Do you agree that “cheating might be genetic”?

[itsannalee]

[Finchie40]

Not sure about genetics, but it could stem down from learned behavior of what they experienced and witnessed growing up. Cheating is a selfish decision, a cheater is a selfish person that only cares about themselves , they do not know how
To give the same way they want to receive. When I was younger , Cheating wasn’t even a thought of mine when I got into a relationship with a girl , She was my priority and I gave her my heart completely, it wasn’t until I got cheated on that made me have a whole different outlook on relationships, and made me realize not to trust everyone. I eventually cheated on a girl because she was treating me like shit and she was very controlling towards me , I know I should of dumped her but I ended up cheating on her first before dumping her , I immediately told her the truth that I did and ended it with her. I felt like a selfish asshole for doing that to her but I was honest about it. She wanted to give me a second chance , but I said No that she is best to find someone that wouldn’t cheat on her. After her I never cheated again , to me it was a learning experience to never do that again. Now if I am unhappy in a relationship I just end it first before pursuing someone else. I still question myself as to why I cheated and I realized it’s because I was selfish and it’s because I was cheated on before. A learned behavior

[TheSpaceGnome]

So actually everything anyone ever does is genetic.

Your own personal preferences, your tendencies, your likes and dislikes, tolerances and intolerances, your physical and emotional needs, your sensory organ sensitivity levels, your ability to comprehend what you are exposed to, etc.

They all exist because you are built the way that you are, and your genes guide how you are built, and this is true for anyone.

Its a misconception that genetic traits are always inhereted.

As with all traits, sometimes you are the first of your genetic line to have it, sometimes you aren't, and in both cases, sometimes your offspring will have it, and sometimes they won't.

Its a crapshoot. Its not like with genetic engineering where you can guide evolution toward a desired direction.

You can't breed for personality like you can with floppy dog ears.

So yes, its genetic, but it doesn't imply that cheaters will create cheaters like you think it might.

People are typically very different in personality than their parents. Personality is, for lack of a better term, completely random (still 100% genetic though - genetics are usually very random, mainly because of gene combination and microbe exposure).

[TheSpaceGnome]

I should clarify that by microbe exposure, I mean epigenetics. For example, viruses switch genes on and off or change how a gene is expressed, and does this throughout the course of a person's life, from conception to death. So your environment, troubles, conveniences, and lifestyle choices, molds your genes almost as much as your inhereted gene sets do.

[Kelley1]

Of course, everything based on natural selection (survival of the fittest), is genetic.

Women must mate with equals but they can fuck much better. Therefore, when there was opportunity and the risk of discovery was low, near ovulation, women have always cheated with men superior to their mates that, in turn, produced superior children that produced more descendants. Women who did not when they had the opportunity are not our ancestors.

Our ancestors are men that produced the most descendants. That was accomplished by impregnating the most fertile women; the reason that men are attracted to youth and fertility.

[TonyMetal___86]

Are you giving an excuse to cheat?

[Kelley1]

@TonyMetal___86 I prefer to call it "Acting in the best interest of your eggs and children."

[TonyMetal___86]

That's not how it works, we aren't animals, we are humans!
If you were married, would you like that your husband dumps you if he finds someone better?

[Kelley1]

@TonyMetal___86 Humans are animals and act more like animals than many animals.

Whatever will be will be. If my husband dumps me I will make the best of it.

[TonyMetal___86]

If you want a loyal husband who won't dump you than you must be a wife who will never dump her husband either...

[Kelley1]

@TonyMetal___86 I never suggested dumping a husband. Wives should keep their husbands who, in turn, will provide for them and their children including children sired by superior men.

[PeachyPie93]

I used to think that.. because I fall in love pretty easily with lots of people that I would be a cheater like my dad. Like monkey see monkey do kind of behaviour in families.. As I got older and had a really long relationship and dated a little I realize that I am not like my father and I can control my actions and feelings to not hurt others or be bad especially if it could cost someone I really care about.

[itsannalee]

Genetics only influences our sexual behavior, which influences people to cheat. that doesn't mean that people whose parents cheated will 100% cheat. it's just that they they are more at risk of cheating and still there are other environmental factors.

[AI Opinion]

As your cheeky relationship guru on GAG, let's dive into this spicy debate! There's no definitive evidence that cheating is genetic, but behaviors can be influenced by a mix of factors like environment and upbringing. It's all juicy speculation, though! Let's focus on owning our choices and keeping those relationship vibes positive and honest. Remember, trust isn't built on excuses but on genuine connections! What are your thoughts on this, darling? 😉💌

[ohsheeT]

I mean it very well could be but any boy growing up and seen or knowing that his father is a cheater he's going to be just like him the odds are I would think and same with the mother and daughter so you can say it's genetic but I mean it's also a choice

[AviatorTom]

Biologically, mammals have an innate desire to procreate, make offspring and continue the species. For males, that may involve a desire to impregnate multiple females, for females, a desire to be impregnated by multiple males, all to increase the probability if having healthy offspring.

One could argue, then, that people have a desire to cheat, genetically. But whether one cheats or not is determined by the individual's personality, not genetics.

[HawkPerception]

Cheating is a continual series of CHOICES you make. I would say it might be genetic in the sense genetics can pass down low emotional intelligence.

Cheating is a choice

[Summeroflove]

I disagree it could play a role but it comes down to integrity and personal choices. People cheat because they choose to nobody makes them.

[Summeroflove]

So if I say it’s genetic it offers them a excuse that they just can’t help themselves. When they can

[RingOfFire]

Absolutely. Women are genetically programmed by nature to seek out a partner who stick around and who will be able to help them when they are disabled by their monthly cycle, pregnancy, child birth and child raising. They are vulnerable their entire lives. They need to have someone to provide for and protect them and the children.

Men are genetically programmed by nature and evolution to plant their seeds and move on in order to create as many children as possible. They produce billions of sperm throughout their lives and can impregnate women their entire lives compared to women who have a finite number of eggs that they were born with and begin losing their ability to have children at about age 30.

So men naturally seek out multiple sex partners. That's their job. Just because a society frowns upon it in one infinitesimal tick of the 200 million year old clock of modern humans doesn't mean it changes anything.

And that's why so many more men cheat than women. And when women do cheat it's mostly for revenge when a man does it first.

[D_Bone_Steak]

Cheating without reason equates to "greedy" in my brain. "Oh, you want more dick or pussy than the deal you agreed to with that person provides."

So it's basically someone that is willing to shit on their "one and only" just for what again? It's a partner that basically wants to rip off their own partner.

Now if they have a reason... like being cheated on by them already... some people deserve to get cheated on in that respect. Otherwise the cheater is absolute trash. Is it all genetic though? I think genes play a part in the nature versus nature argument... but if you can just justify cheating for no reason... you're a different animal.

[adventurous-1]

not at all, I believe it's a preference that certain individuals see as just the way they are, it may be due to their upbringing, past trauma, peer pressure, or social concepts. Some people start out as monogamist but due to outside influences and past events change over time. Some come from homes where cheating was observed and accepted as a way of life. Some just never had the inclination to be exclusive to their partner. Some just see it as a way of life, without any remorse or misgivings. Question- is an open marriage, swapping, swinging, or cuckolding/hot-wife lifestyle seen as cheating? In all these situations I don't believe genetics have an impact but rather life experiences and mental attuites are the true precipitators to cheating. IMHO.

[AnonAndrew]

For men it isn't, but for women it is.

We have evolved for polyandry, where one woman has multiple husbands. Because of this, a woman who is forced to be in a monogamous relationship (by society’s rules that tell us she is “bad” for wanting to be with more than one man), she will always feel a desire to be with another man.

Society works pretty hard to suppress our sexual nature, though, so it often comes out in other ways.

[itsannalee]

Based on research, variations in genes are powerful enough to influence sexual behavior beyond other environmental factors. In fact, even our genes account for roughly 63%of infidelity in males and 40% in females. So if you said that’s only on women and not on men, it’s false.

[AnonAndrew]

@itsannalee
This sounds interesting! :) Where can I read more about this?

[itsannalee]

I forget the link about the journal, but this is short video about it https://vt.tiktok.com/ZSM1cRjdE/

[Lynx122]

There are people who are more promiscuous and risk taking in general, and people who are less so. I think I heard some where there's like 10-15 % of the population in both genders who do most of the cheating and spreading diseases etc. Most people are more conservative with their behavior. It doesn't mean they won't cheat but it'll be maybe 1 or no affair in their life it won't be like 5 at the same time :)

[RiseofArtemis]

Not sure about it being Genetic but its for sure Socialy. If everyone around you deemed it as bad and punished those who did then you wouldn't cheat and you would punish the cheaters too.

Society basicaly only functions on what punishes you and what doesn't.

[Miristheiss]

No.

Cheating is 100% a reflection of a person's character, their devotion or lack there of, how selfish they are.

It proves whether you are a piece of shit or not. No, it isn't a case of "I have a cheating disease" it isn't my fault, my condition made me do it.

[Angelo75]

Nope!!!

You might have higher amount of hormones being produced or influencing you.
But if I (or we) accept this, then we must accept that certain families (or even races) are also simply because of their genetics.

I strongly believe it has to do more with willpower and upbringing.

[Ferngully2000]

I don’t know it’s genetic, but I do think people are influenced by external behaviours around them whilst growing up. So if your dad or mum did it or you were exposed to it as a child, you have a higher likelihood of doing it yourself, a learnt behaviour for sure.

[fuddly]

I think so

And from Richard Dawkins, you can tell by the size of a guys testicles

No joking!

Because the faithful guy didn't need much sperm

The cheater guy will want to max his sperm to win over other guys sperm.

Something like that

I read the book 20 years ago
The book is called "The Blind watchmaker"

[itsannalee]

Really? No wonder my ex has big one lol

[fuddly]

We're talking testicles here
Not penis
There are two testicles
🙄

[itsannalee]

Did i say penis?

[fuddly]

You said big one

[itsannalee]

Did i say penis? That still the question

[fuddly]

You said big one

Really? No wonder my ex has big one lol

Unless he only has had one testicle I think you referring to his big penis

But you can tell us what you meant

[fuddly]

Not telling?

[Being_a_good_Indian]

Some studies suggest a possible genetic component to infidelity, but there's no definitive "cheating gene." Behavior is complex and influenced by many factors, including environment and personal choices.

[quarrel]

Do I think cheating specifically is caused by genetics, no. Are there genetic patterns that might promote the possibility for poor impulse control, addiction, and personality disorders, maybe. I've seen somewhat reasonable arguments for that.

[MemeSupreme]

nope bc i've never cheated

altho ik a lot of other people who's parents cheated too and they ended up cheating themselves, so there's definitely a correlation

[nastyb]

its not. its purely due to upbringing. Kids who grew up seeing a cheating parent are much more likely to cheat.

[itsannalee]

Actually, based on research, variations in genes are powerful enough to influence sexual behavior beyond other environmental factors. In fact, even our genes account for roughly 63%of infidelity in males and 40% in females. But that doesn't mean that people whose parents cheated will 100% cheat. It just means that they are more at risk of cheating and still there are other environmental factors.

[nastyb]

@itsannalee

Not all research is true.

I find that culture and upbringing really determines how people will act when they get older

just like misygyny and woman hating is so common in the middle east. do you think all middle eastern men are born to be woman haters? do you think all middle eastern men have a woman hating gene?

do you think all western white men have a "woman loving" gene just because they treat women better?

why do black people commit more crime nowadays than back then in the 1950s? is it because they have a gene that makes them more likely to commit crime? its because ghetto culture simply didn't exist til the past few decades. If you took a look back in the 1950s, there was no such thing as ghetto.

[itsannalee]

The question do you have any research or journal about it? It’s not about the opinion, but research. Snd you are talking about nonsense who has nothing to do with the research in the topic.

And no one ever said that women hating in Middle East, unless they are westerners who never go to the middle east or get proper education.

[nastyb]

I'm asking you to just think about the logic. Only dumb bricks with no brain, purely rely on research. Not all research is true either. Plenty of biases in research.

Truth is... our genes influence everything: our behavior, our life outcomes, our health, our intelligence. But so does nurture/culture/ upbringing.

Just take a look at how carribean hispanics are usually much lazier than Asians. why are Asians so educated and hard working? do Asians just have that hardworking gene? or do all carribean hispanics have the lazy gene?

With certain things, I honestly think its nurture that is way more important than nature.

Use your brain, just think about it.

[itsannalee]

The question still has nothing to do about the topic because no one was talking about it those things were about gene, that’s yourself making it up and had no research about it. It’s not apple to apple to compare journal with your own thoughts.

So next time just compare something that is related to each other or at least has the same reference.

[nastyb]

girl, I can tell you don't have a brain to use. Thats why you only can rely on what research tells you. I'm gonna just warn you that there are often contradicting studies all the time.
Peace.

[Flower7]

I don’t think it’s in the genes, but I do believe that it can be a learned behavior from someone’s parents doing this.

[sage2021]

I believe that NOT cheating is genetic because no one in my entire family has ever cheated on the person that they are with.

[JustinTheGreat]

I don’t think it can be genetic. However it can be a learned behavior. If you grow up with a parent who normalized cheating and toxic behavior, you are gonna grow up thinking it’s acceptable

[Nikki1989]

Nah, it has more to do with personal choices, and relationship dynamics than anything to do with genetics.

[Bklynbadboy12]

Nope that's not genetic. If it was genetic it would be something they could control. Let not make excuses for them cheating is a choice they are choosing to cheat and for me that's unexceptable behavior

[itsannalee]

Actually, based on research, it’s still has to do with genetics. Because variations in genes are powerful enough to influence sexual behavior beyond other environmental factors.

[Bklynbadboy12]

I don't believe that for a second. You cheat cause you want to. If you don't want to cheat then you won't

[RHK36]

You might be genetically more inclined to cheat, but it's still a choice. At the end of the day cheating is selfish act of betrayal. There's no excuse that will be valid for doing it.

[dustybiker2]

I don't think any excuse can be given for something that is pure choice, giving self permission.

[naartjie]

No. It’s how you are as a person. Everyone makes their own choices

[PBandJ_Nerd]

No. Cheating is a thing that people choose to do.

[Verbano1]

Yes, there must be some "genetic influence": genes are fascinating

[TonyMetal___86]

Nope it isen't, it's a matter of morals and values, plus what do you believe in!

I never cheat and never even thought about it when i was in a serious relationship or married!

[WhitneySnow]

No but you might learn it from your parents

[RSav4013]

I think it's very unlikely to be inherently part someone's DNA.

[HungTexan]

I think it’s human nature to have the urge, if that’s what you mean.

[madgoat]

In so far as some are more predisposed to cheating than others. But it's a bit of a stretch.

[ChicoFromThe305]

That would actually be crazy AF if that was foreal 😂

[FunkyMonkee]

No, grandpap was a cheater but I never did. Neither did mom or any of her siblings.

[KittygosMeoWW]

Hmm makes sense the momma is a ho so the son is one too.

[KittygosMeoWW]

@Wileywonder oh great here you are again… so you’re gonna stalk every opinion because you got your feelings hurt. All because I didn’t message you back.

[KittygosMeoWW]

@Wileywonder you obviously do because you think insulting me is going to make you feel better. Those are little angry man actions.

[KittygosMeoWW]

@Wileywonder I will say the same thing I told you before I’m no one to call people ugly physically but your actions because you didn’t get the hint that I didn’t want to flirt with you makes you ugly and a weirdo. Learn how to interact with women and don’t go crazy when they don’t give you the energy you wanted. It’s crazy to expect things out of people you don’t know. If you want to keep bothering me go ahead, I don’t block.

[KittygosMeoWW]

@Wileywonder I don’t know you…. You act like we’ve messaged for years wtf…. I sent you one worded messages most of the time. Disgusting behavior

[itsannalee]

@KittygosMeoWW just ignore him, some people are too lonely and act weird.

[Wileywonder]

You even made a question about me, how cute

[KittygosMeoWW]

@Wileywonder *about weirdos like you… yeah

[itsannalee]

@Wileywonder fuck off from my own thread? This thread is my question, you moron!

[KittygosMeoWW]

@Wileywonder lol you really think you’re doing something huh. Your mom should’ve swallowed especially since her kid was gonna end up with a come over at what 25-28 I don't know how old you are. How about you make that picture of you standing next to spider man your profile pic since you wanted validation off it so much.

[OlderAndWiser]

No, not at all.

[LiamJHayden]

I agree that cheaters look for any excuse for their lack of integrity.

[Surely]

If being too lazy to study is genetic. Then it could be inherited!

[Uglygaypoorcoward94]

Genetic, sure (human nature) but not hereditary

[jahaims]

It's definitely not genetic lol. Cheating is a choice

[James994]

I hope not because my dad cheated or attempted to cheat on my mother

[JiDom6]

My question is. Would u stay with a partner, if cheating was genetic?

[itsannalee]

You can choose your partner, it’s not like you buy labubu doll who we can’t choose what inside is. That’s why you need to know their family background before date someone.

[JiDom6]

But, what if. Everyone finds out after a year or two of dating. That his genetics are like that.

[Professor-college]

I find that strange.. it sounds more like a bad habit

[mkall]

some exes are nuts omg there crazy wen u get someone new

[CubaPirate]

Possibly but not definitely

[exitseven]

No, that is not genetic. It is a choice.

[Staximus]

No, it's learned behavior

[Wise4myage]

No I don’t. Cheating is a decision.

[Nightmoon23]

It’s not and it depends on what cheating is

[itsannalee]

Actually, based on research, variations in genes are powerful enough to influence sexual behavior beyond other environmental factors. In fact, even our genes account for roughly 63%of infidelity in males and 40% in females. But that doesn't mean that people whose parents cheated will 100% cheat. It just means that they are more at risk of cheating and still there are other environmental factors.

[Nightmoon23]

I mean is it really cheating if you give them permission

[itsannalee]

A cheater will be a cheater.. they will find a way and won’t ask you for permission

[Nightmoon23]

I don’t know my wife has never done it behind my back

[itsannalee]

Like i said, they won’t ask your permission. If they are cheater they are cheater.

[Nightmoon23]

True but she’s not a cheater

[Jupiter1]

No. That’s a stupid cop out.

[blackeagle007]

I fail to see that.

[moneymagnet24]

Nonsense post of the day

[Crazzyyworld]

Yes gigolo is in gene

[MK1997]

Yes I do

[Dream001]

No just excuse

[straightmax12]

No, it isn't genetic.

[Agape93]

Nope

[Awantika03]

Not possible

[eagle1951]

no i don't