How to leave a married man alone?

[Anonymous]

I just wanna give up and leave him alone. Just focus on me, my family and the four kids I have. he told me that I was the biggest mistake he ever made in life. He told me that his wife held him down while he was away overseas. Everytime I try to talk with him he blocks me or yells at me. He yelled at me in public telling me to leave him alone and go back to my babydaddy. I don’t understand why he won’t leave her and come home to me. He left her before for me but he treated me so bad.

[Justbritt]

Have you tried considering your own marriage one day? Are you willing to reap what you sow? If i were in your shoes I would first consider that. Then i would dig real deep and figure out what void I am trying to fill with this man. If you have a daughter I'd consider also asking yourself what example are you setting and what value are you placing on yourself and what value are you placing on marriage and trust and honesty in general for your children to look up to. I'm not telling you anything I wouldn't do myself. Much love sis. You are so valuable. You are worth your own marriage and healthy relationship. And so is that man's marriage and wife.

[Asker]

Thank you and my daughter just had her first child and so did my son. My oldest daughter has been in a relationship now for several years. All of them are grown now. I think I’m having trouble with how he played with me and my feelings. I’m looking for my own karma. Treating him how he did me. Hoping he would leave his wife for me so I could do him the same way

[Justbritt]

Oh okay gotcha. Congrats to you on becoming a grandmother and your children as first time parents. How beautiful! This is such a blessed time in your life. Don't spend it on revenge. Such a waste of time. What if you miss out on a wonderful relationship during this time focusing on him and what he did to you? I'd forgive him. That doesn't mean it's okay. It just means your not drinking the poison anymore knowing in the end everyone reaps what they sow wether good or bad and forcing them to on your own causes you more pain when they will get theirs eventually anyway without your effort. I believe if we take revenge into our own hands God takes His hands off the revenge and He is way better at it than us. Thats my personal belief not sharing that as facts. Then I'd forgive yourself for wasting your time because you learned such valuable lessons you can put toward your now and your future. Things you can teach other young women that are and will face similar things. I'd let it propel you into purpose. Try new things step out and adventure things you wouldn't normally do to break the cycle. Seek healing to break the tie.

[Justbritt]

Oh okay gotcha. Congrats to you on becoming a grandmother and your children as first time parents. How beautiful! This is such a blessed time in your life. Don't spend it on revenge. Such a waste of time. What if you miss out on a wonderful relationship during this time focusing on him and what he did to you? I'd forgive him. That doesn't mean it's okay. It just means your not drinking the poison anymore knowing in the end everyone reaps what they sow wether good or bad and forcing them to on your own causes you more pain when they will get theirs eventually anyway without your effort. I believe if we take revenge into our own hands God takes His hands off the revenge and He is way better at it than us. Thats my personal belief not sharing that as facts. Then I'd forgive yourself for wasting your time because you learned such valuable lessons you can put toward your now and your future. Things you can teach other young women that are and will face similar things. I'd let it propel you into purpose. Try new things step out and adventure things you wouldn't normally do to break the cycle. Seek healing to break the tie. Feelings come and go. Your life is here and now.

[Asker]

Thank you! And I think it’s part of my fault honestly because I knew he had something going on with her when he kept trying to protect her and lie about it

[Justbritt]

I didn't know how to delete my duplicate reply. I'm new on here. But yea I mean we all don't catch the red flags bc when your infatuated they look kinda orange right? Lol. But rejection is God's protection. Your so welcome thank you for accepting my opinion as is. You have such a soft and warm vibe about you. Very easy to talk to. I think you should look for the same qualities in a man when you decide to get back out there. Have a wonderful day!

[Asker]

Thank you!

[Justbritt]

One more thing it just came to me. The best revenge is doing well. The next time he sees you, you will be happy and in a healthy relationship looking fly and living your best life. Genuinely.

[Asker]

I forgot to mention that I called his job at times and they informed me to stop calling looking for him

[Asker]

Yep and I was doing that with my baby father. Was together for over 10 years. I know I need to let him be because he truly doesn’t care for me and never did. He doesn’t even be around my sister at the job. So I think his decision

[Justbritt]

Okay did you stop? I mentioned finding hobbies because that can help you keep your mind busy. You may just need to break out of that cycle of thinking about him. I think your on a good track because you are observing yourself and you see what you need to do your just trying to figure out how to do it. And it starts with breaking routine.

[Alwayreckles93]

Asker wait how on earth do you have grandbabies and adult children you are way to young to be a grandma? What were you a teen mom?

[Alwayreckles93]

Justbritt She's so young to be a grandma according to her age category shows she's 30-35 . How on earth is ab individual 30-35 a grandma? She's so young she should have toddlers small children.

[Asker]

@Alwayreckles93 my profile age is mistakenly wrong I just turned 42 in march of last year

[Alwayreckles93]

Asker Oh sorry

[Alwayreckles93]

I have the perfect answer for you. You a Jezabale! Live him alone perhaps the guys has repented. That men is married hello married men are off limits. He said live me alone means live him alone. What did you expect you can't turn a whore into a house wife. I am 💯 sure your a Catholic this is typical Catholic woman behavior. So glad I am one of Jehovah witness.

[Anonymous]

No one wants a woman with kids, not even a guy with kids lol. The only men you’ll ever get are weirdos who probably like kids, abusive trash men who don’t care about kids, or a very very desperate man. Shoulda chose more wisely before you spread your legs, you are in the least desirable bracket of women, no respectable sane man will want you. Sorry. Womp womp.

[Anonymous]

U are just stupid af… u are just a girl who got her ego hurt bcz he chose his wife over you….. and you fucking bitch crying here about what he did to u then think what u did to you husband…. Loser…. And the dumbest part is still wanting him to leave his wife and come to u… never seen such a big loser

[Asker]

It’s not that honestly I just wanna do what he did to me but I know I have to remove that from my heart while focusing on my kids and life. I can’t believe I let him move into my house and now I realized why he was acting the way he was acting. He was giving me all these gifts and it was for nothing. He gave me engagement ring and much more. All he did was buy me things and made me feel special. His wife got treated way better than he did me. His wife is currently pregnant with her first child. I had to go pawn the ring and give the gifts away. I wanna be in his wife shoes because I always wanted to take her spot. In all honesty I should just move on and stop feeling vengeful. I don’t want my kids to see me hurt again. I am with my baby father still. I discovered that he even had different women on the side. All the women he had on the side were treated like me. Nobody knew he was married and found out like I did. His behavior now makes sense looking back on how things went between us.

[Opinion Owner]

Even after knowing hez married u still wanna take place of his wife…. And women think men are their enemies…. Don’t u have any shame saying u wanna destru their married life…. Ok i can imagine u want that man’s life to grt ruined…. But aren’t u thinking bad for his wife too…. U’re just a piece of shit

[Asker]

I don’t know what I’m looking for honestly. I thought I knew this man. He lied to my kids

[Opinion Owner]

Do u wanna talk in pm?

[Asker]

No it’s not necessary

[Abbycado]

So, just leave him alone ffs. You’re an adult…maybe.

[Asker]

He told me and my kids that he is in love with me. He met my family and everything including my mother and father before they passed away. He told me we were getting married

[Abbycado]

Cut him off and block him. You are going to ruin your life and marriage if you haven’t already. Just like a bandaid. Do it quick and rip it off.

[Asker]

I don’t understand why he won’t leave his wife and why he lied to me like this

[Asker]

He blocked my sisters and other relatives on Facebook. I seen him in Walmart and he didn’t look my way. I was gonna walk up to him. I just wanna know why he did me the way he did me

[Abbycado]

Yeah, and you are the model of honesty

[Asker]

What that suppose to mean

[12karen]

@asker Why did you remove me?

If you ou want to leave him, just leave him simple.

Accept the fact that he doesn't want you anymore and it was clearly a mistake from him to flirt with you. He treats you so bad so forget about him

[Asker]

@12karen I didn’t remove you I was looking for your response and it wasn’t there anymore. Other replies have been removed as well. I don’t know why I can’t leave him alone. My kids often wander what was the point of even being around me. Maybe I just want closure and answers

[12karen]

Focus on yourself first, if you can't do it alone, seek therapy

[Asker]

@12karen thank you! I know it seems wrong but deep down I wanna hurt him the way he hurted me

[12karen]

I know you are hurt but it's not worth it, okay. Don't waste your time hurting him, he isn't worth it anymore

[Asker]

@12karen you’re right

[Ms_Facesitter]

remember he treated you bad and deserve better, that, being logical should do the trick

[Asker]

I agree

[Anonymous]

Just try to be a better person and stop trying so hard to be a home wrecker. This is 100% in your control.

[Surely]

Well then. Just DO IT!

[Asker]

It’s hard when I wanna still be with him. I even had to find out about her. She also had to find out about me.

[Asker]

We went out to eat and etc. I had to deal with him cheating and etc. he always got into an argument with me and I had to make him go back home. I had to put him out. We kept trying to make it work

[Surely]

He is a cheater. If he cheats for you. He will cheat on you!

[Asker]

Him and his wife had an open marriage. Damn he treats her way better than me. Now the marriage is closed. He paid off her car and bought a home. She doesn’t even have to work. If I borrowed money from him then he makes me pay it back. He did all that sweet talk to me my family and parents and I discovered he married the girl. Something in me just won’t let him go. I honestly think my sisters knew because they kept trying to make me move on.

[Surely]

We can not change your mind on GAG. Until you decide to do it on your own!
Keep your legs together and don’t make any babies to him!

[Asker]

Why would I make any babies with him? We haven’t spoken in years. That’s strange of you to say