Advice on quitting smoking. My girlfriend is addicted to cigarettes, I would like some advice on how to talk it out of her.

[Anonymous]

My girlfriend started smoking cigarettes socially with her friends about a year ago, and now its starting to become more then just once in a while, and she even admits that she may be addicted. I've asked her many times why she does it, even though she knows all the crap that could happen to her, and how bad it is.. but she said she wants to live in the moment and suffer the consiquences later. I'm confuesed, and I'd like some help in asking her to stop smoking, because I don't like what she's doing to herself one bit, and I don't want this to get any further where she starts smoking all the time. She doesn't want to quit, and she's "tried" before for me, but I really don't think she tried at all. She says she does it because it feels really good, and she wants to do it even more when she turns 18 because she will have the freedom to do it all the time. I need some help guys! Thank you!

[Quadrophonic84]

Like any addiction, the only way she has a chance at stopping is if she wants to stop. She clearly doesn't. I know it's not encouraging but like any addiction it comes down to priorities. Is your happiness and her health more important, or is feeling good by smoking more important? Your gut is telling you the answer. Until that changes there's nothing you can do that will have any lasting, meaningful effect. Perhaps a "lite" intervention would be good, you and her close family and anyone else you think has been affected by the smoking, or will be affected by her suffering health defects.

[Asker]

Thank you very much, I like your answer! Very helpful!

[Anonymous]

Don't do what I did. My girlfriend suggested I start and we'd quit together which, she explained, would make it easier for her. It took her time to convince me but, before our summer break from school, I took her dare and, long story short, we BOTH couldn't stop. Now I smoke more than she does sometimes and this has been going on for the last 2 years!

[SuperCurious]

There is no way to talk her out of it, cigarettes are addictive and all in all, it is her choice to do what she wants. The most you can do is let her know that you want what is best for her and your feelings. God luck

[exitseven]

Are you really in your 30's dating a girl who is under 18?

[Jdb614]

If your age is 30-35 as the post suggests, you should be more worried about statutory rape than an underage girl smoking.