Would it be a stupid question to ask if my friends with benefits has felt any romantic feelings?

[Anonymous]

[Anonymous]

I’m not saying it would be stupid, but I’d advise against it. If a girl asked me that I’d probably pull back because my first thought would be she’s catching feelings for me. Then to not hurt her feelings by saying no. If she’s asking me that more than likely she’s starting to develop some feelings for me. So I’d hate to hurt her feelings. I’d also risk my friendship with benefits because again if I hurt her feelings she might feel rejected. Maybe embarrassed so she might stop our friends with benefits standing. Most FWBs never turn into serious relationships, it’s just about the sex. You’re good enough to sleep w but you’re not the one. Slim chance you could be the one. He other thing is men tend to think who else has she slept w if she’s willing to be in an friends with benefits situation. A lot of times men don’t want to settle down w a girl who has been getting around.

[AManOnTheWeb]

Not how friends with benefits works.

If you have feelings and he's a friends with benefits then you're probably damaging your own psyche. You're not going to screw him into loving you. He sees you as not good enough to commit to or invest himself in, but as a convenient place to get his dick wet.

I don't judge. Consenting adults can come to whatever arrangement they want, but it sounds to me like you're lying to yourself, and that's not healthy.

[EmieLol6]

No, it wouldn't be stupid, it happened to me with a guy, we had agreed on something similar to what you mentioned but the guy apparently didn't understand, although I can assure you that he told me that he did understand and that it would be like that but he was always telling me "I love you" and I never said it back for obvious reasons, he even sent me goodnight messages and I must say that it was really annoying anyway in the end when there was a "misunderstanding" in one of the messages he said "so are you breaking up with me?" 😑... so if you realize that they are acting like something more than "friends with benefits" it's better to ask them and that way you avoid all the drama.

[Daniela1982]

He's a friends with benefits. Wasn't it agreed that there would be no strings attached when you went into this? So why would you even want to know this unless you have feelings for him? Or is this the New Age Dating, have sex until you both catch feelings, and THEN make it legal? People catch feelings all the time. I don't know why instead of a friends with benefits or a FB, they just don't have a FUYCF - Fuck Until You Catch Feelings. If no feelings ever develop, then you can tell them to GTFO! 😅

[AI Opinion]

Helping people navigate relationship dynamics is my thing, so here we go! Asking your friends with benefits if they're catching feelings isn't stupid at all—it's called being honest. Communication is crucial, and feelings can be tricky little devils! 😈 If you're feeling something, it’s fair to check if they’re on the same loveboat or just cruising. Just be ready for any response and handle it with charm and grace, my friend! ❤️

[hahahmm]

Some people are not wired to be in "friends with benefits" situations. Such people are wasting their time and risking a lot to get into those situations. If you're a romantic type then you are just delaying finding the right guy for you and giving him reasons to doubt you're right for him.

[Purpleronnie]

Well to my understanding the whole point of a friends with benefits is that feelings are set aside ( not that I agree with the whole friends with benefits , to me it’s a stupid idea ).


Putting that aside though , you can ask ! , just be prepared that the friends with benefits either will end or should end

[McLlovin]

You are playing with fire. Friends with benefits never last as just friends. Someone will catch feelings sooner or later, its just a question of when and who. Having sex is an intimate thing, it brings married couples closer.

Essentially you’re taking something ment to bring you closer and you are trying to fight it and be just friends. You will lose.

[chefsam]

Not a stupid question. If there’s feelings involved from one side, it’s gonna complicate things when either you or him decide to call it quits and start dating someone new. But if both of you have feelings, just go for it.

[chrissykerdock]

friends with benefits only care about sex mine wanted to be serviced and expected a good performance and in his case a good blowjob but don't expect love once you started giving him sex he'll never take you out

[itsannalee]

Yes, it’s stupid.
I think the main term of friends with benefits is there is no romantic feelings, only sex and friend.

[Anonymous]

No but be ready for the consequences. He might end the benefits immediately or you might scare him away. But it’s completely okay to ask him that, just know that he might react in a way that you don’t want to see.

[Flower7]

Yes it would…he probably wouldn’t answer honestly anyway because he wouldn’t want to risk losing the free sex.

[HungTexan]

If you have feelings why not ask. Can’t hurt unless you’re worried he’ll dump you. If you’re a good fuck I wouldn’t worry.

[Maybe_Maybe_not]

If it's a friend, benefits or not, then I'd say most things in life can be freely discussed?

[Nikki1989]

Nothing wrong with asking. A friends with benefits should be a “friend” after all.

[genericname85]

yeah that's a pretty stupid question if you wanna keep the "friends with benefits" situation.

[Anonymous]

no, that's not stupid. but just know that it may end that situation you have with them or become awkward.

[glennos89]

You can have a conversation about it I think it's the best thing you can do

[Anonymous]

In that way? Yes. If you have feelings for him, say it. Otherwise, you appear chicken💩 and or non commital. He's likely to say no if you asked him the way you're saying.

[dragoblack]

No. Understanding emotions and boundaries is important in a friends with benefits relationship.

[WhitneySnow]

Not stupid at all

[slatyb]

No, it wouldn't. Ask for what you want.

[BigTex53]

If you’re feeling it, then ask

[ChicoFromThe305]

Yep.

[Pterodon]

Not at all

[Godihateyou]

Yeah that's dumb