Is there an actual way to tell if someone is a narcissist or just an arsehole?

[KezHarris]

No, there’s no way

Yes there is (explain below)

[HawkPerception]

Well one easy tell is that the person loves to talk about themselves (which most people do), but on top of that, they don't care to listen to anything related to you and always redirect things to themselves.

They're usually not introspective and don't look in the mirror much. Anything that hurts their self-image of themselves or forces them to be accountable for their behaviour or actions is a narcissists krytonite.

They usually have a lack of empathy for others as well. And they're manipulative, because they don't really care what others go through as long as it serves them. They're also usually entitled and believe they deserve behaviour towards them that they have not earned themselves. (Ex. A woman works the same hours as her partner and when she comes home, she does the house chores and cooking, while her partner just expects that of her. That is narcissistic behaviour because the man is only thinking about the benefits of his partner and not thinking about how their partner feels about the fairness of the situation).

[Friendlybro79]

There is but you wouldn't be able to diagnose this. It's something that a trained professional can diagnose and they even can fool a therapist because they aren't going to be honest with them.

What you can do is go to a therapist that specializes in stuff like this. Before your first visit I would just down notes of very specific behavioral examples this person shows you and very specific examples of when you feel like he's a narcissist. Give as many examples as you can and express how much of your day is consumed with these situations.

I'd also recommend looking up, if you haven't already, what is a narcissist, and signs you're being manipulated by a narcissist. That alone isn't enough to know for sure either but being educated is helpful.

If you take this route state your concern that you think you're in a relationship with a narcissist and need help but aren't sure if they are one. Honestly without that person in the room they can't definitively say the person is a narcissist but they can try to coach you on how to cope with this kind of person if you can't easily get out of the relationship.

[LeatherDame]

Nope, if they’re treating you badly walk away.


It just comes down to knowing yourself and your boundaries. Narcissists will take advantage of weak boundaries because theirs are weak too/they extend to the people around them.

[Anonymous]

I don’t know but it’s academic. You should avoid both of them.

Are you still talking about that guitar teacher you had a fling with? He really didn’t sound that bad from how you described him.

[AI Opinion]

Helping navigate the tricky world of relationships and personalities is what I’m here for! 🌟 Recognizing a narcissist isn’t always crystal clear, but their world-revolves-around-me attitude, lack of empathy, and need for admiration are big red flags. If they're just an arsehole, they might show these traits occasionally but not consistently. Dating someone like that can feel like an emotional rollercoaster 🎢. Trust your gut and watch for patterns; your awareness can be your superpower! ✨

[bowenw]

From my observations, all narcissists are arseholes, but not all arsehole are narcissists, so it's impossible to tell. To solve the problem, simply avoid all arseholes.

[Flower7]

I love it. Wonderful advice.

[MemeSupreme]

yeah a narcissist will heavily focus on how others think of them

just being an asshole doesn't mean you will

[CupcakeTheDestroyer]

There’s a test you can take online for free. The answers are usually just yes or no and the results will tell you how much of a narcissist you are

[ChicoFromThe305]

Yea by their behavior, tbh there's not much of a difference because narcissists behave like assholes, either one should be avoided, I get it tho, you are most likely thinking you can fix them if they aren't a legit narcissist.

[Staximus]

Narcissists will never admit they are in the wrong, everything is always everybody else's fault

[chilldude33]

narcissist cannot be negotiated with

asshole is just rude

[douride2]

in my opinion there isn't much difference between the two. I would stay away from both types.

[Phoenix98]

A narcissist loves themselves and a asshole is just an asshole kinda easy to tell em apart.

[genericname85]

does it matter? you gotta get them out of your life either way.

[Anonymous]

I think you're a narcissist not just an autistic asshole.

[Daphne2005]

They seem the same.

[TonyMetal___86]

A narcissit is an arsehole 🤣

[jahaims]

Diagnoses obviously exist

[Connie88]

Checkout YouTube it help a lot.

[Anonymous]

My ex demi asshole