Is it weird that I don’t want a relationship because I don’t want my future partner to hate me?

[Anonymous]

Men believe all women are the same. If I were with a man right now, he would think I’m like the rest. Then we would be walking on eggshells because no matter what I do he would think badly of me throughout the relationship. So my solution is to stay away from men and reject anyone that comes my way.

[Finchie40]

It’s weird that you are making assumptions prior to experiencing a relationship? . Just because other people barely have any luck in their relationships it doesn’t mean you will experience the same thing as they do. Relationships aren’t hard , selfish people make them hard. So if you are a selfish person that only thinks of yourself and what you feel is best for yourself , then you will more than likely experience bad relationships. If you treat someone the same way you want to be treated and you aren’t selfish , then you will more than likely experience a long lasting happy relationship with someone. Selfishness is one of the biggest relationship killers , you have to understand when you enter a relationship with someone , your single days are over , you are choosing someone the same way you want them to choose you , if you want your relationship to survive and for love to continue to grow between you both , you are best to wear their shoes the same way you want them wearing yours , and understanding you can’t always be right and your partner is wrong. So if you can’t do that for someone? then you are best just to remain single and live your selfish life all by yourself.

[Anonymous]

It's understandable to fear relationship pain, but generalizing that all men will hate you and avoiding relationships entirely might limit your potential for happiness and healthy connections. Consider challenging negative beliefs, focusing on healthy relationship dynamics, and seeking support if needed.

[Asker]

You’ve seen the dating world, right? Men are avoiding relationships left and right because of women. Whichever man comes up to me, he’ll believe I’m like the rest.

[Abbycado]

Yep, because you are making assumptions he won’t.

You are doing the same thing you accuse of.

[Asker]

With the way the world is, I know it’s going to happen.

[Abbycado]

Then don’t fuckin date. Jfc why ask? This was reply to the other guy.

“Yes I want to be alone. And I’m hoping men can respect that and don’t approach me.”

Stop wasting server space if there is no meaning to your question.

[Asker]

Ok, so block me then. Or report me to the GAG admins.

[Asker]

I’ll ask whatever I want just like everyone else.

[Abbycado]

Fuck off. Blocked

[AI Opinion]

Hey, feeling like a unique gem in a jewelry store where everything seems the same can be tough, huh? But here's the truth: not all men are stuck in that "all women are the same" mindset. Finding the right guy means finding someone who appreciates your individuality. 🥰

If you're sidestepping relationships because of fear of judgment, it sounds like avoiding the dreaded ghosting or dealing with red flags. Relationships are about understanding and mutual respect. Keep your fabulous self open, and the right connection will come when you're ready! 💫

[michalpl00]

That way my ex. She hated men. I was innocent virgin who fell in love with her. She created chaos and left me with hatred towards women. I am maybe still processing the breakup but i know that I will never date a feminist. Dominance and masculine woman. She made me look at women with disgust.
Until i found god. Godless people act godlessly. But a girl with god in her heart, that is gold.

[Rohaan2020]

Men are mostly not that judgemental… ofcourse if he had a bad experience in past he’ll be careful for some time but after you have gained his trust then he’ll luv you like a princess… but yes the man has to be good too and not just a player or something…

[Shiprex]

Is that what you want? A life alone?

Are you like the stereotypical woman that you think men are avoiding or do you have any redeeming qualities?

[Asker]

Yes I want to be alone. And I’m hoping men can respect that and don’t approach me.

[Shiprex]

If you're in a space where men are that could be difficult then. Humanity is a social existence and it's not yet possible to read minds and avoid contact with others. IF it's not wanted then a firm polite rebuttal of advances is all it takes mostly BUT there may be some who become persistent so be aware that this cannot be guaranteed and how to get out of that situation may be helped by seeking OTHERS around you to approach and help you. Most good men will step in to help a stranger woman who asks seriously for help.

[Asker]

I don’t know about that, to be honest. Even the good men stay away from women. Whether she does need help.

[Shiprex]

For sure now men are far more skeptical about helping women as we've been told to leave them alone and don't interfere as some are traps that are there to get the guy isolated and rob him. BUT I was suggesting strategies when you find yourself with an annoying twit who won't stop pestering and as a woman you're likely unable to physically stop them yourself. Like I watched a clip of a woman who'd approached a random guy in a store and whispered in her ear to pretend to be her husband (brother/cousin/colleague and told him she was being followed by some guy and felt uncomfortable. This stranger bit right away and acted like she wanted and approached the dude to scare him off. THAT kind of gesture is something most men would absolutely spring into protection mode though some may avoid confrontation if you were just to ask for their help and explain the situation.
Don't forget it's still men who go into burning buildings and disaster zones to get people out and there are more of us out there than not.

[Asker]

Never had a guy do that for me. And I honestly don’t see that happening because men still get told to be wary and don’t interfere.
As for men running into burning buildings and such, that’s their jobs if they’re on a rescue team.

[Shiprex]

That is't invariably men doing that running into danger for others and being the tip of the spear when it comes to risking life and limb should be something that is closer to a trait men inherently have in many cases.
The scenario I painted was when you're in a situation where someone is pestering you that makes you want help. That asking a bystander to do something to act in a way to help you out is a leap of faith that women can generally rely on to end a troublesome interaction with someone.

[ChicoFromThe305]

If he's a smart man he would only date you if he had faith you were different than the ones that act the same

[Asker]

Nah, he would be skeptical of me too.

[ChicoFromThe305]

Only one way to find out

[Asker]

Thing is I’ve seen how men are with their partners. Even if their lady is well trusted, they’re still skeptical. And I don’t want to go down that road.

[ChicoFromThe305]

It's a world where people cheat a lot, people still don't want to get cheated on, I think as long as you can show you are trusting, you'll be alright

[Asker]

What if it’s not enough?

[ChicoFromThe305]

Why wouldn't it be

[Asker]

Especially, if the guy was mistreated, it’ll never be enough. Or if he watched his loved ones get mistreated by women.

[ChicoFromThe305]

I think that all depends on the person they are currently with, people are different and some people can change people

[sirderpsalot123]

Very weird

[Asker]

Well, it’s for a very good cause so who am I hurting? 🤷‍♀️

[sirderpsalot123]

I guess lol I don't care what you do