My boyfriend wants to take the kids to the water park for Valentine’s Day weekend but I don’t want to because I feel insecure with him in public?

[chocneenee]

I have had an issue that has gotten bad going out with my boyfriend in public because I feel like he stares at women too long that’s pretty and it makes me insecure. What should I do or how do I handle it? It sucks..

[Finchie40]

He shouldn’t be your boyfriend period if that’s what he is doing to you. That’s why you feel insecure because he isn’t the guy for you period. You are dating a disrespectful guy that just likes the convenience of you , Dump his ass and find yourself a guy that makes you feel secure in your relationship, that chooses you the same way you choose him. That is respectful and honest and loving to you , that is pretty much blind to other girls’ Your boyfriend now is just using you , he truly doesn’t love you if he is constantly checking out other girls’ , he doesn’t respect you period. I would never stay in a relationship with a girl that was constantly checking out other guys’ in front of me because I can easily imagine what she does behind my back , so I would gladly hand her over to one of them and say Good Luck with that shit. You will never be happy and you will never feel content being with someone that is like that period. Every word he tells you probably sounds like complete bullshit to you , so I hate to break it to you but you are holding onto someone that isn’t holding on to you period. Someone that doesn’t respect you the same way you respect them , Life is to short to be with someone that treats you that way. There are plenty of fish in the sea that would treat you way better than that shit , trust me

[chocneenee]

Wow thank you

[Finchie40]

No problem , don’t kick yourself in the ass over it , it sounds like you are a beautiful person that values your relationships and that’s a great way to be , unfortunately a lot of us tend to pick people that clearly aren’t good for us because we easily see past their flaws and assume they love us the same way we love them and sadly that isn’t always the case. One thing I learned through my experiences in relationships, is to always love yourself first , before loving someone else , if you don’t love yourself , then you have no love to give to someone else period. Treat people the same way you like to be treated in return , that’s all we can do , no one is perfect but someone that is perfect for you is someone that is on the same page as you , that chooses you the same way you choose them. Respect and honesty is the key to finding happiness, if you aren’t feeling respected by someone , then you will never feel happy , you will always feel like you are giving without receiving , and clearly that’s what your boyfriend was doing to you , he liked receiving from you but he didn’t know how to give to you because all he cares about is himself. So don’t change who you are as a person , the only change you should do , is remove him out of your life and find yourself someone that is on the same page as you , someone that gives the same way they want to receive , and your insecurities will go out the door and you will be happy again

[Anonymous]

Does he really stare at women for long periods of time, or do you just think so out of jealousy?

Has he ever done anything to shake your trust?

[chocneenee]

So we can be walking past a pretty girl and instead of a quick glance I have caught him turning his head to keep looking or looking for too long and it’s embarrassing for me. And yes he had a female friend that kissed and grabbed his private before and they became friends she’s a stripper and he looked at a lot of her videos, commenting and texting her all types of the night even though he and she said it wasn’t anything and I feel like it has just ruined my security I have with him in public

[Opinion Owner]

If you can't trust, how will this relationship continue? You should tell him this. Please don't look at other women near me, say you're upset. Speak openly, there's no other choice.

[chocneenee]

Yes, I have but he still does it a little. And it just has made it worse where I have told him I can’t even enjoy going out in public with him. I am pregnant with his child and we will be three years in June. So it’s a lot at stake

[Opinion Owner]

Would you consider getting couples therapy?

[chocneenee]

I think we should

[Opinion Owner]

maybe you can also try this:
For example, when he look at a girl from her behind, you also say "which a.. is nice is mine or her" . If you do this a few times, maybe he will feel embarrassed? What do you think?

[chocneenee]

Right , thank you

[Opinion Owner]

You're welcome. Be happy.

[AI Opinion]

Ah, the classic Valentine's Day dilemma! 🌹 As someone who's seen a fair share of love stories, I'd say communication is key. Share your feelings with your boyfriend without pointing fingers. Let him know how his behavior affects you and work together to find a solution. Maybe even suggest alternatives for the weekend that'd make you feel more comfortable. Remember, relationships thrive on open chats. You got this! ❤️

[jahaims]

You shouldn't even be dating if you have that issue