Girls, I want to be a mom but my boyfriend doesn’t want to have kids. Should I risk doing IVF, even though I know that he will leave me if I try?

[Anonymous]

My boyfriend and I have been together for a long time and he led me to believe that he wanted to get married and have kids together someday. We recently got into a fight, at which time he revealed that he neither wants to marry me or have kids with me and that I am stupid for believing otherwise. More than anything I have always wanted to be a mother. I am getting older and my time for having a child is running out. I feel like I have wasted so much time with him leading me to believe that we would have kids together. I told my boyfriend that since he doesn’t want a family with me, that I am considering IVF and using a sperm donor. He got mad at me and said that “it’s fucking weird”. He always had said that he would support my dreams of being a mother, but now he has resorted to trying to belittle me. Going so far as to even say that he might leave if I try. Should I move forward with doing IVF in order to achieve my dream before it’s too late, even if he might leave me?

[MissTrix]

So sorry a lot of my friends are learning this too! Your amazing and follow your dreams to be a mom! You will be great at it!

Also what do you mean he will leave? he made it clear your not getting married! Which means that he will leave you just depends when!

Don't let him decide you follow your dreams! Now they won't include him cause he decided they won't!

[Asker]

Thank you so much!! ❤️

[MissTrix]

Your welcome and if you need to vent I'll listen here is a big hug 🤗.

[White_Widow]

If he said to you he doesn't want to get married anymore, end it. Right now he is just stringing you along.

It sounds like there's nothing to hold on to anymore. So leave and make your dreams come true.

[Asker]

Thank you so much!! ❤️

[PeachyPie93]

Well he doesn't seem to like you all that much so I would leave him regardless.. But if you have IVF you will be on your own and won't have much support.. I would try to look for a husband first, before trying IVF but you can go freeze your eggs just to be safe.

[midnightcavern01]

I say that if you have a support system. Dump him and create that family. I've just done it solo and its terrifying but id do it again :)