My husband doesn't have any female friends nor does he talk to any& wants me to do the same, no contact means no contact except family. Is this fair?

[keepfaith]

He has had a few bad relationships in the past where the women have cheated on him multiple times and lied. Also his mother has been a single parent all his life. He never got a fathers love. but he loves and cares for me while giving me all the attention and fulfilling every other demand or need of mine. He vows to be loyal and doesn't trust the opposite sex. He doesn't mind me talking to men at work for the purpose of work ONLY not other unreasonable chitchat. He doesn't mind me meeting certain male friends but won't let me sit beside them or meet them alone unless its a group hangout with girls involved. But he did make delete every guy i had from my social media and contact list while he did the same. He claims “if you have me why do you need them when u dont even talk to them as you say to me. Im willing to provide you with everything” Is my situation Fair enough?

[Anonymous]

I think it's completely fair, and I expect my girl to do the same thing. If she didn't I'd leave, or if she didn't want to do that she could leave. It all comes down to which matters more to you, this guy you're with? Or your male friends?

Mr. "don't worry about him he's just a friend" fucks more girlfriends and wives than any other guy. And we live in a time where it's completely normal to get drunk and hook-up with friends or even strangers.

When women cheat, and I've had this happen, that's always the excuse. "I was drunk and it was a mistake". That's why guys do this. This happened to me a couple of times, it's not happening to me again.

Women can say that we shouldn't do that because of women of the past but there are guys who this happens to over and over again. Those are the guys who follow that, and to me those are suckers. In fact I'd say that women who want to cheat will use that argument much more frequently.

The ones who cheated on me were very clear that keeping their male friends was important and telling me about how insecure their ex-boyfriends were. Were those ex's even wrong? Nope.

[keepfaith]

He says the world is like clay, we can mold and melt at any given point. He wants complete transparency and honesty in return of pure love.

[Mark83]

It's absolutely not okay of him to ask this of you. He has serious trust issues and you don't have to suffer for them. Help him to get over them by showing him that you can be loyal even when you have male friends. Support him in building better trust but don't acknowledge his unhealthy behaviour by giving in to his requests.

[Anonymous]

My boyfriend is the same way, because he believes that it’s impossible for girls to have guy friends and any guy who says they’re my friend is lying. My agreement was that I’d keep all of the guy friends I had before him, but I don’t have any newer guy friends. I don't know, in my mind, behavior like that gets controlling and too stressful. A lot of men (such as your husband) allow their past to dictate their present and future, which isn’t fair to you. You shouldn’t have to constantly be trying to prove your loyalty and maintain his trust. Sure he’s not interacting with women, but you didn’t ask him to do that. So why is it ok for him to ask this of you? It’s manipulative.

[keepfaith]

Never asked to delete or keep in touch with any. But claims to have that personality and mindset from before that he wants to give all his time to his wife and expects the same.

[Mystic_Nova]

Nope.

You're friends where there before he was. If he doesn't have any, that's his choice.

If he doesn't trust you with guy friends, the relationship isntngoing anywhere either way.

[keepfaith]

he's had friends before and left it all cos he just wants me. I try to look at things from his point of view yet im also see mine

[Mystic_Nova]

That's his problem, shows me he was a fair weather friend.

If he can't trust you around male friends, the relationship won't work. At that point, he is telling you to isolate yourself. And that's abusive behavior

Id really consider if he is worth being in a relationship with

[In_Trance]

I think it's fair as long as you both agree to it