Your always just fwb's because you allow yourself to be, your givin in to the sex way too early so the guys think they can just have sex with you because its easy. if you want something meaningful, you have to stop allowing guys to have sex with you so early. Put your foot down and discipline yourself to get to know each other first before sex happens. if they come to you and say I want to have sex, you say no. I don't care if they say they really like you cause if they did, they can wait for the sex. And how do you dress? if you know you wear cloths that are revealing you, then of course guys will come at you wanting that. In order to get respect, you have to gain it first. SO everything that you were doin before with guys that lead to only sexually relationships, don't do them anymore. All you have to do now is change your thinking. Stop saying your only a friends with benefits cause they treat you like that. You know its not who you are. You are girlfriend material. You just need to refocus yourself. Key: Get to know a guy first emotionally before physically. Period. No sexually charged convos but still be opened. Pretty much, present yourself as a lady and no sex until you all have spent time together, go out on several dates and when you are ready to, not him. Guys are always gonna try tho but that doesn't mean they want you to say yes. they like a challenge and the good guys will stick around if your not easy. Its all about self control if you want a guy to see you more than just a good time.
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I understand this ... I have been the friend with benefits before sure sometimes it is worth it .. has its place .. but does it do damage yes it does.. I like you want to be in love, have a relationship .. I have done everything I can gain weight lose weight change my hair you name it... sometimes its never enough ... but you have gotten used to being that FWB ... that means no kissy stuff in public you don't go to weddings and holidays. You don't even snuggle while watching TV or have meals together ..
I have to tell you that because I have been so closed off physically to that part of a relationship that I get uncomfortable. Any man that just wants to sit and hold my hand has me wanting to ask why because to me its not normal ... so now I am detoxing from that environment hoping that something else will present its self ... good luck and hang in there ..
Its hard to make that transition when your so used to it but not happy in it at the same time. Like many girls, we wish we can get the whole package good huy with a little bad in him that wants a relationship, something meaningful. hard to find that. She knows exactly what she wants. She just unsure on what to do to get it. So, girl, don't be a fwb's type anymore. You are more than that and try not to be picky with a guy you feel is a good guy. All have faults and if you want something real, discipline yourself and say no more.
From a guys perspective, you are confusing. It doesn't really sound like you know what you want. On one hand you want a relationship and on the other hand you say, "I don't know. what am I suppose to do or rules am I suppose to follow to get a relationship. I mean there's guys that want one...but they have gotten annoying to me, I guess me and them just don't click."
It sounds like you want a guy around that loves you, but you don't want the relationship. Guys like different things. However, one thing is pretty consistent. Most guys that actually want a relationship, like a whore in bed but not a whore. If that makes sense. Have you ever been with a guy that wanted a relationship, but slept around with a lot of different women? Some guys want the stability of a relationship, but don't want the monogamy. That's what it sounds like you are saying. It just doesn't sound like you really know what you want.
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