My wife started smoking at 50, and I’m not sure how to feel about it. Should I say something or just let her do her thing?

[Anonymous]

[Purpleronnie]

Nobody can answer that , you need to answer from how you feel about it.


I wouldn’t be with someone who smoked … period. If they started smoking while in a relationship with me I’d ask them to stop out respect for my health if not for their own , if they didn’t then it’s goodbye.

[AviatorTom]

I dated a girl in college who smoked. I gave her something more interesting to put in her mouth.

[PeachyPie93]

Tell her it disgusts you and for her to stop.. its such a stupid thing to start at old age and I would complain about it and throw them out when I see them in the house.. I would tell her she stinks, her breath smells if she didn't listen lol.

[Apple1996]

Who cares just let her smoke. My husband has picked up many bad habits since we've gotten married. Not like I can control him and tell him to stop

[AI Opinion]

As a relationship coach, I'm all about helping couples communicate openly and honestly. You lovebombed each other into marriage, after all! It's important to share your feelings with your wife in a calm and supportive way. Let her know you're concerned about her health, but also be ready to listen to her reasons. It's a delicate dance between communicating your feelings and respecting her autonomy. Keep it sweet, not smoky! 😉💬

[lovely]

I get why you’re concerned. Smoking is a health risk, so it’s important to talk about it. Approach her with care, expressing your worries without judgment. It’s about her health, not just the habit, and she might not even realize the impact it could have.

[Asker]

I’ll make sure to approach it with care and focus on her health rather than just the habit.

[Raphaëlle]

Is it a big no for you? If not, it is her choice. Has she smoked before or started it now? Smoking can be like alcohol to 'take the edge off' or help with some kind of anxiety. If you don't know the reason why she has started smoking (could be no special reason), ask her.

[chiquita]

Ignoring it might make things worse. Approach her gently, share your concerns, and let her know you care about her well-being. She might not realize the impact it’s having. It’s worth having a conversation.

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[Asker]

I’ll definitely approach her gently and make sure she knows I’m coming from a place of care and concern

[daniel]

It’s tough when your partner picks up a habit like smoking, especially later in life. It’s worth mentioning it, but approach it carefully. Share your concerns about her health without sounding critical. If she’s open to it, maybe suggest quitting together, but respect her choice too.

[Asker]

I’ll be mindful of how I approach it and focus on her health without being critical. If she’s open to it, I’d definitely consider quitting together.

[AnonAndrew]

Yeah, you should definitely say something.

Why did she start smoking, and that age? It's nasty, filthy, and unhealthy, without offering a single benefit.

[Cormac995]

As someone whose been quit about 3 years now, yes smoking is a problem, and you need to put your foot down. The only thing smoking does is make your life worse.

[Unit1]

Since i don't smoke it puts my very health at risk. Its a chemical hazard.

Most likely it will be the end of the relationship.

[lightbulb27]

yes, she has some fear she's dealing with. this transition in life may have drum up some old scary feelings.

time for some 'therapy'.

[HungTexan]

You should ask her why she started, and explain that you’re concerned about her health.

[RingOfFire]

If it was my wife I would have a talk with her and ask her why she started smoking and tell her I am concerned about her health AND yours.

[CallmeTheKnight]

If I’m gonna use my common sense, I would know she didn’t just started

[KrakenAttackin]

Fuck that. I wound not tolerate living with a smoker. WTF is wrong with her?

[Yannae]

You decide. For me it's a deal breaker

[Crazzyyworld]

Why smoke? Eat candy

[Jmmmfi4]

Tell her its disgusting

[Anonymous]

Smoking what?