He makes 55k a year. She makes 35k. They move in apartment together and wants her to split the rent. Is he wrong?

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ShellyB · Accepted Answer

I voted “no it is not wrong” but to actually answer we would need more information, like did he give the impression she could move in without splitting costs and then he sprung it on her too late for her to change her plans for example. Did they both have input into where they moved and what it would cost? He might have picked something that he could afford that would be harder for her to afford. But if they talked about it in advance this seems fine to me.

My general opinion is that if you are moving in together, you should be thinking about combining expenses not think about it as if you are roommates, but, that is a personal choice and it’s not wrong to think of it like roommates splitting costs either. JMO!

TheRealPepperPotts · Accepted Answer

Honestly, if it's split 50/50, I don't see the issue even if the rental is based on his income, because she is still paying less than she would alone.

$2K/month is $1K for her, which is a pretty good deal these days.

If it's $1500, she is paying $750/month, which is even better.

If she has an issue with it, she could always see if she can find a better deal and move into her own apartment to give it some time. I suspect it won't take long before she realizes it's not a bad deal. :)

BadApple69 · Accepted Answer

I wouldn't slip it in half but she needs to have a dog in that fight. I was living with someone years back and I paid all the household expenses. She banked her money and bought us cars and luxury items. Then we split up she took the cars and luxury items and I was stuck having to quickly buy a car to get to work. She left with tangible things, I was left with reciepts from the electric company, has company, the water company and rent. Wasn't very balanced. Now I think a proportional division of things is a better way of going

Summeroflove · Accepted Answer

No he’s not wrong and she’s not entitled to move in with him she can either find someone else or go live alone.

Some people aren’t compatible. She makes enough money where she can split the rent. If she wants to be a free loader then no thanks. Even in relationships where one person stays home they do almost all the hosuwork and child care. Unless she’s just a worthless bum and I don’t understand why men or women pick those kind of people

Love Doctor Brad · Accepted Answer

Ah, love, money, and moving in together! It's that delightful trifecta that's bound to stir up some heart-to-heart convos. Now, while it might seem like Mr. 55k is a bit audacious, let's remember relationships thrive on communication and compromise. The key here is creating a fair arrangement that both parties are comfortable with. Splitting bills based on income could be considerate—he earns more, so maybe he can handle a bit more of the rent? If the love is real, it's all about finding that win-win situation. ❤️💰🏠

AviatorTom · Answer

No, he's not wrong. They are each getting equal benefit from living together and should equally share in the rent. Having said that, because he earns more than she does, he should pay more than 50% of things like going out go dinner.

Apple1996 · Answer

Well they aren't roommates.. they are in a relationship so he should pay for it all especially since he makes more. Maybe she could cover other bills if they wanted to make it more fair. Splitting it seems like a roommate thing 😒

HawkPerception · Answer

He's 100% not wrong. And if she wants him to pay the entirety of the bills, she'd best be cleaning the place and cooking the meals; a traditional woman.

If you can't handle equality, don't ask for it.

OlderAndWiser · Answer

When they selected the apartment, had they already discussed the financial arrangements?

Screenwriter · Answer

If she moved in with a female roommate, it would not matter how much money either person makes. It's half her apartment and half his.

So, she has to pay half the rent. Because they ARE a couple, they might split some of the bills differently because they make such a different amount of money.

A suggestion that might solve a lot of grief is that they move into an apartment that SHE can afford. Both of their names will be on the lease, so if one person decides to move out, the other person will be STUCK paying the remainder of the lease for the ENTIRE amount.

Never go into an apartment based on the HIGH EARNER. Go with the low earner. Then the low earner's not strained. And again, split the bills more fairly to her earnings.

silvermoon84 · Answer

It’s about as “wrong” as her making him share the housework responsibilities. They both live there, so no he’s not wrong. It’s 2024, we haven’t gone the traditional route for several decades now and let’s be real. If both are working it’s not fair that he pays the entire rent, just like it wouldn’t be fair for her to have to do all of the housework either when they both live there. It’s one thing if she loses her job or gets hurt and goes out on disability, but assuming she’s not both of them should contribute equally.

RavVid · Answer

Well girls seem to want traditional when it advantages them. In this case 60% of girls feel traditional should apply but only 25% of guys are willing.

Mostly girls are not willing to be traditional if it disadvantages them. If he objects to insta bikini modelling for example.

I think girls need to decide if they want traditional and will be traditional. If they opt traditional then they would probably find men would happy to be also.. If they opt non-trad then they can't expect trad from the guy.

Valdemort · Answer

No clue how people deal with finances in their relationship.

I know one of my sisters pays the car rental for her partner, even though she doesn't have a drivers license herself. Except, she moved into his house and doesn't have to pay mortgage. They seem to have a pretty solid system, and never argue about money, even when she makes half of what he makes.

I think those should be the kind of things you discuss before moving in together. The relationship isn't gonna last anyway, if they can't have a proper conversation about this and come up with a system that's agreed on by both of them.

ClassicDropout · Answer

55k isn't enough to take care of two people. If he's wrong for wanting to split, she's wrong for only making 35k and being reliant on him to move out of her parent's place. There are two ways to resolve this. One, stop being stuck in the 50s and agree to split when y'all aren't making a lot of money. Two, men stop dating until they make $130,000 plus so that they can always afford to take care of two people and this never becomes an issue.

Lliam · Answer

She's stupid for renting an apartment with him.
He sounds like a money grubber and is treating her like a room mate or tenant. Does he also keep track to make sure she pays 50% of everything else like dinners and dates? If so, he's not a gentleman.

She should pay a portion of the rent and expenses that are proportional to her income.
At most, she should pay 70% of what he pays.

Bricealan · Answer

@coachtanthony well, he makes a third more than what she makes, so they should work out some arrangement where he should pay 2/3 of the rent, or else make up that difference in some other way either he pays most of the utilities or makes up the difference if she’s paying Half the cost of the rent.

Joshydavid25 · Answer

Depends, they could be renting an apartment in a fairly expensive area, but he could be paying most of it while he wants to split a tiny portion of the rent to her to help out.. I don't think it should be a 50/50 split though.. That would be wrong of him with a 20k difference in income..

Hispanic-Cool-Guy · Answer

He isn't right nor wrong but making a 20K difference I think he should be more generous and not her pay half of the rent.

She can pay a smaller portion of rent and pay the light bill all herself plus buying all the groceries and all the needed household essentials.

BeeNee · Answer

The answer is communication. Did you communicate with your partner that if you want to move in, you're splitting the bills? Don't spring anything on anyone, especially after they move in, and you expect or demand they pay, because they might not be able to cover it.

MemeSupreme · Answer

no bc everyone is different

i'd rather do 50/50 bc i just don't like relying on people like that or feeling like i owe them, BUT that's just me. no one HAS to do that too bc people want different stuff in relationships

molonski2 · Answer

No , this is fine , absolutely fine in my view..

Maybe the age of the two makes a difference , but her income may well rise , she needs to pay half , its certainly not wrong , life is not socialist euforia.

sage2021 · Answer

Yes he's wrong unless he's going to pay the electric bill alone and help pay for groceries too. And let's split hairs for a moment. If he eats more food than she does, he has to pay for it himself.
Fair is fair!

k1darkknight · Answer

At 35k/year, she's making almost 3k/mo. Unless rent is beyond outrageous, like 2k, or something crazy, where her half would be 1k, then no, it's totally fine. Even if they're not being thrifty, but they're not spending foolishly, that combined income should have them living VERY comfortably.

LifeHitMeandRan · Answer

I voted "no", but it really comes down to what each person in a relationship feels is fair and if their views are compatible with each other. Also, just because, on paper, he makes more DOES NOT mean he will have more spare income. Each person may have a different set of bills.

malarkey · Answer

If she wants to live there she should pay half the rent. If she wants him to pay for all of the rent, then she should definitely not live there unless she's basically a boarded employee. In that case she should take commands to serve him and maintain the property and provide good customer service. That might entail cooking meals, doing maid service, or prostitution.

KingslayerC · Answer

People that aren't dating will split the rent evenly. Dating doesn't mean the male has to support the female. If that's the case, then she should be supporting him in other ways to compensate for her bills being paid. She needs to do a vast majority of the cooking and cleaning since she is contributing less financially.

Anonymous · Answer

That depends. Can she afford to pay half? I'm all for an even split. But the one who makes more has to understand the cost of living isn't less just because you make less. And if the person makes more want to live a higher standard of living than the other can afford then the person who makes more might have to shoulder more of the burden financially.

Alwayreckles93 · Answer

You worldly people amazed me. This why you must married first before living together. You judge Christian but you people choose a secular lifestyle.

ponybabies · Answer

I think it’s wrong because he makes more and splitting that in this day and age with inflation just makes it hard to live. Unless he’s covering most of that then splitting it doesn’t seem like a problem.

Anonymous · Answer

If you are in a committed relationsip that is considered a partnership. If one person makes less than the other than the rent should be divided accordingly since the person making more money can clearly afford paying a bit more in rent. I (female) make more than my partner (male) and I am currently paying 75% of the rent. He has been struggling financially as well. Some months I pay the entire rent.

If you're looking for a roomy to 'split' the rent with then you should reconsider being in a relationship.

purplepoppy · Answer

She would be wrong not to offer to split house hold costs, he shouldn't really be put in the position of having to ask.

Maliya__love · Answer

I make more than my boyfriend and he pays the mortgage and bills. I buy groceries and pay for the cable bill that’s it. So this is different for everyone but we don’t do 50/50 he takes care of the house …. and that’s his choice.

integrale77 · Answer

What does earning have to do with it she is still sharing half the home

Unit1 · Answer

eugh. The nerve some of these gold diggers have. Ew, yuck.

4ngelic · Answer

no but i think he should pay a slightly larger part of the rent since he earns more

Nikki1989 · Answer

This is a personal decision. There is no one-size-fits-all answer.

OfDeath · Answer

People are doing it wrong these days. If you are serious with a partner, you are meant to pool all your money and budget together. You can’t be like “this portion is yours and this is mine”.

nawtee_me · Answer

What either makes has nothing to do with sharing cohabitation responsibilities. Both are paying half of what they would pay if they moved in alone.
You look at what they make instead of what both are spending. It may be easier for him to pay it than her but they both pay the same amount.

Agape93 · Answer

Nope. Split the bills too. y'all are a couple, act like it

PeachyPie93 · Answer

Nah I wouldn't move in with a guy who expects to split. I rather live on my own if he wants to do things that way. There really is no reason to take on more burden for a guy who wants to treat you like a friend.

aromatic_xo · Answer

I believe the men should be the sole provider, and woman the home take carer a little old fashioned but since he’s mid salary and if he’s struggling financially and you guys want to build maybe contributes little bit to help build that.

Joshua_H_1010011001 · Answer

He's wrong for moving in with before marying.

They are just room mates who fuck.

Dodgy position to be in.

Should be a 50/50 split obviously.

If they were married, would be poored into one pot and wouldn't matter.

goaded · Answer

If they split it 60:40, no. If they pool their money, no. Otherwise, yes.

Jamie05rhs · Answer

Their income has nothing to do with anything. If you treat someone differently based on how much money they make, you are a communist.

LiamJHayden · Answer

Why didn't they discuss it beforehand? It seems like a lot of issues could be avoided that way.

Anonymous · Answer

Depends on the cost of rent.  Some people pay ridiculous sums and could be paying a mortgage.  Some people take on more than they can really afford, in this case whoever is making less will hurt more.

Anonymous · Answer

No, if she's using the same amount of amenities, she should pay the same amount as him. Or, get a better paying job.

bunny_luv · Answer

in my opinion they're both going to be filing individual tax returns and therefore any liabilities outside of the rental agreement will be restricted to each party individually.

dalass · Answer

It worked for me similar way but we done balanced way 65% 35% in this case.
50 50 is not fair. He still saves more money then her. But at least it balanced how you split your expenses. I think it is important. re-state//background_color_rgba (0, 0, 0, 0), font_color_rgb (77, 77, 77), justifyLeft

Yannae · Answer

I say it's fine you both live in the same place. Pay for it.

KrakenAttackin · Answer

If genders were reversed, this wouldn't even be a question.

Pete671 · Answer

yes she should pay 35/55ths, after income tax of course,,,

Jimmerjammermama83 · Answer

I’m not sure he’s wrong but he’s not a man. She should look elsewhere. Get a smaller apartment but take care of and provide for your lady

tzdc21 · Answer

I'm struggling to see hiw this is in any way, shape or form wrong. They're saving on spending, and it's not ut all on one person to handle the rent. What's bad about that?

matchrestore · Answer

I think some payment by her is warranted, but I don't think it needs to be 50/50. Pick up the water and light or something.

LazerBean · Answer

Yes he's wrong, because moving in together without being married is unintelligent.

fantasticass · Answer

They need to split all the bills of the apartment. It should always be discussed before moving in together

dragoblack · Answer

If he makes that much and wants to 50/50 rent, it's more than likely he's paying for the utilities which means he's still paying more.. so it's fair. When 2 people live together, both balance and combine their finances to cover living expenses.

JesseP1nk · Answer

Im not gonna vote yes or no because i dont know the situation like is she is the only one who does the house chores? For example she pays less rent but she is the only one who does the dishes etc.

Kelley1 · Answer

It depends on how pretty she is. Pretty women don't pay, ugly women have to pay.

236color · Answer

Depends, are they just roommates or Intimate partners?

oldpigg · Answer

Only a beta marries a woman who earns less than him.

Djaay · Answer

Yes. Never split rent. Dude should pay all expenses on home and she needs to contain her mannerism. Not a house wife , not marriage minded... out she goes.

Anonymous · Answer

Well rent is based on how much space you use, not on how much you make. You can't go to a landlord and say I make $0 so give me an apartment for free. Unless you're an illegal immigrant under Biden.

Jania1809 · Answer

He just wants a roommate with free sex benefits 🤔🤔🤔

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