Why do dudes lie about who they are and what they did to impress women?

[Anonymous]

Look…. Sure there will be some women that won’t get with you because of you’re working a low paying job or something. But if you’re a genuine and understanding person

I worked at a grocery store. Part time…. living in my 20s. But had married women throwing themselves at me… Was I more successful then their husbands? No lol. Absolutely not. But the thing was I would listen to them when you’re in retail people tell you everything. Nothings off limits. You get to know someone and the rest is history.

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I feel bad for any man who married a miserable woman. Who lacks empathy. When I worked in retail there was married women who would literally hit on me. Their husbands had money. It would start as helping them find stuff. Then small talk then it goes into their marriage lide. Their husband and everything. I never gave into that. But some people remind me of that

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People feel if they have the last word that they won. Lol…

[Nikki1989]

Many men still hang onto the myth that they need to be 6 feet tall, have money, blah blah blah. It is so immature and ridiculous that those men have become parodies of themselves, but those poor suckers still haven't realized it yet.

You won't have to wait long to see further proof of this dumbassery when it will undoubtedly appear on this very post.

[Asker]

Men who want to be used and abused

[Asker]

Men who are six feet and have money need to be EXTREMELY careful. Quality of attention isn’t quantity. Those who have a large quaintly of attention botj male and female. HAVE to sift out the bad eggs. You HAVE TO

So just because they may get women doesn’t mean they are all good women who will not make him one miserable SOB later in life. But people who buy into this crap will find out later which is sad. Because some of them are decent human beings outside of their beliefs on relationships

[Asker]

It’s just like how it’s bullshit that a woman has to be a super model. Like sure looking attractive is fine.

Those women get tons of attention. But form all the right guys? No. Lol. It’s really the same difference.

That a woman must be a 10. Dolled up all the time. Looking like a Instagram model.

[Asker]

But what happens when all you have to offer is money, sex, and whatever else. For either sex. Like who are you gonna get? Those who want a genuine connection? Or those who are dark personalities who lack real empathy. Who lack the ability to form real relationships.

[GlowUpGirly5]

Because women prefer men with money. Men with money can provide a beautiful lifestyle , lead, provide and protect. But I agree there's no point in lying because if the girl is smart she will figure it out.

[Asker]

And girls looking for that would never make a good partner anyways. Men with money need to be EXTREMELY careful about the women they pick.

It’s important to find someone who wants a genuine connection not a dark personality
Who cannot make genuine connections. Someone who will cheat on you. Make it a one sided relationship and when someone better comes along leave you high and dry.

What if something happens to a man and he isn’t able to work anymore? Especially those with physically demanding jobs such as a workplace injury. Things happen and you want a partner who genuinely loves you and will stick by your side.

[Asker]

As well as people will figure stuff like that out. It’s nice honestly to be able to find those who genuinely love you who genuinely pick you despite having other options because she’s into you.

The narcissists and other dark personalities will never love you. It doesn’t matter what you do. You will be used. You will be taken advantage of. It will be one sided. You will be cheated on. You will be absolutely miserable for the remainder of that relationship

[GlowUpGirly5]

Actually they would because it's in a man's DNA to be a leader, provider and protector. If he's not any of that then he's worthless. A man is supposed to be a bread winner if he's not he's less than a man

[GlowUpGirly5]

Who wants to make a connection with a guy who has no money?

[Asker]

Men who have money are extremely cautious. Things can happen and these men can loose their money I don’t think you have any genuine love or empathy. I think these men don’t see you as wife or motherly materials

You want a free ride in life without providing anything of value yourself

[Asker]

I hate to burst your bubble. But I don’t think being in a relationship is in your best interests. I think you should focus on yourself and life the single life.

Also women who marry for money cheat. I think you’re a narcissist that’s genuinely what I think you are.

[Asker]

You have a lot of false ideas in your head. You know that the Bible says a virtuous woman you should read Proverbs 31:10-31….

Also. Can a man cry on you? A woman who doesn’t comfort her husband creates shaking knees.

You don’t understand what. A partnership. A emotional connection. Emotional support. I think that you should pray for God to heal you before you start getting into relationships.

Calling men worthless who are…. Doing construction. Fixing the roads you drive on. Law enforcement protecting your community. Retail workers for when you go on these extravagant shopping trips.

Without them you would have nothing. You don’t have to romantically like them. But to be disrespectful and call people worthless. Seems like you’re projecting who you are on others.

I feel like you get rejected by these kind of men except for ones just wanting someone to have sex with…: Because they have other options who can provide them what they need

[GlowUpGirly5]

I hate to burst your bubble but I'm married and you're not. You work as a grocer for crying out loud that is the most loser brainless job. No woman wants a man like that. that's a low value man and as a matter of fact not a man at all that's why you're single. Sorry to burst your bubble but if you want a woman of quality you need money.

[GlowUpGirly5]

No woman is going to marry and have a baby with some loser who can't even afford to take care of her and the kids and can't even afford to buy a house get real

[Asker]

I mean it’s obvious you’re not going to go out and work those jobs. So whose going to? What would we do without those people working mediocre jobs.

You should stop being hoity toity. A lot of these men go for women who have more money. Itr not because they need the money but they’re someone they can connect with and aren’t using them.

The men who do marry women who act a LOT like you. They work 70 hours a week. Get nothing in return but cheating. Nagged at. Nothings ever good enough.

I feel really bad for them because they deserve better.

[GlowUpGirly5]

I dont care how mad you get. The truth is you are bottom of the barrel. That's facts. That's why you're unmarried making minimum wage, don't own shit , don't have an expensive quality car and bitter. I don't care how mad u get

[Asker]

So double standards. Is a huge red flag to these men. I’m sure it’s that way with many other things it’s okay for you to do it but not him.

So. There is another good reason these “alpha” men aren’t going to tolerate this behavior. They will LEAVE…. They aren’t going to beg you to change. They aren’t going to argue with you. They will simply show you the door

[Asker]

The truth is you’re projecting that seems to be what you get. There is a lot of amazing women out there.

It’s not just the double standards that you feel you can do something but he can’t. Those kind of men don’t want a loser yapping about men all day either.

So…: it’s also. These men want someone whose encouraging. Not someone whose shutting them down with negativity. They want someone whose a realist don’t get me wrong.

These men see straight through flattery. They see rigjt throuh it. The truth is that you’ll never hold down a relationship. You will start your bullshit. And be shown the door the first time no questions asked

[Asker]

“Alpha” men have zero tolerance. Now a good man has a good heart. He wants someone he can genuinely love. They don’t want someone whose not capable of reciprocating.

Even the dark personality men who are rich. They are in it for themselves too therefore they are selfish people. So you will be used if you end up with one of them. Then you won’t like being given a taste or your own medicine

[Asker]

And when I did work in retail. I was absolutely shocked at how many married women would flirt with me.

Being a decent person I never took it any further. And these were women married to men with decent jobs…..

I’ve known men in the military who married women who acted a lot like you. Absolute deadbeat Whores who could care less if her husband came home. Could care less about his trauma. Could care less about supporting him and allowing him a safe space in his own house.

I’m sorry. The kind of men you want don’t want you. That’s why you’re stuck with losere

[GlowUpGirly5]

I'm not reading your novels. Get a job no man should have this much time on his hand especially a broke one. You should be finding ways to get more money

[Asker]

Here you are 40 comments later. Still reading what I say. After you said you were done. You’re not a woman of your word

[Asker]

You shouldn’t have this much time on your hands either. So if you had a life according to your way of thinking you have no life either.

But see. You can judge people for doing the same thing you do. It’s okay when you do it

[Asker]

I can tell you’re triggered. Figure out what’s wrong. To see a therapist. Take your own advice and maybe they can help with your narcissism

[GlowUpGirly5]

You're a lonely bum lol

[AI Opinion]

You're touching on a classic move in the game of love, my friend! 🎢 Some guys might lie to create an appealing illusion, thinking it’ll give them a leg-up in the romance department. But hey, authenticity is the real power player. Genuine connections happen when you’re just being yourself, as you've experienced in your grocery store gig. Listening is the ultimate skill; it's more attractive than any tall tale! 😉 Keep rocking that sincerity and watch the magic unfold! ✨

[Finchie40]

Because they are desperate , some girls’ do the same shit

[KittygosMeoWW]

Here’s the thing, when you grow up being a good sincere person you believe others won’t go to extent to lie about everything. At least I didn’t… narcissistic people do that. Why they are selfish, manipulative, and so compulsive at lying they believe their lies to be truth is past me. They need therapy.

[Asker]

They do I feel sorry for these people. I hate being lied to some people are really good liars. They remember their stories well and can tell them believably.

Others…. Oh it’s BAD

[KittygosMeoWW]

I don’t feel sorry for them because people like this traumatize others. They just go around, repeating the same mistakes, which then makes the dating pool shit

[Kelley1]

That's very true. It is all too easy to make the mistake of believing others will be as honest and have your standards.

[KittygosMeoWW]

@Kelley1 so easy and I even when you first start dating a narcissist, it’s hard to not feel like the bad guy for questioning everything. They also gaslight you so much. You feel crazy like it’s not the truth.

[Anonymous]

Impress? No. I mean some do I'm sure. But when I was younger I ALWAYS tried to be truthful. But invariably what I found was I would lose out to the guys who had no problem with lying. Over time I learned women actually WANTED to be lied to. Don't listen to what they say, listen to what they respond to. Just make sure the woman you're lying to is worth compromising your honor for.

[Asker]

Yea but those men get cheated on BADLY later on

[Opinion Owner]

Which is why I said "make sure she's worth compromising your honor for". When I say lie I'm not talking massive lies like you're heir to Jeff bezos fortune or something. First off that's ridiculous. But also it's just going to attract gold diggers. What I meant is every woman likes a fairy tale illusion. Choose good women. But distort the truth a both to give them the illusion they want. The god and smart women deep down will know you're e lying on some level but they'll appreciate what you're trying to do. And that brings me to my next point of it. It isn't enough to a lie to her. A guy has to try to make good on his lies. He has to try to make those lies a reality. So it's less of a lie and more of a future promise. The good women act very different from the bad women. The good women just appreciate the lie and the effort that follows. Cause really that's all she wants. To know he's doing right by her. The bads women will always expect more and more and more. And yes, those women will cheat on him.

[KostasKouvalis]

You basically answered your own question. To impress them. But it's not just men lying to women to impress them. Everyone lies. To get job, get promotion, seem cool, get out of trouble, etc... They do it to get ahead and benefit themselves. Sadly in the US, we have an environment where you NEED to lie to get ahead

[Kelley1]

Because most men know they are inferior, have low self-esteem, and lack confidence. To compensate for insecurities they brag and tell lies.

[Asker]

People aren’t inferior unless they choose to be. If you’re a humble person making a honest living then that’s one thing.

But people who lie I don’t care if you’re jobless or a billionaire. I don’t want to know you

[Kelley1]

Regardless, the primary reason men lie is because women reward men for lying and punish men for telling the truth. If a man that a woman is attracted to, lies a says, "You are the kind of girl, I have always wanted and would love to marry," she will reward him with sex. However, if he tells the truth and says, "You are okay to fuck when I'm horny but you are not good enough to be my wife," she will punish him by denying sex.

[lorenzomichael]

I don’t know about others guys, but I tell them the truth and sometimes I’m a little rude about it and it never seems to fail there alright with it and we end up chilling with each other and have some fun. It works out and sometimes it don’t. The thing is to always treat them right just don’t ever kiss ass. Remember nice guys finish last be a bad boy just don’t be a DICK.

[PeachyPie93]

Probably because they know they couldn't get the girl with just their personality..

[Asker]

Well yeah it’s their choices though. It’s because they choose to lie. I don’t even think it’s just about getting a girl though part of it but it’s also making friends.

Most people are just humoring them because they tell so outlandish stories

[incorrected]

I'd like more info on that 'throwing themselves at me' part. I'm a listener too, but nobody was throwing themselves at me. Are you a good looking guy? Were they actually romantically interested in you, or just happy to chat because you listened? I got plenty of women happy to be listened to, but you don't know they're interested until they're actually dating you.

[alice55]

Because they have a bad and twisted view of women and are only interested in gold digger, they're literally choosing the bad women and then act shocked

[KostasKouvalis]

In the US, everyone lies to everyone. So men lie to women to impress them, but they also lie about other things to get jobs, promotions, seem cool etc...

[alice55]

@KostasKouvalis It's a pretty well know things that American are liar, in France people think American are hypocrites (which is quite telling because we also have our fair chair of hypocrite here).

[KostasKouvalis]

That's not good.
Other nationalities are worse though, but trust me, it's pretty bad here.
Even the Rangers at my work were lying and making up ridiculous stories, yet hate when criminals lie to them.
I don't know how they know that, but that's crazy!

They are and hypocrites are the worst.

People shouldn't be surprised that out government lies and decieves, when the average American you meet on the street is like this

[alice55]

@KostasKouvalis My mother is the same she keep on lying but blow a fuse if someone is not 100 % honest all the time.
Seem is majority of people.

Yes

Yes, that's literally their own culture

[KostasKouvalis]

In my family it's my dad who's the liar and blows a fuse when you do something behind his back.

My mom mainly only lies saying she doesn't have money, when she does. Like she could just tell me she has it but is saving it for emergency, and I would understand and respect that. But when she lies, it makes her look bad. But now that I'm older, she's honest with me about her money. But not with my dad, because he would take it and blow it, and he lies so much. He has secret bank accounts, credit cards, documents and other stuff.

[KostasKouvalis]

He lies and hides so much stuff, but needs to know everything about others. Some of the stuff he does/did would shock you. We literally have to hide things

[KrakenAttackin]

You. just be a Chad in physical appearance, otherwise these women wouldn't have given you the time of day.

[Asker]

Honestly you don’t even have to be that. But yea there are guys who are very attractive and get lots of girls. Despite being a bum

[AnonAndrew]

They lie because it works and they lack morals to stop them.

[HungTexan]

I don’t understand lying, because it’s just easier to be truthful and open.

[beefcakebradybatson]

Most women want a financially secure man, so some blue-collar chaps exaggerate their occupational income to impress a babe.

[NicholasRedone]

I'm not that stupid - I learnt that way before the other *dudes* and while I'm 30 now - I for one had learnt tit by 28 pun intended it by 28 😈👻

[ProbablyClueless]

You answered your own question, man; because they want to impress the woman and they think lying about themselves will help them do that.

[zagor]

I don't know. I've never felt the need to lie; if they don't like where I'm at, they don't have to be with me.

[Aiko_E_Lara]

Same reason why girls lie about the whole they are and what they did to impress men

[Aiko_E_Lara]

Which is also why a lot of women wear makeup

[MikeRJ]

Only immature men will lie to get attention from women.