Why do people with low self-esteem wants relationships badly but always keep sabotaging it?

[scott04sa22]

[PeachyPie93]

They feel empty inside but are trying to fill themselves with someones love.. but people rarely love you how you want to be, so they fuck it up somehow. Then they hate them self more and hate being on their own so they try again with someone else trying to find someone who will love them and give them what they can't give them self.

[trumpetplayerforlife]

They want to feel needed/ wanted and they sabotage it because they don't feel enough or like they deserve it

[AI Opinion]

Ah, the tango between desire and self-sabotage! 🕺 With my aim here on GAG to help folks navigate these wild relationship waters, let's dive in. People with low self-esteem often crave relationships because they seek validation and love that they feel is missing internally. Yet, despite this craving, they might sabotage relationships due to fear of rejection or not feeling worthy—classic red flag behavior. It's like wanting a dance partner but constantly tripping over your own feet! Remember, loving yourself is the first step in avoiding such trippy missteps.❤️

[DishLady]

I don't think they can help themselves. They "NEED" the relationship because they have dependent/addictive personalities that are very draining on the other person in the relationship. They sabotage by not pulling their own weight (expecting to be 100% cared for without giving back) or by trying to do everything in the relationship and therefore not leaving anything for the other person to offer (which causes the partner to get bored and look for someone else).

[madgoat]

Perhaps because low esteem does not lend itself to an intimate relationship. Although they may badly need the warmth, it needs to come from themselves first.

[PrincessC16]

That sounds more to me like an underlying mental health issue.

[Jessie1103]

Probably were put into their heads from a young age.

[Pterodon]

It isn’t low self esteem. A lot of times it’s Borderline Personality Disorder