A girl said she wants me to be "more aggressive" towards her?

[Anonymous]

We are currently just friends, but have gone out on a date.

Any ideas what she means or wants me to do?

[PrickeyPear]

if I were to tell a guy he should be more aggressive I would mean I feel like I'm the one initiating all the handholding, kissing, etc and I would like to have things initiated by him sometimes. Part of initiating things like that is a quiet confirmation that you are into her. - just another possibility of what she might mean

[Asker]

She doesn't initiate anything either. Maybe she wants me to start so she'll feel more comfortable?

[PrickeyPear]

Yep - I would say that's a safe bet. :)

[NMMan]

Be more up-front with your feelings towards her: don't be afraid to make moves, contact her, flirt with her playfully, etc.

[Asker]

Im shy, so maybe more assertive and outgoing??? I don't want to go overboard and make her feel uncomfortable...

[NMMan]

I was painfully shy for many years (almost over it, but not quite there yet). You're right, you don't want to take things too far too quick - but show her that you don't take yourself or the situation 100% seriously and maybe try to relax some. When you're out with her, make jokes, flirt, etc.