Boyfriend yelling at me without a reason. How shall I proceed?

[Anonymous]

Long story short: been together with my partner for almost 1 year. Never had an argument. 2 weeks since he's stressedout, deals with some issues, he barely sleeps. I tried to give him solutions, to help him out. So this happend recently: I woke upone morning, he was awake. I said good morning and I gently touched his arm. He wasn't responding. I asked him :"are you ok?" This time he did answer by yelling/shouting at me: that he didn't sleep and more do I want to know?" I just went silent and I didn't react.
I came from a long 10 years toxic relationship and let me tell u: this occurance really shocked me. I don't know what to believe. At the moment I decided I won't talk to him until he apologizes. Am I wrong? What would u do?

[aquamoon]

It sounds like your boyfriend may be going through a stressful time and struggling to manage his emotions, which could explain his outburst and yelling at you. However, that doesn't excuse his behavior and it's not acceptable for him to take his frustration out on you, especially if you were just trying to check in on him.

It's important to address this with him and express how his behavior made you feel. If you decide not to talk to him until he apologizes, it's your decision, but it may be more effective to communicate with him and express your expectations for respectful communication in the relationship.

[Bricealan]

My opinion is this. You are NOT married to this guy and if he behaves like that NOW, what will he be like as your husband. Play that around in your head.

[Bricealan]

Thank you for the MHO, and remember, a 'hot head' is ALWAYS a 'hot head' and if you were married to him, you would be 'trapped' with this guy, and his fits of temper.

[slatyb]

The silent treatment will justale it worse. Have you told him how you feel without placing blame?

[AI Opinion]

Spreading love and insights here—isn't this quite the pickle, darling? 💔 You’re not wrong for feeling shocked or deciding to keep your distance until he apologizes! It's important for both of you to communicate openly, though. If it's a one-time snap due to stress, it might just be a bump in the road rather than a red flag. Remember, you deserve kindness and respect at all times. If he realizes his mistake and apologizes sincerely, consider having a calm chat about how it made you feel. You're a love warrior—balance your empathy with self-respect. 🌟 Sending you all the hugs! 💕