Who should you say 'I love you' first, and does it really matter who does?

[candycane]

[ohsheeT]

It's not a competition it's a feeling it's a moment just like going to the bathroom I don't hear anybody saying the first one that has to pee who's going to yell I got to pee first LOL I mean you know what I mean if I feel something all the time out I can't stop laughing if I feel something I'm going to express it I'm going to know it is the right moment to say something like move out of the way I have to pee LOL no I'm just getting become that moment it doesn't matter who says it first as long as you believe it as long as it's true it does not matter now move to the side I have to go to ee

[godfatherfan]

Since women get freaked out and run for the hills if the guy says it, I would say the guy should wait for her to say it.
The truth is, it should be said when the statement is true on either side. The problem is, what is the definition? Too many women think "I love you" is the same as "you are a really swell guy and I like you". Well, that isn't love. Just like there are women that break up every time they get into an argument. That is why, if someone breaks up with me, it is over. Period. You don't call a day later saying "I didn't mean it".

So what is love? When you can't imagine your life without that person. When, if that person was suddenly gone, it would be crushing pain in your heart. Something that you feel you would have a hard time even living through. If you can't say that, you don't love the person.

[AI Opinion]

Ah, the magical three words! Saying "I love you" first can feel like a rollercoaster ride, but that's what makes it exciting! 🎢 Honestly, it doesn't matter who says it first. What matters is that it feels right and genuine to you. Trust your heart and go for it when you're ready. Remember, love isn't about keeping score, it's about connection and sharing moments together. Just make sure you're not lovebombing and you're ready for the next chapter! ❤️✨

[OlderAndWiser]

Love should not be a game of “I’m waiting until you say it first, just in case. . ..”. If you love somebody, you want to tell them, and you don’t wait. So, whoever recognizes it first should say it.

[lorenzomichael]

Don’t ever say that shit. Unless you really mean it, I would say that to girls if nothing else worked just get their pants. But I’ve never meant it and after I got what I wanted, I was gone. Call me a dog Because that’s what I was and I didn't give a fuck.
I’m proud of both my son and my daughter for never saying I love you. Until my daughter married her husband. And my son still hasn’t said it to any of the girls he’s had. I could tell you exactly how to avoid that if you’re a boy or a girl. It works both ways but that’ll take too long to explain. But if I would explain it to you you would even say that it’s even better than saying I love you.

[Maybe_Maybe_not]

What a terrifying answer lol

[lorenzomichael]

No it isn’t it’s the truth. How many people have you told that you love them that are now out of your life? Even if it’s just one, where’s the love.

[Maybe_Maybe_not]

Well, love is a simple human sentiment, it doesn't need a timer to exist. It just exists. It looks like you're point of view is morally based, but it's an optional layer over a simple and basic feeling.

[dallas]

Honestly, it doesn't matter who says "I love you" first, what matters is that it's real. If you feel it, say it! Waiting for the other person can create unnecessary tension. Love is not a game, so don't overthink it.

[candycane]

I think too, thank you

[debby]

Honestly, saying "I love you" first can feel risky, especially if you're unsure about their feelings. It might be better to wait for them to say it first to avoid potential awkwardness or disappointment. Love is beautiful, but rushing to express it can backfire if the timing isn’t right.

[candycane]

You are right, it takes courage to express love and timing is very important. Thank you for your advice, it is a really valuable perspective.

[derrick]

No matter who says "I love you" first, it's important to stay true to your feelings. If you're sure about how you feel, say it without hesitation.

[candycane]

I totally agree, it's important to stay true to your feelings. Thanks for the advice, it's an encouraging thought.

[Purpleronnie]

Doesn’t matter who says it first but it helps being able to define why you feel it as there is no exact definition of what it is. Certainly true to say when you feel it though , it’s a very powerful word.

[Kaneki05]

I mean, I say it anyway because it's not going to be true until you've spent enough time together. It's more a really like you, but then at some point it becomes true. And you'll just know.

[slatyb]

Do what you feel. If it's wrong, then you are with the wrong person.

[exitseven]

I always was the one to say it first. Maybe because I jump the gun.

[SolitarySolace]

Love doesn't exist. Only platonic love exists. Stop with this bullshit

[Yannae]

As straightforward and honest as you possibly can. And it doesn't matter who says it.

[Staximus]

I don't know why the hell people can't just say it. If you mean it, say it

[Anonymous]

Genuinely.

And no it doesn't matter who says it first. It only matters knowing who you're dealing with before saying it.

[dragoblack]

It really doesn't matter. Just say it when you feel it's the right time to.

[Crazzyyworld]

All men are scumbag doesn’t matter what they say

[Crazzyyworld]

Scumbag ❤️ Thief

[ashakantasharma]

Girls will never say this in the first place !!!

[WowGIrl4ever]

The guy first and it matters

[ilkeerol28]

No1 no2