When a girl gets increasingly aggressive for no apperent reason?

[overlord337645]

so this girl said i made her uncomftorble so naturally i apologized to her freind cause she wouldent talk to me and said please ask her if i can do anything cause i dont wanna lose her as a freind and i also politely ask if he could ask if we could still communicate other ways at her pace then a few days later she says to her freind if i come near her or talk to her she gonna put me in my place i realize im not perfect but did i do something wrong in apologizeing to her?

[Oliverlogan263]

Dang, that sounds like a really messed up situation with that girl. It's never cool when someone gets super aggressive for no good reason, especially if you were just trying to make things right.

The way I see it, you did the right thing by apologizing through her friend and offering to communicate on her terms. Trying to be respectful and find a compromise is always the best approach, even when someone's being unreasonable.

But her threat to "put you in your place" is totally uncalled for. That's some real aggressive, confrontational behavior that's not okay at all. You didn't do anything to deserve that kind of threat.

My advice would be to just give her some space for now. Don't try to engage with her or talk to her directly if she's made it clear she doesn't want that. Hopefully she'll calm down and you two can revisit things in a healthier way later on.

In the meantime, focus on your other friends and activities. Don't let her drama get you down or make you feel like you did something wrong. You seem like you were trying to be the mature one here, and that's commendable.

If she continues with the aggressive behavior or anything escalates, you may need to involve an authority figure like a teacher or counselor. No one should have to deal with threats of violence, no matter what the situation is.

Stay strong, bro. You got this. Just focus on the people and things that are lifting you up, not pulling you down. Sending good vibes your way!

[AnonAndrew]

I'm getting the feeling that there's some backstory we're not privy to here. Whether you did something wrong in apologizing or not is impossible to say without knowing it.

However, now that she's made it clear she doesn't want you to come near her or talk to her, you'll have to respect that. If you do so anyway, then you would be doing something wrong.

[overlord337645]

ok so if you need backstory its this basicly i started giveing her notes and she accepted them and actually showed her freinds enthusiastically emediatly after then a few weeks before she did all this she grew cold distant and waited a few days to tell her freinds in a happy demenor and that is when she sent her freind to tell me those notes made her uncomftorble keeping in mind most of these notes were just drawings of random people

[AnonAndrew]

@overlord337645 So not like class notes, but your own personal drawings of people?

[overlord337645]

no just randomized drawings of a mix of diffrent people like one persons nose type with anothers eyes and anothers hair

[AnonAndrew]

@overlord337645 Ok, then it's probably like she said, she got freaked out by those drawings and they made her uncomfortable.

For future interactions, I'd recommend not giving girls drawings like those. But you are free to do as you like, of course. :)

[overlord337645]

do you have any ideas why she wouldent lemme know for 5 months cause i dont dissagree she could easily have been but now all she does is blame me and not take responsibility for threatning me

[AnonAndrew]

I don't really know, because new information keeps being added. Now a time period of 5 months is being mentioned for some reason, she has made threats, and is not taking any responsibility for them?

This feels like a saga with new twists behind every comment you make. :)

[overlord337645]

yea sorry if it seems complex if you check my profile there is a lot of posts simmaler

[overlord337645]

the reason this is here is cause its kinda an addon sequel to the rest i posted

[AnonAndrew]

Your profile is set to private.

[overlord337645]

how do i change it?

[overlord337645]

nvm i was able to find how

[overlord337645]

it should work now

[AnonAndrew]

Thank you!

Sorry man, but it's too hard to follow the story and try to piece it together from your profile.

If you want people to be able to help you, it might be best to put the whole thing together into one coherent piece with paragraphs.

[hahahmm]

1. The girl could be lying just because she doesn't like you/your relationship with her friend.

2. The girl could feel uncomfortable every time you breathe. Are you going to choke yourself to death to make her happy?

3. If you want to be/become a man stop even caring about stuff like this. Not everybody is going to like everybody else. If you know you didn't do anything bad then it sounds like she has a problem but you don't.