Have you ever denied your own feelings towards someone?

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Like you clearly have a crush but for what ever reasons you decide to deny them. Have you gone to great lengths to get rid of those feelings? Did you end up getting over them , still have them , or did you finally accept them?

Purpleronnie · Accepted Answer

I developed a close friendship with a woman a few years back whom I worked with , I was open about this to my girlfriend and she had no problem with it as she knows I am to be trusted. The friendship grew closer to the point I actually felt a little emotionally attracted to her and knew that I had to distance myself from her I did consider her attractive , objectively speaking but as I was in love with my girl I didn’t especially see her in that way but thought that if my emotional connection with her was to grow stronger then I’d feel conflicted. So yes , I denied my feelings , it was incredibly awkward confessing this to her but she accepted it. I went through a period of almost loss afterwards and yet more conflicted feelings around the decision I had made but I stuck to it. Eventually I seen no resolve but to create more distance and find another job. She still crosses my mind from time to time but I think that’s natural.

exitseven · Accepted Answer

I had a girl dump me in a very cruel way. I was really angry about it. She had a best friend that really liked me. I went to a friends party and these two girls were there. I was still angry and I could not even look at my ex girlfriend.
Her best friend was really nice and we were friends. She followed me around for the whole night and before she left she told me that she did not want this to be the last time she saw me. I sort of blew her off because i knew that if I did get involved with her I would end up falling in love with her. That was the last thing I wanted. Later on I think I regretted it/

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

I had a big crush on my flight instructor. It seemed like he liked me as well, but nothing ever came of it. Looking back I wish I would’ve said something, but in a way I’m glad I didn’t because then I wouldn’t be madly in love with the man I’m with now! I have denied some guys before just from how they acted or their career path. Take one of my male friends. Really sweet guy but his career path in the state that I’m from wouldn’t have gotten very far. Like minimum wage workers get paid more than him just from tips alone. Probably could’ve made it work, but we were more like brother and sister kinda arguing and making fun of each other.

Simslover92 · Accepted Answer

No, I don't think so. When I like someone which is very rare, I'm pretty open about it.

Love Doctor Brad · Accepted Answer

Ah, love... the wild roller coaster ride we all secretly adore! 😘 Denying feelings, especially for someone intriguing, can be a journey! I've seen people go through it all: rejecting the fluttering butterflies due to fear or awkward situations. Some do cartwheels trying to suppress those feelings! Often, these lovebirds eventually embrace the crush, while others see it as just a tiny love thunderstorm passing by. Acceptance or moving on depends on the individual’s journey. Keep shining! 🌟

BullShark · Answer

I don't usually feel attraction towards anyone in particular as I have a very specific type, both physically and mentally, but on the off chance if I do, I usually almost always suppress or straight up deny my feelings for them, yes.

And before anyone says the age old question "why don't you just give in and see where things take you" well first of all, I personally don't think I'm ready to get into another relationship just yet, even though it's been years since my last break up, so it's not that I haven't moved on or anything like that. It's just that I have a lot to focus on my plate right now to focus on someone else.

As for what I do to quell the feelings, not make it obvious or not let them catch feelings back, is to straight up avoid them. Plain and simple. If they're added on my socials, I wouldn't check their messages for as long as possible and avoid seeing them, at least until they aren't on my mind any more. The less you think about them, the sooner you move on.

DishLady · Answer

A guy actually did deny having feelings for me but then chased after me a few weeks later to ask if we could be friends. I figured it wasn’t a healthy option if one or both of us had lingering feelings for each other, which apparently he did. I don’t want to end up in a situation where either of us tries to be in a relationship and still has lingering feelings.

Keyboardkat · Answer

That's very hard because the heart wants what it wants. Blaise Pascal, French mathematician and philospher, said, "The heart has its reasons, which reason never knows." It's possible to fall madly in love with someone who is completely wrong for you! You can know that they are wrong for you but it somehow doesn't seem to matter.

HungTexan · Answer

I have done this in the past, to my detriment. I had a thing for a woman who was and still is a good friend. I never acted on my feelings, but recently she told me she had struggled with the same types of feelings for me. I admitted to her I had suppressed my emotions, and now we’re both questioning why.

DancingQueen16 · Answer

Well in my last year of high school I tried to get rid of a crush I had because the person I liked was with someone else at that time and to me it feels wrong to like someone who's already in a relationship even if you're not acting on those feelings

CaptainSmartass · Answer

Not to myself, but I have denied them to other people when I was asked if I fancy someone. I was really awkward in school and I thought I was being judged based on who I fancied. I was still nice to the girls, but I never had the balls to ask any of them out.

Simples...

Anonymous · Answer

I don't think of it as "denying". I look at it as keeping a tight reign on my feelings. I control my feelings and they don't control me. I do not allow a woman's actions to affect me unless I feel she's giving me the right/acceptable amount of energy.

m4_07 · Answer

well, I've done this so many times, for example, with that one boy from my school who seems to be attracted to me and yeah i'm kinda attracted to him as well, but i deny those feelings because we're not even in the talking stage and i'm sure it wouldn't work. so i keep distance and try not to get attached. re-state//background_color_rgba (0, 0, 0, 0), font_color_rgb (77, 77, 77), justifyLeft

genericname85 · Answer

yeah i did for quite some time but it didn't make a difference in the end cause she didn't like me anyway xD at least not in a romantic/sexual way.

dragoblack · Answer

Yep, my first crush, because she fucked my sleezy brother (who knew i had a major crush on her) and every time i encounter her, she doesn't even ask how I'm doing, it's straight to asking about my brother and wondering how he is doing.

keegen · Answer

i have and its due to how i was raised, i push all of my feelings down because i was raised with the fact that i don't deserve anything and never will plus all of my self hate that likes to get in the way too

DizzyDesii · Answer

my childhood crush/best friend. Took about 20 years to get over him

Anonymous · Answer

Yea I kinda developed feelings for a married man even tho it wasn’t meant to be intentional we are friends and I think I might like him just a little and I can’t help it, just a tiny crush oh well imma have to burry those feelings I got in me.

PeachyPie93 · Answer

Yeah I have.. when I was a kid with one of my best friends..

IslaTheWitch · Answer

I'm open about my feelings :D

In_Trance · Answer

This is actually one of the most retarded things I've ever read.  For all the ridiculous posts on this forum of people saying they can't find someone...

NicholasRedone · Answer

Usually because they weren't into me or I wasn't into them

larry69 · Answer

Yes multiple times and regret it. I have always felt like a woman deserves better than me. 💯

LiamS95 · Answer

Yes. Many times. I'm a single guy and want a female partner but have rejected many of them.

satinpetals · Answer

Yes, I have, unfortunately

Crazzyyworld · Answer

sugar daddy can open any girls' heart

katiesmuff · Answer

No I never did!

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