How much political difference are you willing to accept in a romantic partner?

[Anonymous]

I'm politically conservative, and I would accept major political differences.

I'm politically conservative, and I would accept minor political differences.

I'm politically conservative, and I would not accept any political differences.

I'm politically progressive, and I would accept major political differences.

I'm politically progressive, and I would accept minor political differences,

I'm politically progressive, and I would not accept any political differences.

Something else or not sure.

A total of 35 votes were cast: 9 girls and 26 guys. See detailed results

[WhiteSteve]

What an unsettling picture, lmao

Hard to answer these days because politics has crossed a weird line where we’re kind of talking about good vs evil, socially, anyway. Like I can’t believe there are people who would even seriously take the opposite side in a debate on these things and attach their face and name to all of it without feeling incredible shame. I can’t believe it’s a debatable issue with functioning adult humans. Yet here we are, and there are apparently more than of them than there are of me who are comfortable enough with it to let it slide.

And that’s where I’m at now. In my demographic position, it’s very easy for some people to be cool to me. So I’m no longer basing friendship criteria based on “how does this person treat ME, personally”, because that would be purely derived from selfish motivations. It doesn’t tell me anything about a straight white guy’s character when he’s friendly to a fellow straight white guy (as an example personal to me, but extends beyond this).

If that same guy was raping women, or diddling kids, or was being actively racist or homophobic or misogynistic…. I’m not so hard up for friends that I need to associate with anyone like that, no matter how nice they might be to me. If I wasn’t me-as-we-know-it, they might not be so kind. Their friendship is conditional on my identity.

So…. I don’t need friends like that, I don’t want friends who have other friends like that and let that shit slide, and I sure as shit wouldn’t vote for anyone like that or respect anyone who would.

Basically, MAGA voters said “I can accept rape”, at best, if they’re not outright denying its validity in the first place. I take rape pretty seriously, as I would have hoped everyone does, so that and molesting kids is right up there in my Top Dealbreakers, and I don’t care what good stuff supposedly comes with the bad. Fuck that and fuck you if you can knowingly accept that in a friend or politician, you can get fucked right with ‘em.

I just do not want anything like that anywhere in my personal orbit, even just in passive acceptance of it. You’re part of the solution or you’re part of the problem when it comes to rape culture, there are no innocent bystanders. I’m not overlooking that shit anymore and just shrugging it off as “well, no one’s perfect.” I DEMAND PERFECTION IN THIS AREA. No compromises. It’s not hard to NOT rape women and unequivocally denounce it. This isn’t a big ask of anybody. And again, I’m ASTOUNDED that this even is a controversial issue. What the FUCK is wrong with Americans? And the rapist thing is only one of like 100 problems with Trump’s character that I can’t believe we accept, but I’ll just key in on this one since it’s so egregious and I don’t have all day. But Jesus fucking Christ, man….🤦‍♂️🤦‍♂️🤦‍♂️

Anyway…. I say all that to say that this is my new criteria for even just entry-level friendship. So it’s even more important in a romantic partner. It’s going to sound elitist as all get out but I’ll still say it with my full chest: I’M BETTER THAN THIS. I’M BETTER THAN PEOPLE LIKE THAT. And there’s absolutely no reason in the world that I should dumb down my own moral compass to accommodate ultimately shitty people who I don’t want my good name associated with anyway, for what? Companionship? I can do better. There’s no reason for me to settle, and I won’t, on any front.

I can’t say it any better than this young lady…

https://www.youtube.com/embed/6CpR5b-B5uc

‘Nuff said.

[WhiteSteve]

Fuck, hit send by accident, lmao…. but yeah, I could date a Republican, theoretically. I have a couple Republican friends…. they think MAGA sucks, they’re normal Republicans. I have plenty to argue with them about, but they know a bad apple and a con artist when they see one, and don’t sacrifice their own values for promises of more money (that he may not even set us up for, but that’s another story).

So, probably easier to date someone closer to me, but Republicanism and poor character don’t have to go hand-in-hand. If it doesn’t, I could accept it.

[LiamJHayden]

I'm libertarian and as long as she is not a totalitarian I am fine.

[ItsJill]

I am conservative leaning while my ex boyfriend (whom probably will be by partner again) is more liberal but he's more noninvolved. I don't personally care about our political beliefs unless he'd give me crap about mine and we agree on some basic things.

It wasn't politics that made us split up if that's what you are asking.

[XXblack88]

Probably not much considering the fact that most people on the left can't agree to disagree.

[snowboarder720]

I can absolutely agree to disagree the difference that the far right don’t comprehend is denying human rights will cut ties with people who won’t tolerate it.

[XXblack88]

@snowboarder720 That why I said most and not all. What human rights are being denied?

[snowboarder720]

Marriage, healthcare, equal pay, citizenship, etc

[XXblack88]

@snowboarder720 I hope you're not referring to abortion as healthcare , Trump just let states choose what stage it's legal to have one. Marriage isn't at risk. While I'm good with legal citizenship but do think 🤔 our gov. could improve the path to legal citizenship.

[snowboarder720]

Well I’m not really here to debate what Trump does or what’s actually healthcare.
Your original point suggests far left can’t agree to disagree and my response simply states the difference between agreeing to disagree and denying basic human rights is where the line actually drawn and the far right republicans have a tendency to twist that. I was simply clarifying.

Having a debate for what and how is a totally separate topic that I won’t get into.

[snowboarder720]

Electing politicians who strip basic human rights away from citizens does have its consequences. Sure you have your every right to vote for Trump but nobody should tolerate being around someone who fully supports taking their basic human rights. In fact I encourage them to cut all of those people out of their lives completely. Even if they are ‘family’.

[XXblack88]

@snowboarder720 I thought the left was already doing that?

[AI Opinion]

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[Asker]

Shut up, Love Doctor Brad.

[AviatorTom]

I'm politically centrist, with some liberal and some conservative beliefs. My partner can have any political view, so long as she doesn't try to force me to follow her views.

[Anonymous]

I am pretty conservative and I am willing to accept a lot. I’m not really hard-core political like I am generally against abortion, but you can do whatever you want. I am not supporting LGBTQ but you can’t do it if you want it’s not my fight and I don’t really care, I don’t really like it, but I have nothing against gay people. I just don’t like this movement. I don’t like leftist ideas. I wouldn’t encourage kids to become gay. I think it’s wrong. I wouldn’t even mention things like this. I think if it’s meant to be, it will reveal itself, but I would accept my kids, but I wouldn’t promote it because obviously I want my kids to have children of my own blood, I think God is important but if you don’t believe in God, it’s OK. I am against migration and accepting people from other countries. I believe that the nations should be pure by blood. I’m proud of my country. These are my beliefs. I am traditional. I’m writing this anonymously because people are crazy and they think that everybody should think the same so I don’t want any personal attacks by crazy people. So I don’t really care what your views are if you’re not pushing your views on me I’m not pushing my views on you the only thing

[MisterWack]

That AI image is 1.4 inches away from being cursed lmao…

I’m politically progressive and I would accept major political differences depending on the who, what, where, why, and how that make up their political spectrum.

Like if someone supports certain policies for reasons that don’t align with my morality or empathetic nature then yeahhh it would cause some drama or disregards certain policy for a lack of logical rationality. If your intentions are good and that is why you are on a different spectrum then I really can’t sh*t on it since it is good grounds though when the structure is rocky or twisted then that makes me question a lot about you as an individual (speaking in general).

[TheSpaceGnome]

Zero difference, but I don't fall under the idiocy of "conservative vs progressive".

Problems exist, to solve them you have to think scientifically, compassionately, and without judgment of the unusual but harmless.

Politicians, movement parties, and royalty are all a waste of time.
Look at each problem with a focused mind, think about what makes sense and what doesn't, what benefits you and what doesn't, what benefits others and what doesn't, whats sustainable and what isn't, etc.

Most people normally think clearly, but for some reason with politics and religion their brain turns off.

Stop it, get help.

[Maybe_Maybe_not]

Well, since I see political opinions reflected everywhere in people's lives, views and behaviors then... I can only accept minor differences, in practice it means that someone hitting center is already too far for me, a moderate leftist seems to be the limit for me.

[RSav4013]

I fall into the middle on most issues so it wouldn't be a deal breaker for me on way or the other. However, I have been accused of being alt-right and a neo-nazi by people on the left for not agreeing with them about certain things so I doubt people on the far left would want to date me.

[genericname85]

these days it's actually less likely to disagree on opinions and more likely to disagree on what's the facts. and for me, that's where the problems arise. i can have a different opinion on things than my partner. but if we don't agree on what the facts are, that's where i'm out.

[Anonymous]

i don't talk about politics within relationships. whether that be spouse or friends. family, that's different. i'll talk to my mom, brother, and dad about it. that's IT. i will not lose friends or a spouse because of different opinions. so i don't talk about it. it's ridiculous.

[Opinion Owner]

i'm like this because i would never disown a friend because of a different political opinion. but one of my friends WILL. they are so strong about it too. if my opinion is different and i tell them, they will literally shun me and be rude and say i'm wrong. ? i would never do that to one of my friends. it's why i definitely separate these topics. i also don't want to hear her bitch and moan about it lol

[KostasKouvalis]

I voted B. Less than 50%, though I guess it depends what the issue is. But you can disagree on something, but still be respectful towards each other. I hate when people are disrespectful

[BonzoInBitburg]

I don't follow politics and I wouldn't want to be with someone who did

[lorenzomichael]

Listen, If I’m into her, then I’m into her. Not her political views or any of that shit. I wouldn’t let that craziness ruin what might be a good thing. And if some people would we’ll that’s crazy.

[Anonymous]

I'm an anarchist lol. I don't care much about their politics it's all garbage to me. Tho I'd rather not date someone who is super authoritarian

[Hispanic-Cool-Guy]

As long she isn't an abortionist, doesn't support gay ish or believes in open borders BS then I don't care about her politics.

[Anonymous]

Very nice question I've went through.

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[Anonymous]

I left my girlfriend because she voted Trump

[Crazzyyworld]

It’s all about fuckboy and material girl in the end

[Anonymous]

In this last election. None.

[Danny_dan92]

What’s with this picture? Lmao

[Jay-_-]

Literally what I wanted to say but you beat me too it 😂

[Jamie05rhs]

A lot. Politics has nothing to do with love.

[sage2021]

Why are you Anonymous? 🤷🏼‍♀️

[Jay-_-]

I agree with @Danny_dan92 😂

[Slim57]

A little, not much