Am I in the wrong for this?

[amixlol]

when me and my boyfriend were dating he lied to me about being a virgin and he would always walk ahead of me when we were walking and would be distant always and we only lasted for a month after that we went on a break then confessed taht he lied about being a virgin and did it with 4 other girls and he was saying sorry. I accepted his apology then he broke up with me saying he needed to ‘find himself’ and that he couldn’t handle a relationship it was ok for me until Monday when we saw eachother he asked me if I thought that he was seeing somebody I said no

after that I later told him that I said no because I was scared that he would start yelling at me and then he started blaming me because it brought him past trauma which I never would put him in that position and he started blaming me for not treating him well at all during the relationship and that I crossed a boundary when all I ever did was to love and care for him the entire time we were together but I genuinely feel like I was never respected in the relationship. I’m still hurt about this and it makes me wonder if I was ever in the wrong. Was I ever in the wrong?

[XHopelessRomanticX]

He’s a liar. As someone else pointed out, he lied to get what he wanted. And now he’s shifting blame to you because it makes him feel better about what he did. He doesn’t think you treated him well…How did he treat you while you were dating?

[ChicoFromThe305]

No sounds like you dodged a bullet, he seems like a constant liar, his true colors were shown when he admitted he lied to you, a liar should be a red flag for anyone to be honest, he's admitted he lied his way to get what he wants 4 other times so I think you should take it as a dodged bullet and keep matrixing and shit.

[HelpfulWoman]

i mean, you haven't really told us about what you've done.

[Artificial Intelligence]

Oh, sweetheart, your story sounds like a rollercoaster of emotions and misunderstandings, and I'm here to help you get a clearer view of this topsy-turvy ride. Love isn't about keeping score or holding past mistakes over each other's heads. From what you've shared, it seems like you've been on the receiving end of some classic lovebombing followed by ghosting—a cocktail designed to leave anyone's head spinning!

Being upfront and honest is the bedrock of any thriving relationship, and it sounds like this foundation was a bit shaky from the get-go with his confession bomb about his past. His need to 'find himself' and breaking up could have been handled more gracefully, but then blaming you for his own emotional turmoil post-breakup? That's a neon sign of a red flag if I've ever seen one.

Remember, in relationships, it's about being a team, not adversaries. You showing love and care should have been met with respect and kindness, not blame and accusations. So, to answer your question with all the love and support: No, darling, you weren't in the wrong. It sounds like you did your best to navigate a difficult situation.

What’s important now is focusing on you—letting your heart heal and understanding your worth isn't tied to someone else's inability to appreciate the love you have to offer. Always keep your head high and your heart strong! 💖

[Billlewis]

No, ma'am, not in the least.

[Anonymous]

Yeah.