Am I in the wrong or is this justified?

[Anonymous]

My trans sister, and I were super close when we were kids. She moved out, transitioned to a woman, and ended up living in her partner's late grandparents' house. Then they broke up, she got into polyamory while in that relationship, and eventually split with all those partners too. Now she's living with some random person she met on Reddit and thinks she's really got it all together.
Meanwhile, I'm still at home with my parents, I'm 20, and I have a boyfriend. We're trying to save up to move out, but the job market is rough, and I've been searching for a job for about five months with no luck. Anyway, my sister keeps messaging me like she knows what's best for me, even though she's not really part of my life anymore. I told her about my caffeine addiction and how I want to quit because I hate spending eight bucks a day on it. Instead of being supportive, she sent me this long message about what I should or shouldn't be buying since I'm unemployed. It really annoys me because she's done this before, telling me to go back to school, which isn't even feasible for me right now. She acts like she has everything figured out, but it's clear she doesn't. I just need some advice -am I overreacting? Is it wrong for me to feel upset that she thinks she knows what's best for me?

[ChicoFromThe305]

If this person isn't living in a castle on the top of a mountain covering the sun from shining down on the existence underneath I don't see why you should listen to the person, I doubt this person from reddit is letting anyone stay with them for free, sounds like he's charging them booty payments, your process on climbing the ladder might be slower but I believe it will be worth it, you and your boyfriend do what y'all gotta do, focus on finding solutions to your current issues, keep things going and create and chase your goals.

[CupcakeTheDestroyer]

Your feelings are valid, however your sister is taking a solution-focused approach to your issues that you present to her. Make it clear you already know the solutions, you just want validation and support for your feelings at the beginning of the conversation and it should stop.

[Ez-Bri-Z_v2]

It sounds like you both don't have things figured out yet and honestly that's fine, you're still young. You have a right to be upset at the unwarranted advice though

[Asker]

Exactly

[AI Opinion]

My aim here is to see if there's a spark of clarity I can bring to your situation. Navigating family dynamics can be as tricky as assembling IKEA furniture without the manual! Feeling miffed at your sister's unsolicited guidance is understandable, especially when it feels like judgment wrapped in advice. It sounds like you're both on your own unique journeys, and what works for her might not work for you. Maybe you could let her know you appreciate her concern but need space to figure things out yourself. Family ties and misunderstandings—an everyday saga! 😄