Does my friends with benefits have feelings for me?

[Anonymous]

He hates it when i talk about how hot other guys are. Because it makes him feel like he's not good enough

[Fanfare690]

Who gives af tho? He's just a penis... lol

[Huycnjk]

You’re a free or cheapnprostitute for him. He doesn’t give a Dam in fact he probably hates you deep down.

[Asker]

you sound jealous

[Huycnjk]

I’m very envious my pussy isn’t being used up for free by idiots

[Asker]

Cuz you're an ugly bitch nobody wa ta to fuck

[Asker]

Cuz ur an ugly bitch nobody wants to fuck

[BrickBiggems]

@Huycnijk Your mother raised you right. You go girl!

[Asker]

@BrickBiggems

she's probably an ugly bitch who can't get guys.

[BrickBiggems]

Nah, huycnijk sounds like the kind of girl a guy brings home to meet the family (Unlike some people). Self respect and moral integrity are admirable traits.

[Asker]

@BrickBiggems

Self respect has nothing to do with it. I enjoy what i do and i only surround myself with people who show respect. And if you think having fwbs means someone lacks kindness or integrity, you need to have YOUR own morals and values re evaluated. Sexuality and kindness / integrity has no link

[Asker]

@BrickBiggems

Some of the kindest nicest people that i know also enjoy fwbs. So quit your incorrect ignorant assumptions. We aren't doing something that we aren't happy with. We are doing it because we need it and enjoy it. Its not something cheap. Its a hobby

[BrickBiggems]

Commitment and investment are hallmarks of a healthy meaningful relationship. Sexual gratification without commitment, while enjoyable. Diminishes the meaning and value sex has in relationship. It shows that neither party is committed to one another and is only looking to satisfy their urges. That all said, I do not doubt that the people You've been with are nice or respectful. But being nice and respectful does not mean that they are lacking in a sense of integrity and commitment in their relationships. I think you and everyone deserves sexual relationships with meaning and commitment. Despite our disagreement I hope you someday find someone that will pair their sexuality with a commitment to you as a person.

[Asker]

@BrickBiggems

different people have their OWN opinions and perspectives on sex. Humans are designed to need sex. Humans are designed to want sex. If humans didn't have sexual urges, then the human population will cease to exist.

there is NOTHING DISRESPECTFUL about fwbs. Because there are TWO CONSENTING adults involved. Its not like someone is being raped or forced to have sex. Two people are happily willing to engage in intercourse.

Commitment is not needed to enjoy sex. I don't know why you think that commitment is a must when it comes to sex or intimacy. You've probably read the bible too much. why would commitment matter if both parties are engaging in SAFE SEX? Why is it so terrible?

[But being nice and respectful does not mean that they are lacking in a sense of integrity and commitment in their relationships.]

Being kind and considerate is the hallmark of integrity and good relationships. You can't have good relationships if you are not kind and considerate. You won't have integrity if you are not considerate.

I don't care that you're a virgin with super low body count but if you mistreat other people, you're a piece of shit.

As for the lady being super rude to others on here, she's the furthest thing from a kind angel.

[Asker]

@BrickBiggems

I don't base someone's worth on their virginity or body count. I judge you based on your actions, deeds.

if you're a unkind rude person who hates on others for no good reason, you are a terible person regardless if you have low body count or high body count.

I would have more respect for a kind girl (with high body count) who makes the world a better place for everyone to live in than some virgin who loves being rude, unkind and hates on others for no good reason.

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@BrickBiggems

we need more kind people in this world. we need people who are slow to judge. we need people who refuse to hate on others for no good reason. WE NEED PEOPLE WHO ACCEPT HUMANS THAT COME IN ALL FORMS. We need to accept that people come in all races, have different sexualities, cultures, philosophies.

Instead of trying to persecute innocent people and try making the world a better place for everyone else to live in.

[BrickBiggems]

I do not hate you, I am not persecuting anyone, I'm agnostic, and yes my "body count" is low but this is due to the fact that I invest a lot of time and effort into my relationships. I date with the intent to marry, not to have a fuck buddy that i call up when my hand gets boring. Now I think this maybe a good stopping point for our conversation. Given the fact you used a straw man argument and a few ad hominem attacks in your last few posts I'm thinking your wanting to fight not debate. Which wouldn't be of much help to either of us.

[Asker]

@BrickBiggems

There were no ad hominem attacks or straw man or the fact that i dont want to debate. Stop trying to invent false things so you can act like im the bad guy

All i am asking you to do is to BE KIND, BE UNDERSTANDING, BE ACCEPTING, BE SLOW TO JUDGE, BE OPEN MINDED,

We dont have enough truly good people in the world

First step towards making the world a better place for everyone is to accept the fact that humans come in all forms: transgender, homosexual, bisexual, enjoy fwbs, anal sex, open relationships, anti marriage. Not everyone is designed to be the same. Just because you're heterosexual, it doesn't mean everyone else needs to be heterosexual. Just because you hate cilantro, it doesn't mean everyone else also needs to hate cilantro.

Love and accept everyone for who they are.

[Asker]

@BrickBiggems

Instead of looking for reasons to judge, look to UNDERSTAND other people

[BrickBiggems]

I don't think either one of us is the bad guy. As far as "strawman" and "ad hominem" I'm trying to keep our talk "above the belt" and focused on what we're actually saying. by the way I find your world view fascinating. It's quite different from mine (in some ways). I find conversations like these to be the most important ones. because you can learn the most and put your thoughts and beliefs to the test. "Metal sharpens metal" ya know?

[Asker]

@BrickBiggems

how are you not the bad guy if you can't accept and love all human beings in their own indivdiual forms?

how are you a good person if you're willing to call a kind person a "terrible person" just due to the fact they enjoy casual sex? is this person causing society harm?

i think you're the one who is causing society harm. Hating on others for no legitimate valid reason. You're the bad guy. You're the bully.

[Asker]

@BrickBiggems

I don't go around judging other people based off of their sexuality. I love transgender people just as much as I love gay people. I don't mistreat or speak negatively about these groups. I respect people who do casual sex just as much as people who don't enjoy casual sex. I don't judge or hate on others due to close mindedness.

[Asker]

@BrickBiggems

I don't discriminate someone based on their religion, race, culture. I don't discriminate based on sexuality. why don't I judge? because I'm a kind person. Everyone has feelings. Everyone has their own preferences and I accept them. A transgender man has the same feelings as a heterosexual man. I respect other people. You don't.

However if you are causing society harm, I will judge you based off of your misdeeds. We don't need people making earth a worse place to live in.

[BrickBiggems]

Your starting to test my patience. Your need to FUCK any dude with a pulse every time your wrist gets tired is not equivalent IN THE LEAST to the historical plights of the LGBTQ community. Also last I checked being a tramp for what ever sees fit to stumble into your house NOT A FUCKING sexual orientation or gender. So stop trying to staple your pathetic need for a sentient vibrator onto other community's.

[BrickBiggems]

Talk about harm and evil. "My need for sentient dildo makes me as oppressed as people who are stoned to death for their sexuality" fucking revolting.

[BrickBiggems]

You can try and cover your ass with "oh I like gay people, I'm totally not judgmental" but we both know they're merely a meat shield for you to hide behind.

[BrickBiggems]

Got any more skin deep platitudes to justify why your just as oppressed as gay men and women in Iran?

[Asker]

@BrickBiggems

the fact that you're cursing at me when I simply asked you to be kind and understanding and respectful... just comes to show that you're just an asshole of a bully.

no good person here... just a mean virgin.

[Asker]

@BrickBiggems

[You can try and cover your ass with "oh I like gay people, I'm totally not judgmental" but we both know they're merely a meat shield for you to hide behind.]

wheres your proof of that? as far as Im concerned in this situation, I have a career where I dedicate my life to taking care and serving people selflessly.

[BrickBiggems]

Can't say I'm surprised, grasping for validation and victimhood. Add your friends with benefits issues it makes me think you've got "daddy issues".

[Asker]

@BrickBiggems

I'm not begging you for validation. I'm just teaching you to be respectful and kind- something your mother didn't teach you