My boyfriend has disappeared every weekend. Any advice?

[Anonymous]

We've been together for 3 years but we've never spent weekends together because he always claims he's busy. Today I found out that was a lie. His coworker told me they rarely work on weekends. Now I wonder what he's been doing all this time? How can I confront him?

[Summeroflove]

So he’s obviously doing something he doesn’t want you to know about and I doubt that it’s some sort of surprise party…

He’s probably cheating or at least doing something he doesn’t want you to know about. He probably thinks you’re stupid enough to buy his lies therefore you deserve it. A lot of people who cheat without any genuine remorse are dark personalities. So they believe that if you’re to naïve, too dumb, too whatever you deserve it. That if you’re too weak to stand up to him you deserve it.

The truth is you’re probably a good person who projects your goodness onto him. Because you wouldn’t even think about doing something like that to him because you love him. People of dark personalities their brains work completely different then yours.

But you’re not stupid because you have caught on. I’m sorry that he wasted three whole years of your life but be glad you’re not married. I think it’s time to break it off. I can’t tell you what he’s doing for sure but the trust is gone. I think you would be happier with someone whose not going behind your back.

The truth is by the time you catch on he has probably done it a million times. A lot of people are very careful at first when they start sneaking around. Whether it’s cheating. Whether it’s doing drugs. Whatever.

[Finchie40]

Time for you to get yourself a new boyfriend, cuz he is clearly up to no good if he isn’t spending time with you on the weekends , he is more than likely spending time or investing time into other girls’ so don’t fall for that nonsense and kick his ass to the curb where he belongs

[DishLady]

Don't bother confronting him. He's not your guy. He's playing around with someone else OR somewhere playing video games all day with his buddies. Either way he's been lying to you which is a massive red flag and a definitive dealbreaker.

[Rosexøxø]

Either ask and then or just track him and see if you find anything disloyal, or just leave. Whichever is easiest. He’s probably been gone “ “ from you for quite some time now.

[Rosexøxø]

Best to you!

[AI Opinion]

Oh, the mystery of the disappearing boyfriend! Let’s unravel it with a pinch of charm, shall we? It’s time to address this weekend Houdini act and get some answers. 🕵️‍♀️ Communication, my dear, is key! Approach him with curiosity rather than anger. Talk about how his actions make you feel without accusations. Be open, and hopefully, he’ll open up too. Whether it’s a red flag or a simple misunderstanding, honesty is your best ally! Good luck, and remember, you're not alone in figuring this out! 😊

[HawkPerception]

Advice... leave your partner and in the future be more inquisitive about your partner's whereabouts. Not seeing him a single weekend in 3 years is insane and very obviously him seeing someone else.

[AviatorTom]

My advice: Get a new boyfriend. You are bring used.

[PeachyPie93]

3 years? How did you only just realize there was something wrong? That is really weird you wouldn't look into what he does on the weekend even after a few months dating..
Basically just ask him "what are you busy doing on weekends and why do you never want to spend them with me?" If he doesn't have a straight answer or won't tell you he is defo doing something wrong lol

[barney]

It’s understandable to feel hurt and confused. The best way to approach this is by calmly expressing how you feel. Let him know that you found out the truth and ask for an explanation. If he’s truly committed, he’ll be open and honest. If he gets defensive or avoids the conversation, it may be time to rethink the relationship. Trust is essential.

[Asker]

I’ll make sure to approach the situation with honesty and clarity.

[david]

It sounds like something isn’t adding up, and your instincts are telling you something’s off. The fact that he’s been lying for so long raises concerns about his commitment and honesty. You need to confront him directly and ask for the truth. If he becomes defensive or continues to lie, it’s a serious red flag. Trust is vital, and this behavior undermines it.

[Asker]

thanks for advice

[natanzuelo]

It’s understandable to feel hurt and confused. The best approach is to confront him calmly and express how you feel. Be honest about what you discovered, and ask for an explanation. Trust is vital in a relationship, and if he’s been dishonest, it’s important to address that. Pay attention to his response and decide if you can move forward together.

[Asker]

Thanks for the thoughtful advice! I’ll definitely keep that in mind when talking to him.

[Cormac995]

Probably cheating sorry but lying to hide what you're doing with spare time is always something bad. Even if he's not cheating it's probably something just as bad.

[Anonymous]

Probably "Works weeks" to the wife and kids and home with them on the weekends. You've probably known this all along but refused to admit it to yourself.

[HungTexan]

He’s hiding something, maybe a double life. Confront him and see if he comes clean. If not, dump him.

[HelpfulWoman]

did he specifically say busy with work? just being busy doesn't mean work.

[KrakenAttackin]

I don't think HE thinks you are boyfriend/girlfriend.

[WhitneySnow]

Confront him straight up. He probably has a secret wife or girlfriend. Maybe kids.

[exitseven]

Get up early next Saturday and do some recon to see what he really does on weekends.

[Anonymous]

You confront him like a grownup, like as if you were maybe 36-45 years old and could think on your own.

[Anonymous]

Are you sure he's not someone's husband and your part time boyfriend?

[LiamJHayden]

He might be married for all we know. Save yourself the hassle and move on.

[Eros91]

Probably stepping out. From sounds of it. My ex did this. This are are the signs.

[nawtee_me]

Follow him this weekend and see what he does….

[Anonymous]

He's obviously leading a double life. Put a tracker on his phone

[Staximus]

How many times have you been to his house?

[Crazzyyworld]

He has been selling drug on the street

[Jmmmfi4]

Maybe he just needs space