My husband doesn't get that I want alone time with him, what should I do?

[Anonymous]

All I'm asking is an hour before bedtime when his daughter is with us. She is with us every other week since him and his ex-wife are co-parenting. He's saying we already have alone time when his daughter is not there. And why do I need alone time with him if I spend time with him and his daughter. Of course alone time is our privacy and intimacy. It seems like he doesn't crave it as much as me. And he also wants his alone time. Now I'll give him all the alone time he needs. I'm not gonna beg for his time again nor for intimacy. I think I want a divorce.

[bededazzle]

the only way you could make it clear is by telling him and if he doesn’t listen that’s that

[Asker]

I already told him, and it seems like his daughter is his priority... spending time with her. He just gets defensive.

[bededazzle]

then it’s your move

[Asker]

We've only been married for 2 months... I can't believe it's already ending.. and we have an upcoming church wedding too... and I would have to return to our country.

[bededazzle]

my gosh i’m sorry. I don't know the situation but if there’s no compromise…?

[Asker]

I don't know how we can fix it... maybe we need a couple's therapy.

[bededazzle]

if he’s willing to try that sounds like a good idea. but as newlyweds one would hope that you both be excited to be alone for a bit

[Asker]

I know, right... and we've been in a long-distance relationship for 3 years before we got married. We've only lived together for 2 months, and he doesn't seem to be excited.

[bededazzle]

i’m very sorry to hear. keep in mind that i have never been married myself, but i do think i’m good at relationship advice. if you get that impression, i really think you will be very unhappy. it sounds like he is putting up a wall? if that’s the case, what can you do but either accept it or walk away?

[Asker]

I'll think about it... thank you

[bededazzle]

i’m sure you’ll find an answer. yes give it a little time. may you find peace whatever you decide

[Jamie05rhs]

You sound very mature. (Sarcasm)

[Jamie05rhs]

"I think I want a divorce."