I never text him first he always reaches out and has general conversations with me, I then always turn the chat sexual so we don’t cross boundaries.
Sometimes I won’t reply to him and he will always double text. He’s always texting with lots of kisses, I never put any to him.
He likes me to spoon him, I always stay over, we are always cuddled up or he always has his arm round me and offers to take me for breakfast which I decline.
When I had a health scare he was constantly checking on me and mentioned it the other day as I was in pain and was making sure I was ok.
He told me he wasn’t bothered what I did and I can do what I like but tried to make me jealous when he assumed I was texting another girl infront of him. He has gone moody when he tried to kiss me and thought I didn’t want to.
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Could be feelings... could also just be him being an affectionate friend. The thing about FWBs is that the "F" is supposed to stand for "friends." You aren't supposed to have a cold and antagonistic relationship with people you have sex with.
So very true. I feel like this is where women in these situations get confused. Since he’s not cold towards her aside from sex, she relates that to romantic feelings and that’s the worst mistake.
@HollyK21 Yup! And it doesn't sound like the guy is particularly good at establishing and maintaining boundaries either, so the situation is especially confusing because they never took the time to establish affection and intimacy as a part of their arrangement. Most women, honestly most people in general, shouldn't be having casual sex. There's something about casual sex that just frickin' destroys people's hearts and minds.
That’s because sex is one of the most intimate things you can share with someone. Casual sex from a biological perspective, doesn’t exist.
I get that friends with benefits exists. And everyone can make their own choices about it. But this is one of the many reasons why you’re right, people should really avoid having casual sex. It messes with the emotional state 99.9999% of the time.
@WaterIsland Yeah... have sex, but actually take the time to love and cherish the person who is being so vulnerable with you. People seem to forget that their fuckbuddy is more than a warm sex toy.
My thoughts are why do you keep reposting this? He doesn't want a relationship with you or you would already be in one.
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