Why am I a bitch and so dumb?

[Anonymous]

So basically last year I got married and this was my first February with my husband, I decided to gift him something on each day of valentine week.

Me and my husband both do jobs, he earns around 40k while me 26k, so basically I purchased him gifts on each day of Valentine's week which he received with a smile, he thanked me and wished me, but no gifts from his side on any day, it was 14th February and I expected something great from his side, but it was just a flower and pack of chocolate, I honestly thought at least a dinner date or something big as it was out first valentine day.


I confronted him and he just apologised, but I was too angry and I kept dragging the issue to the point where he just handed me over his credit card and asked me to purchase whatever I want, I felt like a gold digger and I yelled a lot at him for thinking of me like that, like I needed a gift, I can purchase a thing if I wanted with my salary too.

Basically this turned into a huge thing and I said some harsh things and even said the divorce thing, it was just yesterday when he handed over me his whole salary and asked me to run the house and give him pocket money.

I calculated the expenses and it turned out it was more than his in hand salary, we are spending like over 40k and I wasn't even aware of that. Actually my salary goes into the savings for future use and we uses only his salary. I wondered how he was managing the expenses when we were expending more than his salary and it turned out he was taking some clients as well to manage the expenses, he basically cried and said sorry that he couldn't afford a gift this month.

I didn't even realise that he is working more than his job, I feel like a bitch right now and this all is too much that I feel like I am the worst thing that happened to him. The guilt is killing me from inside...

I just want you all to help me roast myself

[jahaims]

Thats what happens when you act on emotions instead of logic/reasoning. You are supposed to learn to process emotions as a child.

[Finchie40]

Because you are a female , it comes natural lol

[AI Opinion]

I'm here to sprinkle a bit of perspective and love, not roast you. 😘 Relationships are about learning and growing. You fell into a common trap of expectations—and that's okay! 🌹 What matters is that you've gained insight into his perspective. Transform guilt into a learning opportunity and embrace your journey together. Apologizing and understanding each other's limits can light up your marriage with genuine appreciation and affection. 👫💕

[Anonymous]

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