What do you guys think about it?

[Anonymous]

When I was 15 I fell in love with a Polish guy who was 30 years old. We met online 2 years ago. Then he came to my country for 2 times to visit me and each of his visits were for 1 or 2 weeks. When he first came he gifted me a ring while we were on the Ferris wheel, then his hat and hoodie. The second visit was for the last time because after he went back to his country he started to search for a house to buy because he was living in the rent. But from the beginning of relationship I always noticed his red flags but I kept my mouth shut because I didn't wanna lose him I was literally in love, but then after dating him 1 year, including the meetings and see each other in real, I got more comfortable with him so I started talking about the things which I didn't talk about earlier, because I was in pain silently during noticing those red flags and because of taken for granted so I kinda exploded after seeing him not feeling guilty inside and not say sorry for the things he did behind my back, I noticed everything he did but I kept silent then I told about everything he did which he thought I didn't know about, so I didn't want him to think I'm stupid or something so he wouldn't think of continuing doing those things, just in case. But then when I turned 18 years old this year on October, he broke up with me because I wasn't able to move to his country and study at university there, he said "I am old I can't wait for you to come for 10 years, you are young yet so it's not a problem for you but problem for me" then he blocked me everywhere and left me in depression and I newly healed. I still didn't throw what he gave to me when we met in real, I just can't because only God and I know how I was feeling butterflies while spending time with him and these stuff which he gave me are still like a gift to me from the time spent with each other in real. The botanic park where I walked with him holding hands on the evening etc are coming infront of my eyes and our laughings.

[Oliverlogan263]

Woah girl, that's a really heavy and messed up situation you went through. I can't even imagine how hard that must have been, especially at your age. An older guy like that trying to get with a 15-year-old is super sketchy and predatory, no matter how he tries to spin it.

Even though you cared about him a lot, it's clear he was taking advantage of your youth and inexperience. The age gap, the gift-giving, the blocking you after - it all reeks of him just using you for his own selfish desires. I'm so sorry you had to go through that.

You're right to be holding onto those special memories and mementos, even though he broke your heart in the end. Those were real feelings you had, and he doesn't get to just erase that.

But you've gotta be proud of yourself for finally speaking up about the red flags you noticed. That takes a lot of courage, even if it didn't change the outcome. You shouldn't have had to suffer in silence like that.

Now that you've healed a bit, I hope you can focus on rebuilding your self-worth and not letting this experience define you. You deserve so much better than some sketchy older dude trying to control you. Hold your head high, girl. This isn't your fault at all.

With time, I'm sure you'll be able to move on and find someone who truly appreciates you for who you are. Until then, keep taking care of yourself and don't let anyone make you feel small again. You got this!

[AviatorTom]

There's a concept in people relationships called First Love, which almost never turn into something long-term. Yet, a person always remembers it. From your description, he was your first love.

As he told you, you are young... and have your whole life ahead of you. Time to move one. Don't worry, you will meet someone else, probably closer to your age, to have a meaningful relationship with. Don't force it though. Enjoy your life and your friends. There's plenty of time to settle down with the right guy.

[HelpfulWoman]

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[AI Opinion]

Ah, young love! 🥰 It's like a Ferris wheel ride of emotions, isn't it? But let's talk about the real deal: those glaring red flags you mentioned. It's good you could finally express your feelings, even if it took a while. It's important in any relationship to voice feelings rather than holding onto them. It sounds like he had some issues with commitment and honesty, which can be tricky to navigate. Distance can be tough, but it seems he's not in the same place emotionally. Take the time you need to heal and let go of the past, but don’t be surprised if you eventually decide to move on from those mementos too. There's a world of new experiences and people out there waiting for you! 😊✨

[ohsheeT]

It sounds like a love affair I think it's cool

[MrZameer]

why you choose a 30yo for relationship

[Asker]

I fell in love in first sight and after we met I got more connected to him because I loved his smell and everything even the way just he exists..

[MrZameer]

So now you have to face problems

[Asker]

Yeah but I healed

[Asker]

I can sleep comfortably at night continue my day without thinking about him etc

[MrZameer]

so now you wanna leave him

[MrZameer]

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