Why is it that when you are in an argument with someone they can't just stick to the subject at hand and make a big mess of it?

[sage2021]

Arguments could be over and done with if the other person just stuck to the facts and didn't start accusing you of things that weren't true, putting you down, etc., until the two of you aren't even speaking to each other anymore. Have you ever had that happen to you?

[Summeroflove]

Well let me start off by saying this is when they know they are called out on something now they want to change the subject to something they feel like they can win on.

Such as if you’re obviously gaining the upper hand. You’re making good points to counter the stuff they are saying they want to start changing the subject to something else so they can win.

Don’t take the bait. That’s what it is deflection. They know they got called out. They know they’re wrong. That pretty much confirms that you know what you’re talking about.

[sage2021]

@Summeroflove
That makes perfect sense and that's exactly 💯 what happened to me!!
I couldn't believe what I was reading that he wrote to me. He was calling me names, kept bringing up my age when he knows that hurts my feelings. I was trying to just stick to the subject but he was all over the place with things that had nothing to do with what the argument was about.
He was definitely coloring outside of the lines!
Thank you for your insight on this because you are right - I was making very good and logical points.
He only made it worse by putting me down. Bad move on his part because now I don't want to talk to him because I don't need anyone putting me down when I don't deserve it. I am worth more than that.
Thank you again for solving the mystery about what happened there.
WOW! I feel so much better. Thanks ❣️

[Surely]

Sounds like you were arguing with a Democrat!

[sage2021]

@Surely
And that's exactly what it felt like! Only he's not an American.

[I_am_a_human]

I don't understand how being a Democrat has anything to do with this...

[IslaTheWitch]

the more people have unsolved "internal conflicts," the more messy arguments are... because all the things want to go out under emotions :D

[NathanDavis]

arguments rarely make sense... that's why it is an argument

[Anonymous]

The other person seems to be narcissistic.