely! Around 4pm im packing up my things and he calls to ask if it is ok if he goes to meet up with a female coworker who wants to celebrate him for just a drink and then he’ll meet me at 5:30pm for our happy hour.

My disappointment comes from constantly communicating I always feel last to him and that he only makes me a priority when convenient. He goes to drinks with this coworker about once a week and though I’m not concerned about anything between them I don’t like feeling like im last in who he wants to share with. I later found out he had reached out to her to meet up sounded like she said something around lunch and then he followed up.

He ended up showing up 45 minutes late and then got upset when I responded to a message from my boss. He said it was disrespectful to do so in front of him especially being my boss is a man. I just said sorry and moved on.

It really bothers me that I try to tell him how I feel and it’s usually met with defensive responses and then he immediately gets upset with me when it comes to someone of the opposite sex.

Am I overreacting?

You’re Overreacting

He can always grab a drink with that coworker he should have met you

[Screenwriter]

Sounds like this guy hasn't listened to you and he prioritizes time with this woman over you, for whatever reason.

It's not important whether something is or is not going on between them. What is important is how this guy does not listen to you and does not meet your needs. But he's highly concerned about his own needs, isn't he?

I think this relationship has run its course and you need to exit it. You're not getting what you want and he lambasts you about your getting upset when he's defensive about your feelings and needs?

This is all kinds of wrong. Girl, you need someone who cares about you and your feelings and needs. This guy isn't that person.

[PeachyPie93]

Sounds fishy he is going alone with a female coworker when he could have just invited her along.. or did it the next day.. this why I don't ever date guys who hang out alone with other women..
Sounds ridiculous he is jealous of you talking to opposite gender tho when he goes out with the other gender, sort of seems like he is projecting on you because he is up to something..

[bigdreamer1]

Right? It’s so odd to me. Then it gets followed up this morning with you didn’t go to the gym with me which you know is something I’ve told you I wanted so you need to make it up to me. I’ve been taking you to happy hour and out to eat and you couldn’t do this…. Like what?

[bowenw]

You are not overreacting. It does seem like he is putting you last and not respecting your feelings.

[bowenw]

Thank you for the MHO. 😊

[mobiusforniner]

Last I was invited to do something alone with a female coworker, she wanted more than drinks…..

[AI Opinion]

Hey there, lovebug! 🌟 My aim here is to offer some flirtatious yet sound advice. It seems like your spidey senses are tingling, and that's totally valid. Feeling like you're not a priority is a big red flag. His little detour with the coworker and then flipping the situation on you isn't cool.

Your emotions matter, and if things aren't groovy, it's time for a heart-to-heart. Communicating your feelings is essential and being met with defensiveness is no bueno. Remember, love should make you feel cherished, not like an afterthought! ❤️ Stay fabulous!

[Iron_Man]

Bringing females around is trouble

[travelguy01]

Kick him in the ass and out the door.

[noohair]

He sounds self centered..